What is Love?

Sonja Lyubomirsky’s principal statements about love follow: She distinguishes “new” love from “companionate” love… What is love? How does she define love?  American and European researchers tracked 1,761 people who got married and stayed married over the course of 15 years. The findings were clear: newlyweds enjoy a big happiness boost that lasts, on average, [Read More...]

Complementarianism and Darwinism

The facts are clear: Charles Darwin sketched animal behavior, and one good example is that of how male and female pheasants interacted, in the mode of Victorian theories of the relation of the sexes. Stephen C. Barton, in his excellent essays on “Interpreting Gender After Darwin” (in Reading Genesis After Darwin), quotes Cynthia Russett’s well-known study [Read More...]

Four Relationship Defeaters

From Barking Up the Wrong Tree: How can he tell who will split up? There are a number of indicators but at the core of Gottman’s research are “ The Four Horsemen.” These are the four things that indicate a marriage apocalypse is on its way: Criticism – Complaints are fine. Criticism is more global — it [Read More...]

What Would You Say?

A letter from a writer, appropriately edited to bury identification: The question is open for you: What would you advise? I have debated with myself for some while in regard to whether or not to send you this query. I am sure you receive many of these sorts of emails, and am quite comfortable with [Read More...]

Safe Sex: Is there such a thing?

Michael Hidalgo says No. (Follow his twitter feed here: @michaelhidalgo) Here is his post: We have to stop talking about “Safe Sex,” and instead talk about the beauty of risky sex. No, this is not some dark, twisted fantasy. It’s just a more honest way of speaking about sexuality, because all sex is risky. The [Read More...]

Birth Control

Albert Mohler, President of Southern Seminary, opens up a big bag of issues in his post on birth control and the evangelical. What are the issues here? Is this a moral problem for evangelicals? Do you think this is a problem? What is your view on birth control? The effective separation of sex from procreation [Read More...]

The Goodness of Singleness

Tim and Kathy Keller buck a trend that I have heard in the last decade, and that trend is that if you are single at 27 or 28 or 29, you are out of God’s will. Their contention is that since the Ultimate Marriage is our union with Christ, then marriage and singleness are both [Read More...]

That Word

Kathy Keller defines “submission” so much it no longer means submission. Which is just the point. Jesus did too. (But I have to say that when that word submission is defined this way one has to wonder if the term no longer has value.) It was beyond wise for the Kellers, in their book The [Read More...]

Yes, Call it what it is: Patriarchy

For a long time I have said a number of times that I don’t like either “complementarian” or “egalitarian,” since the former is not really what is meant and the latter is too tied into modernity. I only begrudgingly accept egalitarian and prefer the term “mutuality.” So, what Rachel Held Evans said recently is precisely [Read More...]

Cracks in the Bridge

From a distance the bridge looks healthy, even attractive. Up close, and under the eyes of a careful observer, the bridge has cracks. If the cracks are attended to in the right way at the right time, the bridge can sustain itself — even get stronger. If not attended to, the cracks can bring the [Read More...]


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