The romance of commitment

The romance of commitment

Men are justifiably famous for lacking commitment, enjoying irresponsibility and freedom as long as we can reasonably stretch it, and oftentimes several yards past that. One manifestation of this artful dodge is that marriage ages have gone up and up in recent decades along with the cohabitation stats. … [Read more...]

How marriage works on you

How Marriage Works on You

I've written in the past about the mystery of marriage, how it transforms its participants. That's part of its very purpose, to conform us to the image of Christ and deepen our communion with God. I've still got a long way to go and, as they say, results may vary, but here are three positive ways that marriage to Megan has begun to change me. 1. Learning to love better The more circumstances require you to love like Christ, the more like Christ you become. That's the hope at least … [Read more...]

What a good wife gets you

Megan!

A smile when you step through the door A hug when you head back out Mercy when you don't deserve it An embrace when you really need it Someone who will pray for you Someone who will tell you no A friend to share the better moments A partner to ride out the lesser ones Laughter, affection, home Warmth, surprise, support Kind words, wise words, funny words Hard words, soft words, sweet words Welcome indulgence Necessary resistance Encouragement Astounding intelligence and … [Read more...]

The sanctifying power of marriage

Icon of the wedding feast at Cana

When I think of marriage I think of grace, particularly the phrase “grace for the moment.” Marriage requires grace every moment if it’s going to be what God desires it to be. Thankfully, God extends his grace to us through marriage. Historically speaking, the church has always recognized marriage as a sacrament. This is important to understand when speaking of the mystery of marriage, as Paul does in Ephesians. The words “mystery” and “sacrament” are synonymous. The first is … [Read more...]

The lost mystery of marriage

The Mystery of Marriage

Ask a person what they think about marriage in society today, and they’ll probably say that the institution isn’t looking too pretty. Yes, the divorce rate has steadily declined over the last thirty years in the U.S., but so has the number of people getting married in the first place. More and more couples are choosing to live together unwed, while domestic partnerships and gay-marriage initiatives challenge the traditional purpose and place of marriage entirely. Various versions of … [Read more...]

Marriage and the sacrament of joint checking

Money

Marriage has the power to make you better or worse as a person, and nothing proves the point as quickly as money. You can become the very worst version of yourself while looking over bank statements with your spouse. (Been there.) Disagreements and rifts build over issues like overspending, hidden habits, unequal responsibilities, and overwhelming debt. No surprise that financial discord is at the root of many divorces. But what if a bank statement could make you the best version of yourself, … [Read more...]

Making our castle part of God’s kingdom

Even the laundry room is God's

G.K. Chesterton said that a person’s house is the one place in the world where they can still be unruly and do whatever they please. A homeowner “can put the carpet on the ceiling and the slates on the floor if he wants to,” said Chesterton, and barring modern contrivances like neighborhood covenants and restrictions, that’s still about right. In the streets, there are the police. At work, there is the boss. But at home, there is just you. Don’t forget the connection between the … [Read more...]


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