My dad died today

Hi, guys. Some of you have been with me for a long time, so I thought I’d share with you that today my father, Norman John Shore, died. He was 86 years old. I’ve written a bit about him here on my blog, but of course never scraped the surface of who he was, and certainly not of who he was to me.

He was a good man who taught me to be a good man. That’s the bottom line. Also, for me, is this far from irrelevant fact: he was, hands down, the funniest person I’ve ever met. I talked to him about two weeks ago. He’d moved into an assisted care facility, the grounds of which he wasn’t allowed to leave on his own. By way of sharing how intolerable he found the place (“There’s nobody in here but old people!” he complained) he riffed into this extensive, discursive, spectacularly articulate and sublimely timed routine for me, about how his new mission in life was to badger and guilt the Social Director of the old folks’ home into realizing the depth of her professional obligation to accept his bribe of one million dollars, in exchange for allowing him to slip out the gate so that he might, if only for the day, recover for himself something resembling an actual social life—whereupon, the moment she had relented, he would hastily hobble to the Von’s store across the street, and buy himself a ham sandwich on rye.

“Hey,” he said. “I take my comfort where I can.”

Gotdang that guy was funny. I’m telling you, I laughed till I cried.

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About John Shore

John Shore (who, fwiw, is straight) is the author of UNFAIR: Christians and the LGBT Question, and three other great books. He is founder of Unfundamentalist Christians (on Facebook here), and executive editor of the Unfundamentalist Christians group blog.  (In total John's two blogs receive some 250,000 views per month.) John is also co-founder of The NALT Christians Project, which was written about by TIME,  The Washington Post, and others. His website is JohnShore.com. John is a pastor ordained by The Progressive Christian Alliance. You're invited to like John's Facebook page. And don't forget to sign up for his mucho awesome monthly newsletter.

  • http://krethtunez.biz Randy Creath

    Hang in there, John! I’m thinking of you and yours!

  • http://www.facebook.com/jl.h.linnell Jl Hatlen Linnell via Facebook

    Very sorry, John!

  • SandraOr John Barry Hall via Facebook

    So sorry …. beautifully written!

  • Eva Neil via Facebook

    So very sorry for your loss. :(

  • http://www.facebook.com/revrannulf Randy Creath via Facebook

    Hang in there, John!!

  • Rebecca Harrison via Facebook

    Prayers of peace and comfort for you and your family, John. It’s clear the acorn didn’t fall too far from the tree.

  • Joycelyn Dixson Rose via Facebook

    Praying for you!

  • Jennifer Vance

    So sorry for your loss, John.

  • Nat Navide via Facebook

    :(

  • http://www.facebook.com/RyanMarotta Ryan Marotta via Facebook

    I’m so sorry John. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

  • Nat Navide via Facebook

    :(

  • http://www.facebook.com/ashley.anderson.9212 Ashley Anderson via Facebook

    I’m sorry for you loss John. hugs

  • http://www.facebook.com/RStevens43 Rhonda Stevens via Facebook

    I am sorry to hear this John, praying for you and your family.

  • Michelle P.

    I am so sorry for your loss, Mr.Shore.

  • http://www.facebook.com/maggie.britton Maggie Leigh Britton via Facebook

    Thinking of you and your family.

  • Jill Joiner via Facebook

    My heartfelt sympathies John Shore.

  • Lymis

    John, that’s hard. I’m so sorry. You are in my prayers.

  • David Earle via Facebook

    Praying for you and your family; very sorry for your loss.

  • David Earle via Facebook

    Praying for you and your family; very sorry for your loss.

  • Janell Oelrich-Schreiber via Facebook

    My heartfelt sympathy, John. I can only guess at how you already miss him- he sounds like a fantastic guy. That reunion, someday, is going to be full of stories and laughs..in the meantime, know you are held in this Heretic’s prayers.

  • Janell Oelrich-Schreiber via Facebook

    My heartfelt sympathy, John. I can only guess at how you already miss him- he sounds like a fantastic guy. That reunion, someday, is going to be full of stories and laughs..in the meantime, know you are held in this Heretic’s prayers.

  • Sally Eyman Price via Facebook

    So sorry.

  • Sally Eyman Price via Facebook

    So sorry.

