Annulments, Divorce, Remarriage: We’ve Got it All Backwards

The Synod for the Family is coming up, and one of the vexing problems it hopes to address is the situation of Catholic bigamists and polygamists.Vocabulary review:Digamy is the act of marrying again after one's spouse has died, and is a topic that comes up among the early Church Fathers with respect to clergy marriage.  It's a non-issue for the laity (us normal people who aren't ordained), but it's fun to say out loud, so everyone should know what it means. Bigamy is the act of m … [Read more...]

When your marriage is in dire straits . . . there’s a book for that.

It is with great joy that I pass onto you the news of Dr. Greg Popcak's latest book release When Divorce Is Not an Option: How to Heal Your Marriage and Nurture Everlasting Love.  I haven't read it yet, but it's on my wish list.  There's a huge void in the marriage literature between the cliffs of Marriage is Wonderful!  and Better Luck Next Time!  I'm glad to see Dr. Greg making a stab at filling that chasm. You can read more about it here. *** Lest we forget the Catechism doe … [Read more...]

Speaking of Sex . . . Learn How to Think About Sex

You were probably thinking, "I already think about sex enough, thank you very much."But how well were you thinking about sex?If your sex-thinking needs improvement -- perhaps it needs more rigor, thoroughness, or clarity . . . consider signing up for Family Honor's online college course, The Truth and Meaning of Sexuality, Love & Family: Cultural Implications.  The Fall 2014 session begins August 15th, and registration closes August 8th.My husband and I took this course together, … [Read more...]

NFP Tip #3: Learn It Before You Need It

It's NFP Awareness Week.   Perhaps you aren't aware of NFP at all.  You should be.  It's the first line of recourse for infertility, and among the most effective.  For avoiding pregnancy, it's pretty simple: 100% of contraceptive failures occur on days when you're fertile.  If you are serious about not getting pregnant, you're pretty much asking for a wiggly, cuddly little surprise if you insist on ignoring your fertility and just hoping the factory did a  bang-up job with your particular box of … [Read more...]

NFP Tip #2: If At First You Don’t Succeed, Learn Another Method

It's NFP Awareness Week.   You might be thinking, "I am aware of how wonderful, marriage-building, and personally-affirming NFP is.  I love, love, love NFP.  Doesn't everybody?"Well, no, not everybody loves, loves, loves it.But if you have a serious reason to avoid pregnancy, it's still pretty much your best bet.   (There are a few cases where the 100% method is better.  Very few, but they happen.)Likewise, if you are trying to conceive, NFP should be your method of first resort. {Cue … [Read more...]

NFP Tip #1: Learn from a Real Live Human

It's NFP Awareness Week.  We are aware.  Fifteen years aware, which I think in NFP years is about 387 years. We've used NFP both to conceive and to avoid pregnancy.  It works, and it's good for your body and good for your marriage.NFP can also be frustrating, and there are some things you can do to make it less frustrating and more successful.  Hence my list of NFP tips. I'll start with #1 today and work my way through the list.  You'll have seen most of these other places-- not because I'm c … [Read more...]

Sinning Bravely: Start Like You Mean to Finish

Some time ago, my husband went to confession with a particularly thorny sin on his soul.  The kind that he wanted to avoid, and yet seemed to be utterly unable to shake.  Father used an expression that we both contemplated thereafter at long intervals: Sin bravely.Apparently it's a Lutheran thing, and I assure the scandalized reader that Father B. is neither Lutheran nor proposing that we go through life with sin as our goal.Rather, I inferred, in the battle against sin, we stay in the fi … [Read more...]