“Seven Reasons Women Stay in Abusive Relationships”: paperback, Kindle sale, review

I’m very pleased to announce that my Seven Reasons Women Stay in Abusive Relationships and How to Defeat Each One of Them is now available in paperback for $7.99.

Also, the Kindle edition of this book is also now on sale, down from $7.99 to $4.99. Seven Reasons is also available as a NookBook.

Sarah Strong is executive director of Not This Girl, an organization whose mission is to “support those affected by sexual and domestic violence through empowerment, resources, creating awareness and encouraging change.” I knew that Ms. Strong had read Seven Reasons, so when it was ready to go in paperback I asked if she might say about it whatever she liked. Below is her response.

I have lived Seven Reasonsall seven reasons, some for longer periods of time than others, and a few more than once. Because I have survived this type of violence—years of domestic abuse ending with a brutal sexual assault—I am a cynical reader of such books. I have little use for trite observations.

How I wish I had found Seven Reasons before  . . .  before when? I ask myself that as I re-read each reason John so accurately writes about. Before that guy, this problem, that choice, this pain—but mostly before I let my young daughter learn some of my habits. Because this book meets women wherever they are at, I’m sure there are countless times when its words could have changed my life. And what could my life have been if my father had read and shared this book with me, if he had talked with me about these things before I began to date?

Victims of abusive relationships often find themselves feeling alone, wounded, and far from where they thought life would take them. Healing and the road back to stability is often confusing, chaotic and long. As a map does a lonely traveler, Seven Reasons brings perspective, clarity, practical advice, and comfort to the lost. A short book, it does not overwhelm already exhausted minds. Full of direction and advice shared without a condescending or preachy tone, Mr. Shore speaks from a place of compassion.

Healthy doesn’t happen overnight, and Seven Reasons is a book worth carrying the length of the journey, if not for your personal walk toward healing, then for someone you love. As my daughter approaches her preteen years, I’ll be sharing my copy of Seven Reasons with her, and we’ll discuss where on my journey I found this map.

Seven Reasons speaks truths few authors have been able to isolate, understand, and articulate in such a compassionate and solution-focused way. Thank you for your work, John Shore.

The print edition of Seven Reasons was designed by Dan Wilkinson (who also designed this website). As you may know, book page design is a fantastic (and increasingly lost) art. I’m proud to say the pages of this book are done as well as in any book you’ve ever seen. (And, trust me, I would know.)

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About John Shore

John Shore (who, fwiw, is straight) is the author of UNFAIR: Christians and the LGBT Question, and three other great books. He is founder of Unfundamentalist Christians (on Facebook here), and executive editor of the Unfundamentalist Christians group blog.  (In total John's two blogs receive some 250,000 views per month.) John is also co-founder of The NALT Christians Project, which was written about by TIME,  The Washington Post, and others. His website is JohnShore.com. John is a pastor ordained by The Progressive Christian Alliance. You're invited to like John's Facebook page. And don't forget to sign up for his mucho awesome monthly newsletter.

  • http://wilkinsonweb.com Dan Wilkinson

    Thanks for your kind words :)

  • http://allegro63.wordpress.com sdparris

    A copy of that book should be found in the waiting room of every gynecologist office, in the lobbies of health departments, WIC offices and other social service offices that assist women, children, families. Well you get the gist.

  • Andrea Sutton via Facebook

    I still give you kudos for writing this article and I had just mentioned it to a fellow/mutual “friend” on facebook of ours. With this article I had an epiphany and cried for 24 hours….I think that you wrote this article about 2 years ago? I left with my suitcase, makeup and laptop….now I own my own little abode, have a steady job…and still recovering, but…..google is a wonderful thing…..:) Thanks and God Bless…

  • aquestion

    See how little sympathy for women. Who cares if they get beat up. Not your fans

    What group is it that’s sucking up all the sympathy, crying waah waah?

    • DR

      You are emotionally disturbed to say such a thing. Either that or just a very poor reader.

      • Melody

        No [kidding]. Somebody is a serious misanthrope.

    • http://allegro63.wordpress.com sdparris

      Read that comment and had my first “WTF ???” of the day.

    • Wendy

      Wow, just wow…you’re a pretty sad and pathetic person, aren’t you?

      • Melody

        Yup. Misery loves company, after all.

    • Allie

      The reason this has fewer responses than many of John’s other posts is two-fold: first, many of his regular readers have already read the book and own it, and second, pretty much everyone agrees that women should not be beaten. If a bunch of trolls came on and argued that women should stay in abusive relationships in the way that trolls come on to argue that gay people are sinful, you would find the crowd here as ready to fight for women as they are to fight for gay people.

      • http://Www.unnameablecuriosity.wordpress.com Christine

        Yes, thank you. Comments will follow the controversy, always. Just look at the comments generated by that one statement. :)

      • Diana A.

        That was what Aquestion was complaining about? I had trouble understanding his/her issue. Thanks for the clarification.

  • Baltezaar

    Does the book focus solely on physical abuse, or is it easily applicable to emotionally abusive relationships? I know someone who could benefit from a book on the latter (she is in an emotionally manipulative and abusive relationship, though there is no physical abuse occurring).

    • http://www.patheos.com/blogs/johnshore/ John Shore

      Both, and I’m not just saying that. It’s woven into the book, because it’s … well, that important.

      • Baltezaar

        Another question, if I can ask – does the book take a stance on staying in the relationship (i.e., rehabilitating the abuser)? I don’t mean to ask this in such a confrontational way, but does the book take a “no divorce except in extreme cases” approach, or is it more fluid than that?

        • http://www.patheos.com/blogs/johnshore/ John Shore

          It assumes the abuser is not going to change, and that the person being abused should get out of that relationship, now, and not look back. But it also recognizes—well, the seven reasons that can be so difficult.

          • Baltezaar

            Again, thanks. Good to hear. I’ve looked at a bunch of books on Amazon, and was frankly distressed at how many seemed geared at changing the abuser rather than helping the abused draw firm boundaries and make healthy decisions.


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