  • http://www.facebook.com/earl.harville Earl Harville via Facebook

    Praying God’s blessing on you and your family after this loss.

  • http://www.dianasterling.com Diana

    Blessings to you and Heaven Bound to your dad.

    Onward.. PS I see where your wit comes from now…

    Diana

  • http://www.facebook.com/keith.mozingo.7 Keith Mozingo via Facebook

    Prayers your way. So sorry.

  • http://www.theeternaldance.blogspot.com Lynelle

    Blessings to you and yours, John.

    I’m so grateful you had the wonderful father you did, because he is such a beautiful part of who you are.

    Thank you for sharing aspects of him with us.

  • Prakasha Capen via Facebook

    Loving prayers to you and all the family.

  • Grant

    Oh John. Oh John. Oh John.

    How I feel for you but also smile at your shared memory of your Dad.

    He died on the day that Jesus was baptized. He died on the day in which we are all called to remember our baptism and God’s grace, God’s presence, God’s call to us.

    Your Dad lives forevermore just as Christ does.

    May you, Cat and your families rest in joy and comfort in the days to come.

    God bless,

    G

  • Sam Ellis

    I’m so sorry. Wishing you warm thoughts and peace.

  • Lisa

    Sorry for your loss. I will keep you in my prayers.

  • Venessa Raker Pottie via Facebook

    My condolences.

  • http://www.facebook.com/jos.reyn Jos Reyn via Facebook

    Add my condolences

  • http://www.facebook.com/lori.knightwhitehouse Lori Knight-Whitehouse via Facebook

    Prayers for you, John, and your family.

  • http://blueberrypancakesfordinner.wordpress.com Erika

    i am sorry for your loss.

    glad it is over.

    glad he is gone

    glad you are free

    totally

    completely.

    and

    sorry for your loss.

    XOXOX erika

    • http://blueberrypancakesfordinner.wordpress.com Erika

      PS>

      if i had been close to him, i wudda bought him a ham sandwich.

  • Tom Backus via Facebook

    Prayers for you my friend, prayers for comfort and peace. Blessings to you. Remember, as you have been here for us, we are here for you!

  • Betty Salwak via Facebook

    Oh, sweetheart. My mother passed just a few days ago. In spite of our complicated relationships, it is still a time to mourn. Please accept my heartfelt condolences.

  • Anne Reid Oppermann via Facebook

    From what you’ve written, your relationship has been uneven at best. Wonderful that your last interaction brought you such laughter.

  • Anne Reid Oppermann via Facebook

    From what you’ve written, your relationship has been uneven at best. Wonderful that your last interaction brought you such laughter.

  • Allison Merkle via Facebook

    John, I am so sorry. :(

  • Erwin Goodwin via Facebook

    The good memories you have of your father will last you until you see him again. Peace be with you and your family.

  • Erin McMillan via Facebook

    I’m so sorry. Prayers for your family.

  • Carrie

    Thank you for sharing a piece of him with us in your blog. While the ache of having his presence gone will be overwhelming for a time, you have the joy of having had a wonderful life with him. Rejoice in that, celebrate his life, and continue to live in a way that honors what he has taught you. That’s the best “memorial.”

    May blessings overflow as you say goodbye for now.

  • Amy Skrzek via Facebook

    I’m so sorry for your loss :(

  • Jim F.

    John, tough to express anything that will make it better. Mine has been gone almost 20 years and he is never far from my thoughts, especially now that I have granddaughters. He would have loved them so!

    The fact that he helped you become the fine man you are is quite a testimony to him as a dad and a man. I know he was and is proud of his son!

    Hang in there.

  • Paula Hepola Anderson via Facebook

    Peace be with you all.

  • Fran Hlavacek

    May he rest in peace and rise in glory. I am grateful that he passed on his sense of humor to you. You’ve doen wonderful things with your kind and witty blog. Be at peace , John.

  • Drew Irvin via Facebook

    Sorry John! I wish peace for you and for all who knew him

  • Bill Lentzsch via Facebook

    I am sorry for your loss. It is good to know that your dad’s humor and wit live on in his son.

  • Diana Horel via Facebook

    I am sorry for your loss.

  • http://www.facebook.com/ginger.challis Ginger Challis via Facebook

    So sorry for your loss…

  • Beth Hervey Alexander via Facebook

    Praying for you and your family.

