Emotional Modesty

From Holly Gerth, a conversation starter: A few weeks ago a friend of mine were chatting. Her husband is in a leadership role at a church and she shared how women often confide in him in ways that are personal. That led us to a discussion about how easy it is to share your heart [Read More...]

Marriage Pitfalls (by Jim Martin)

My good friend, Jim Martin, VP at Harding Graduate School, wrote this up the other day: Most of us need at least one of these; some of us more than one. 1.  Beware of ignoring your wife’s spiritual development while you focus on feeding yourself and the congregation.  A ministry couple can easily drift apart [Read More...]

Ann’s Encouraging Words

From Ann Voskamp: There’s a world that wants to force women into smothering plastic molds and whisper that she wants to be a shape and not free. There’s a relentless refrain that wants to cage women into polished skin, into glossy boxes, into cheap ornaments and tell her that she really wants this, they know [Read More...]

What is Love?

Stephen Post: Love manifests itself in different ways, all of which are necessary and useful. If love is the hub of a wheel, its spokes point outwards according to the needs of the beloved. There are at least ten modulations or forms that love takes. Celebration is love affirming the lives and achievements of others; Helping is [Read More...]

Can We Read One Another’s Minds? Andrew Root Says Yes

We all know the experience of the irresistible nature of yawning — when someone we loves yawns we yawn right back. Somewhere I read that those with good skills of empathy yawn when others in a room yawn while those with low skills in empathy don’t yawn back. Yawning, then, is a starting point to [Read More...]

The Marriage Issue

David Frum may well have it nailed: The marriage issue, Frum is arguing, needs to be fought at the level of getting people married and getting people to stay married. So should the Christian leadership focus on marriage and love and fidelity? Washington (CNN) – The Supreme Court will hear arguments this week in two same-sex marriage [Read More...]

The Brownson Challenge

At the heart of the traditional view of same-sex relations is “gender complementarity.” That is, men and women are designed by God physically and constitutionally to complement one another. Often gender complementarity is connected to hierarchy but most often the connection is anatomical. James V. Brownson challenges gender complementarity in his new book, Bible, Gender and [Read More...]

Marriage Tension: Chores

From WENDY KLEIN, CAROLINA IZQUIERDO, & THOMAS N. BRADBURY: Insightful. Couples are composed of individuals who coordinate their behaviors in relation to one another. In working families—where both adults work outside the home and raise school-aged children—the challenge of coordinating behaviors to meet family needs is especially great. The emotional tone of family life pivots to [Read More...]

Relationships Have Changed

This old piece from Esquire magazine from 1949 shows how much has changed. This can go in several directions for conversation, but what this illustrates at least is that perceptions of the attractiveness etc change over time. One wonders what will happen to what we think is attractive today… the same… in a generation it [Read More...]

What Men Want

From USAToday: [Read more...]