Gay and Catholic: What’s Not to Love?

Eve Tushnet's new book Gay and Catholic is this month's Patheos book club book, so you can see a pile of reviews and comments here.  I give it a nearly-unqualified Buy recommend. What is this book? Gay and Catholic is a combination memoir, meditation, and how-to manual for both Catholics who experience same-sex attraction and the people who love them (or ought to).  Think Catholic Nerd Girl's heart-to-heart about life, the Church, and everything.  It's funny, it's literary, and there's som … [Read more...]

Adultery is Not the Only Option: Five Things You Can Do to Keep Your Vows Intact

Deacon Greg Kandra writes about a recent NY Times piece on priests who forsake their vows, and the women who help them do it.  You would think from the way people talk that there's something about a man in holy orders that just makes him irresistible. It's as if there's a force field emanating from that Roman collar that disables free will: Don't get too close, ladies, or you might have no choice but to fall in love! Well, the don't get too close part may be true, anyway.  But that's not bec … [Read more...]

You know you’ve done *something* right when . . .

. . . We're in the truck, and the middle-schooler makes some remark to me mentioning birth control -- comment on the news, an advertisement, something a friend said, I can't remember what.  Eight-year-old eavesdropper in the back seat asks, "What's birth control?"I avoid choking and give a low-key answer, along the lines of, "It's a drug or device used to make it so your body can't have babies, or has a hard time having babies."End of discussion, we move on, middle-schooler picks up with … [Read more...]

#Synod14 – Prostitute Nation and a Jar of Perfume

If you want to understand the clerical food fight portion of this month's Synod on the Family, what you need to know about is sexting.Not the Catholic kind, the other kind.Your must-read article for this month is The Atlantic's feature Why Kids Sext.  It's long, and you should read the whole thing.Points to ponder as you do so:Louisa County is normal America.  There's nothing "different" that explains why there was suddenly a website full of students' naked images running on I … [Read more...]

What California Consent Teaches Us About Women’s Needs


There's some exasperated amusement in St. Blogs over the new California laws concerning sexual consent on campus.We can learn about the human heart from doubtful laws.   Implicit in this law is the question, "Are you sure you want to do this?"Why do we ask that question?Because we know that sex outside of marriage is bad for women.If sex were, as corners of our contemporary culture so desperately insist, just this thing you do, a way to relax, a hobby, the new handshake, the … [Read more...]

Women Demystified: To Love Her is to Tell Her How Beautiful She Is

My daughter is in middle school, and I enjoy going clothes shopping with her.  How did such a thing ever come to pass?  That's what I'm writing about this month at's clarify before you click:There is nothing you can do as a parent to take away your child's free will. Therefore, you can do everything "right" and still have a kid who's a nightmare to shop with, and who fights with you tooth and nail over your terrible, no-good, very bad judgment on appropriate c … [Read more...]

Why is Gay Marriage the Catholic No-Go?

Andrew Sullivan writes here about the plight of a pair of gentleman who've been asked to step out of the communion line at their Catholic parish on account of their recent same-sex civil union.  Sullivan's observations are about typical for those who are mystified over the Church's reaction on this topic.  I'd like therefore to review some of the myths concerning Catholic teaching on same-sex attraction and Church participation, because the reality is both more extreme and not nearly as extreme a … [Read more...]