  • joey

    So sorry. Lost mine 8 days ago.

    • http://www.enesvy.com Nicole

      Blessings to you, too, Joey. *hug*

  • Martha J

    Oh John, so sorry. We know where you got your gift of humor in the most trying times! May good memories be forever in your heart. Love to you and your dad.

  • Shelley Kesselman via Facebook

    I’m sorry for your loss, John. May he rest in peace and rise in glory!

  • http://www.facebook.com/mara.carrillowesson Mara Angelica Carrillo Wesson via Facebook

    My condolences, John Shore. I understand about your father being the funniest man known to you. Ten years later, I’m still quoting my dad’s jokes to my kids & praying my delivery does his jokes justice. When they laugh, I know my Dad is laughing, too. When they don’t laugh, I know my Dad is laughing even harder, waiting for me to try again.

    I’d be lying to you if I said it’s going to be easier with time. I can say, hold onto your memories. Pass on the ones worth repeating. *hugs*

  • Ani Sala via Facebook

    Peace +

  • Christine Carroll via Facebook

    I’m sorry for your loss…you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

  • Adriana Maldonado via Facebook

    My condolences to you and your family.

  • http://www.facebook.com/jstuntz Jean A Stuntz via Facebook

    I am so sorry for your loss.

  • Nancy Johnson via Facebook

    So sorry to hear this.

  • Petite Pointer via Facebook

    I’m deeply sorry to hear there.

  • Erin Mentzer via Facebook

    I’m sorry about your dad, John. I’m glad that you had a good dad and some happy memories.

  • Cecelia Cormier Ryan via Facebook

    sorry for your loss John

  • http://www.facebook.com/brock.haffner Brock Haffner via Facebook

    :(

  • http://www.facebook.com/sharon.chrust Sharon Dolson Chrust via Facebook

    Oh, John. I am so sorry for your loss… May he rest in peace…

  • http://www.facebook.com/amy.stewartcooper Amy Stewart-Cooper via Facebook

    I’m so sorry. Sending prayers and healing thoughts.

  • http://www.facebook.com/amy.stewartcooper Amy Stewart-Cooper via Facebook

    I’m so sorry. Sending prayers and healing thoughts.

  • Liz Peryam via Facebook

    So sorry for your pain.

  • http://www.facebook.com/greg.vande.krol Greg Van de Krol via Facebook

    I’m so sorry John :(

  • http://www.facebook.com/michael.reaves.37 Michael Reaves via Facebook

    blessings and peace, john, so sorry.

  • http://www.facebook.com/barb.u.patterson Barb Ulrich Patterson via Facebook

    So sorry for you and your family. Good to hear he kept his strong sense of humor til the end. God be with you. Prayers.

  • Nancy Caroline Deatrick via Facebook

    John I am very sorry for your loss. My prayers and thoughts are with you and your family. May God bless, comfort and keep you.

  • Peet

    John, yes, have read so much of your experiences growing up, and that is a beautiful tribute. He raised a man who could be the person that could write that. Very sorry for your loss.

  • Cheri Nill

    So sorry for your loss! I lost my dad in August at the age of 78… I know the pain that you are going through. Even this weekend I thought of things that were happening that my dad would have loved to hear about! I miss him very much but I like to think that he is not suffering anymore and is enjoying whatever happens in the afterlife! May God be with you and your family in this time of sorrow!

  • Kevin

    I’m very sorry for your loss. I think that one of his greatest accomplishments is that he raised a very good man. Your voice for “the other” rings loud and clear and I have no doubt that he took great pride in the man you are. May God grant you comfort and peace.

  • Michael Eugene West via Facebook

    I wish I had known him. He sounds like a person that made the world a better place for those lucky enough to have known him.

  • Nathan Stehle via Facebook

    You have my condolences and prayers. God bless.

  • http://www.thefirst10000.com Paul

    Sorry for your loss, John.

  • Mary Ellen Lemieux via Facebook

    So sorry for you.

  • Leah Hillman Ammerman via Facebook

    Sorry John…hold those memories close to your heart and don’t let others or time cause you to doubt them or change them. Remember the LOVE

  • http://www.facebook.com/tom.millner.75 Tom Millner via Facebook

    May your memories with him sustain you!

