Looking for the Living

deep waters

I had the pleasure of being a part of an ordination service a few weeks ago at Christ Church Cathedral in Houston.   It was a lovely space and a wonderful service. Walking in, a friend and I commented on how you could smell the history of this place… the beautiful aged wood and generations of incense and prayer.  Somewhere in the process of the service, I noticed a beautiful stained glass window behind the altar. Though the image I offer you now is not very good (I really need a class in … [Read more...]

Happy New Year!

angel

"In life, suffering does not seem to be optional. Suffering in silence, however, does." Today is the first day of the new church year and so a great time for new beginnings. As regular readers of this blog (well, better said, those who have attempted to read the non-existent regularly posted content) you have likely noticed that this blog has suffered from a very neglectful mother. I could offer several reasons for my neglect, and may over time, but presently I’m a bit tired of my own … [Read more...]

Meeting myself again for the first time

moist and green

Something is up.  I’m not sure what, but something is up. I just get the feeling. Maybe it’s Jesus’ wisdom “To whom much is given, much is required.” (Luke 12:48) I love my work right now; it is a gift. Yet, the question rises: what might be shifting? I love my husband of 33 years. He is a gift. Is my marriage changing,too? I love our children and new granddaughter.  They are gifts. How can I love them better? Interestingly, this trip is a gift that my work and calling … [Read more...]

Self-compassion and unconditional love

oregon wet

“...will we dare to grow up… into the one who extends the unconditional love and deep compassion of Jesus to ourselves?” I have recently been re-reading The Return of the Prodigal by Henri Nouwen, a thoughtful book reflecting on the story of the prodigal son through the lens of Rembrandt’s painting of the same.  Nouwen places himself inside each of the characters in that story and offers some wonderful reflections on the love of God. The part of the book that has caught my … [Read more...]

Crazy like Jesus

mimosa

“The soul of society is law; the soul of community is love.” -Roberto Rossellini About a year ago, I was at a women’s retreat where one of the icebreaker questions for Friday evening was something like, “Who do you want to be when you grow up?” As we went from woman to woman, a bit of a theme emerged, many saying in one way or another that they hoped to become a “crazy old woman” as they aged.  Though those responses were obviously humorous, I think they also … [Read more...]

Self-compassion and limitations

Georgia

"The moments when we meet our limitations are often the times when we struggle the most with self-compassion." It has been an exciting week in the Davis household. On Tuesday, we welcomed our first grand child, Georgia Lynn Burleson-Davis.  Isn’t she beautiful? Though 3 weeks earlier than we anticipated, her birth went marvelously well and her parents are taking spectacular care of her… so my husband and I are trying to support them in their many sleepless nights with meals and a … [Read more...]

Self-compassion and resistance

camellia

"We tend to believe that we welcome compassion; that the world could never have enough.  At the same time, we often resist compassion,..." She was my first introduction to these thoughts on our resistance to compassion.  I have to admit that every time I read the words of this early review of my most recent book, My Own Worst Enemy, I still flinch.  “Out of everything that I disagreed with the most in this book I can't complete this review without stating that adultery is NEVER … [Read more...]

Positive change, negative response

hard things

"If we can muster the courage for the initial choice, we expect affirmation and blessing." It is a moment of being invited to grow up.  It is usually an unwelcome invitation. When we make a difficult but wise choice, something in us expects that the world will rise up and bless us. And sometimes that does happen: Mary’s sign from the angel was Elizabeth’s encouraging proclamation. But sometimes… not so much. We are looking for affirmation and we get complaint. It happened to … [Read more...]

God’s love: the source of self-compassion

yellow rose

“Self-compassion allows us to access a safe space of love and belonging in the midst of our imperfection because it is sourced in a Love beyond ourselves.” My own journey toward self-compassion began with a simple observation from a passage of scripture I’ve known for a long time: Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the … [Read more...]


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