Why don’t we play well?

Tyler Braun, asking why Christians don’t play well with one another:

So how can we turn this around? What do we need to do in order to disagree with our brothers and sisters in love?

First, we need to understand that the underlying theme that allows for disagreement to happen in a healthy way is emotional intelligence. Emotional intelligence can be simply defined as seeking to understand before being understood. It’s human nature to fight for your supposed “right” to an opinion and your supposed “right” to be heard. But the reigning mark of our faith is not holding on to our personal rights, but offering our Christ-reflective unconditional love. It’s easier hoard the opportunity to push someone else down than to sacrifice your right to be heard. But to uphold the name of love, this is often the harder, better way.

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  • Adam

    I think there’s also a tendency to focus on the guy who is “wrong” in the next town over than to focus on the guy who is in need right in front of me.

  • mhelbert

    “seeking to understand before being understood”
    The prayer ascribed to St. Francis states this very thing. We could probably learn a lot from him that would go a long way toward playing nice.