  • http://www.facebook.com/coyote.holmberg Coyote Holmberg via Facebook

    My deepest condolences for you in your time of loss. You are in my thoughts.

  • Tammy

    I’m so sorry to hear of your loss. Praying for you and Cat, my friend!

  • Lianne McMahan

    I’m so, so sorry John.

    You don’t know me – I’ve never posted anything here before, and I don’t read every single thing you post. But your blog has helped me when it was needed most, when I needed a laugh, or to know that there was another human in the world who was kind, and who had empathy.

    I wish your family comfort in knowing that he lived the life that was meant – to bring forth other good people to carry on. He did a real good job.

  • John Joines

    John you show daily the greatness your dad taught you.

  • Gianna Zellner via Facebook

    I know he must have left this world proud of his son. My thoughts and prayers are with you in this difficult time.

  • Kerri Baysinger via Facebook

    My condolences, John. Love the ham sandwich story–hilarious.

  • Wendy Carruthers Taylor via Facebook

    So sorry for your loss.

  • http://amandajustice.blogspot.com Amanda

    I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I’ll be thinking about you and yours.

  • Courtney

    I am so sorry for your loss and so grateful he helped make you into the man we all admire.

  • Fran Hlavacek via Facebook

    <3

  • Sandy Beeman via Facebook

    I am so very sorry for your great loss.

  • http://www.facebook.com/dwayne.g.mason Dwayne G Mason via Facebook

    My sincere condolences to you and your family, John. I wish you peace.

  • Eddie Keator via Facebook

    Sorry to hear of the loss or your father.

  • Katy Gillette-Glover via Facebook

    My deepest condolences, John.

  • http://www.marie-everydaymiracle.blogspot.com Marie

    So sorry for your loss.

  • http://www.facebook.com/bob.rogers.56 Bob Rogers via Facebook

    So sorry for your loss. So thankful for your dad’s effect on you.

  • Jennifer Sandberg via Facebook

    So sorry. May he rest in peace.

  • Ida Tjosvold via Facebook

    I am so sorry. My deepest condolences to you. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

  • Grant McNeil via Facebook

    Blessings John and Cat. I’ve walked that path. I know that path. And, three years later I still miss my Dad. You are not alone. This we know. Thanks be to God.

  • http://www.facebook.com/JWalker07094 James Walker via Facebook

    My condolences, John

  • Marie Gettel-Gilmartin via Facebook

    So sorry for your loss.

  • Robert Curlin via Facebook

    Sad to see this John — my heartfelt condolences on your Dad’s passing.

  • http://www.facebook.com/fritz.keppler Fritz Keppler via Facebook

    Very sorry to hear of your loss, John.

  • http://www.facebook.com/cecil.prescod Cecil Charles Prescod via Facebook

    My condolences and prayers are with you and your loved ones.

  • Todd Park via Facebook

    So sorry for your loss, John. Much love to you and your family.

  • http://www.facebook.com/pamellamor Pam Wilkes Moore via Facebook

    My condolences

  • http://www.facebook.com/paul.frazier1 Paul Frazier via Facebook

    Into paradise may the angels lead you.
    At your coming may the martyrs receive you,
    and bring you into the holy city Jerusalem.

  • http://www.facebook.com/lisa.pilewski Lisa Pilewski via Facebook

    Sorry for your loss John, prayers for comfort and for peace.

  • Barbara Vaughan via Facebook

    So sorry for your loss, John. Prayers for you and your family. May you find comfort in your memories.

  • Marie FishSquirrel Muchnik via Facebook

    Sending love and gentleness from my heart to you and Cat, John. Peace be with you. {{{♥}}}

  • http://www.facebook.com/brookst Teresa Brooks via Facebook

    My condolences, to you and your family. Peace

  • Kimberly Ellis Hakkenberg via Facebook

    Sorry for your loss John. God is with you.

  • http://www.facebook.com/jill.mays.7 Jill Mays via Facebook

    Prayers to you and your family. Wonderful tribute to your father.

  • http://www.facebook.com/wdavidbates David Bates via Facebook

    Sorry to hear John. Sending positive thoughts your way.

  • http://www.facebook.com/wdavidbates David Bates via Facebook

    Sorry to hear John. Sending positive thoughts your way.

