Gender mess

mud

“It is not so much compromise that is called for but a greater wisdom and vision.” Years ago, I heard this wisdom from the famous evangelical preacher, Chuck Swindoll: ”Creativity is messy.” He was right: almost all creativity, from a first draft of a novel to finger-paint to sex, is messy. It involves differences and distinctions as well as sameness and connections.  In Genesis 1, God separated this and that and gathered the other to make our earth. So, it is no surprise … [Read more...]

Positive change, negative response

hard things

"If we can muster the courage for the initial choice, we expect affirmation and blessing." It is a moment of being invited to grow up.  It is usually an unwelcome invitation. When we make a difficult but wise choice, something in us expects that the world will rise up and bless us. And sometimes that does happen: Mary’s sign from the angel was Elizabeth’s encouraging proclamation. But sometimes… not so much. We are looking for affirmation and we get complaint. It happened to … [Read more...]

How to love a fool

grackle

"When we live in close relationship with fools, so often we take on their shame as if it were our own." I’ve spoken with a lot of folks lately who are suffering greatly as they try to figure out what it means to love someone caught in foolishness.  Some are dealing with addictions (of all sorts). Some with long-standing and destructive generational patterns. Some are even trying to find better ways of relating to the foolish parts within themselves. It is a tricky reality because so often … [Read more...]

A different conversation

persistence jd

"Let’s talk stories. My guess is that we all have a story of a woman whose leadership or teaching has changed our lives." There seems to be a lot out there in the blogosphere on women and leadership these days. Thankfully the tenor seems to be transitioning from the polarizing extremes to some very thoughtful discourse. Rachel Held Evans Harriet Congdon Julie Clawson For some reason though, I am realizing that the conversation being offered isn’t the one I’m most drawn … [Read more...]

Renaming myself

sprout

"Giving words and voice to ourselves allows us to step into our own lives more fully, to live more abundantly from our center." I find myself taking a new name today: blogger. Now that doesn’t mean I haven’t been blogging for a while now.  In fact, I want to offer a special welcome to all my Sister-friends who have been on this journey with me for sometime.  It is simply that I’ve never owned the name.  I have never paid enough attention to what I am doing to discover a new aspect … [Read more...]


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