  • http://www.facebook.com/john10423 John Gragson via Facebook

    Prayers for you and for him.

  • http://www.facebook.com/john10423 John Gragson via Facebook

    Prayers for you and for him.

  • Joe Snavely via Facebook

    Prayers for you and your family John.

  • Joe Snavely via Facebook

    Prayers for you and your family John.

  • Amy Atchison-Fisher via Facebook

    Prayers for peace in his passing. Shalom…

  • Amy Atchison-Fisher via Facebook

    Prayers for peace in his passing. Shalom…

  • Denise Ashworth via Facebook

    I’m sorry for your loss, John. I know you are sheltered in this by your faith and the presence of a living, loving God. May peace and comfort be yours.

  • Britt Miracle via Facebook

    I’m sorry. My condolences, John.

  • Karen Bunn via Facebook

    Sounds to me as if the apple did not fall far from the tree. Condolences, John. Thanks to your Dad for raising a good and funny man. No doubt, that was his main mission in life.

  • Linda Bale via Facebook

    Well not like just thoughts for you and your family at this difficult time.

  • Keith Sliter via Facebook

    Sending love, saying prayers….

  • http://www.facebook.com/Judy.Volkar Judith K Volkar via Facebook

    I am sorry for your loss, John. His gift of humor is an amazing gift.

  • Ken Danielson via Facebook

    John, sounds like a great lost that the rest of never got a chance to know him. Prayers are with you my friend.

  • Ken Danielson via Facebook

    John, sounds like a great lost that the rest of never got a chance to know him. Prayers are with you my friend.

  • Christine McQueen via Facebook

    :’(

  • Chris White via Facebook

    sorry

  • http://www.facebook.com/al.zylstra Al Zylstra via Facebook

    My heartfelt condolences.

  • Jeanette Bill-Cole via Facebook

    Sorry for your loss. ((Hugs))

  • Kate O’Hare via Facebook

    Thank you for sharing a little piece of this great man. I’m sorry for your loss.

  • Eliot Parulidae via Facebook

    I’m so sorry for your loss. Peace for you.

  • Jeanne Wiles via Facebook

    Sending loving thoughts of peace, love, and friendship.

  • Jeff Blackshear via Facebook

    My sincerest condolences. You are in my thoughts.

  • Sybil Buzzkill TenEyck via Facebook

    Sorry to hear about this :-(

  • http://www.enesvy.com Nicole

    Blessings to you, John. *hug*

  • Kyle Dykstra Teichow via Facebook

    I’m so sorry.

  • Jack Scruggs via Facebook

    I’m sorry, John. He sounds like a great guy, and he kept his humor to the end, which, I’m sure, was a gift to all around him. He must have been very proud of you. I lost my father 17 years ago, and over time have come to appreciate the gifts he gave me – many of which I didn’t understand at the time. Peace be with you.

  • http://www.facebook.com/krista.threadgill Krista Threadgill via Facebook

    Our thoughts and prayers go out to your family. So sorry…

  • Imelda Christina Cantu via Facebook

    My deepest sympathy my father is 78 and I expect to have just as many funny stories when he passes as well. Alas but as Thomas Grey wrote “All paths lead but to the grave.” Condolences again and sorry you lost your dad thinking of you and yours.

  • Tom Weller

    I am very sorry to learn of your loss John. May blessings and Peace be with you and your family during this time.

  • Bryan Ballenger via Facebook

    My deepest condolences. Your dad sounds like an awesome guy. Prayers for your spirit to heal quickly.

  • Leslie Hill Ortiz via Facebook

    Thank you for sharing this news with us, John. Peace to you.

  • Nessie

    Oh, John…

    I am so sorry for your loss. Please take good care of yourself. Be gentle and kind to you during this difficult time.

    Nessie

  • http://www.facebook.com/dwan.mccarthy Dwan McCarthy via Facebook

    I’m so sorry for your loss.

  • http://www.facebook.com/dwan.mccarthy Dwan McCarthy via Facebook

    I’m so sorry for your loss.

  • Gina Paterson-Bryant

    Love & Light to you Brother John. Loosing a parent is truly the bittersweet encompassed in it’s entirety. We knew we were loosing Dad to cancer, I thought what thing can I possibly do to help this man who was my very first best friend on this journey? I asked my friends who were parents, what is the one thing you would want to know if it was you? They said “that I did a good job”.

    So I told this imperfect,ambitious, difficult, lovely , brilliant, savvy man,” I just want you to know you gave me every tool I ever needed to have a happy, good life. Thank you.”

    I miss him every day but he said that sent him off well, so it’s my loss I mourn and the world’s, but without the ache of things unsaid unfinished.

    Your works I have no doubt, have helped others get to that place. May you be there now.♥

  • http://www.facebook.com/pagandenma Kathleen Young Rybarczyk via Facebook

    Awww. Hugs, hugs, and more hugs. Bless you all.

  • http://www.facebook.com/pagandenma Kathleen Young Rybarczyk via Facebook

    Awww. Hugs, hugs, and more hugs. Bless you all.

  • Gina Paterson-Bryant via Facebook

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  • Sally Fekety Bolgos via Facebook

    I am so sorry….my thoughts are with you.

  • Petriece Thomas-Cahalan

    John, I have followed your relationship with your father… I am thinking of you and your family with a prayer tonight.

  • http://www.lightfootscreative.com Lynne Dintiman

    Peace, blessings and comfort wishes to you, John. I echo the sentiments of another reader: Your dad raised a good man. Thanks for all you do for love of the Father and all of His kids (us).

  • http://www.facebook.com/ina.plassatravis Ina Plassa-travis via Facebook

    shared pain is lessened, shared joy increased (Spider Robinson) – I’m honored to share both with you.

  • Lucinda Martin via Facebook

    Thank you for sharing your story!! he must have been a great dad- look at his son!! Prayers for peace and comfort, John

  • Michelle Woods via Facebook

    I’m sorry John. My father died in November. He was and still is my hero

  • http://www.facebook.com/lorena.burkett Lorena J Burkett via Facebook

    Wishing you peace.

  • Scott Cole

    So sorry to hear of your loss, John.

  • charles

    I lost my dad almost 2 years ago John, I and my mom had to make the horrible call of taking him off of life support. my condolences to you in this sad time.

  • Kerri Redding via Facebook

    Sorry for your loss-

  • Dawn Louise Corcoran via Facebook

    is sorry for your loss. please accept condolences.

    ~*

  • Kim A. Johnson via Facebook

    I am so sorry for your loss John. You’ll be in my thoughts and prayers.

  • Susan Fowler

    I’m so sorry, John. My dad passed away four years ago. My pastor asked my two brothers and me what we’d miss the most. We said, “His sense of humor.” Mic laughed and said, “you won’t miss it. You each inherited it.” My dad looked like Jonathon Winters and had the same gift of mimicry and improv humor.

    Mic was right, we celebrate my dad’s humor every day. You are fortunate to recognize the gift he gave you; I pray that your pain, too, will ebb soon, and you will continue to celebrate his gift with pure joy.

  • Ingrid Moore via Facebook

    Wow John, I’m praying for your peace. I never know exactly the right words to say, just know that in my little corner of the world we are thinking of you and Kat. Much Love.

  • Robin Shields Richardson via Facebook

    :(

  • Robin Shields Richardson via Facebook

    :(

  • Alex McFerron via Facebook

    I am so sorry to hear this.

  • Jeannie

    I am sad to read this. I remember reading about you and your wife going to down visit your dad a while ago. There’s something about losing a parent, no matter how old we are that makes us feel like a childish orphan on some levels. My deepest condolences to you. I hope you will have lots of funny memories of him to make you chuckle during this time.

  • jsmom2

    I am so very sorry for your loss, John. There is comfort to be found in the memories of a life well lived. My prayers for you and your family.

  • Adele Sakler via Facebook

    Condolences and so sorry to hear. :(

  • Chris deMaagd via Facebook

    Oh, John, I’m sorry.

  • Caroline Marley via Facebook

    Oh, I’m so sorry, John. God bless you and bring you HIs peace.

  • Mary Ellen Mayo via Facebook

    <3 <3 <3 (((HUGS)))

  • http://www.facebook.com/liz.edmundson Liz Blose Edmundson via Facebook

    You are in my thoughts and prayers.

  • Buzz Dixon via Facebook

    All our love & sympathy, John. We know exactly what you’re going thru & will pray you find some comfort.

  • Nikki Bluue via Facebook

    Thoughts of strength to you and your family in this trying time.

  • http://www.facebook.com/Nina.Erickson Nina Erickson via Facebook

    I’m sorry for your loss, John.

  • http://www.barnmaven.com Barnmaven

    Awwww, dang. I’m sorry John.

  • Laura Ichikawa via Facebook

    So sorry to hear of the passing of your beloved father John. Just remember that he’ll always be around you in spirit. You and your family are in our prayers.

  • Lisa Blankenship via Facebook

    My condolences, John.

  • http://www.facebook.com/Cowgirl1265 Mary Peret via Facebook

    I’m so sorry for your loss. Thoughts & prayers sent your way.

  • http://www.facebook.com/msshipley Christina Scroggins-Shipley via Facebook

    Sympathy and prayers for you and your family in your time of mourning. May God bless you with peace and comfort.

  • Leslie Hayes via Facebook

    My thoughts are with you.

  • http://Www.buzzdixon.com Buzz

    So sorry to learn this, John. You are in our hearts and prayers at this time.

  • Susie

    I’m sorry for your loss. It sounds like he was a wonderful man.

  • http://www.facebook.com/gscott.weldon G Scott Weldon via Facebook

    Sympathies.

  • http://www.facebook.com/harvey.summers Harvey Summers via Facebook

    Sorry to hear. Cherish the time you had and remember the good things.

  • Jeff Scott via Facebook

    Weird “liking” this post but the story was great. My Dad died 25 years ago, you never get over it, but that’s a good thing. Best wishes to you.

  • http://www.facebook.com/catherine.hall.7549 Catherine Hall via Facebook

    May God be with you, and your loved ones at this tender time.

  • http://davekellerblog.com Dave Keller

    So sorry for your loss, John. As you know, your dad is with the Lord and our faith assures us that we will all meet again. Let your faith be your consolation. Death is a part of life in which we move onto a better world in the Heavenly Kingdom, promised us through Our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ. May the Holy Spirit give you and your family comfort in this promise.

  • http://www.examiner.com/sacred-living-in-long-island/sean-brennan Sean Patrick Brennan

    Big hugs. I know how hard writing the title of this reflection was for you.

  • http://www.facebook.com/randy.pyles.12 Randy Pyles via Facebook

    John, may you feel and sense a peace throughout this.

  • Amelia Miles via Facebook

    ((hugs))

  • http://www.facebook.com/michelle.l.kennedy Michelle Kennedy via Facebook

    Deepest condolences, John

  • Charlotte L. Blackmer via Facebook

    My sympathies for your loss.

  • Jay M Launt via Facebook

    Prayers. May he be given rest. May he in due season rise in glory

  • Richard Lubbers

    John, so sorry to hear this. Although it must be painful for you, you have chosen to share with us about the last discourse you shared with him that made you laugh til you cried.

    Tammy and I will be remembering you when we talk to God.

  • Ardie Herbel

    So sorry for your loss, John. Losing one’s Father leaves a void unlike any other. I lost my father in 1989, I’m 73 years old and I still miss him. I just think losing a parent leaves a hole that can’t be easily filled. However, special memories do help and of course I look forward to the time I see him again in Heaven.

  • Donald Rappe

    You have my sympathy, John. My father was the most important person in my life when he died and it left a gaping hole in my world. That was 50 years ago. I still miss him.

  • Jackson Hearn via Facebook

    I am saddened for your loss, but know you will always remember him and be sustained by his memory.

  • http://www.facebook.com/linnea.hartparker Linnea Hart Parker via Facebook

    So sorry John. We will lift you up during this time. Prayers for you dear John Shore.

  • Wendy Schlaack Rainey via Facebook

    So sorry for your loss.

  • http://www.facebook.com/ayotte88 Ken Ayotte via Facebook

    I am very sorry for your loss and I don’t really know what to say to you. Maybe I could say that I do know how you feel. I realize that this won’t make you feel any better about what happened, but knowing that it does happen to everyone, may cushion it a bit. We try to understand life and it’s meanings for decades, but death is something that we never understand. Until we die. Maybe. Please accept my condolences.

  • Jason Hathcock

    My condolences John. Thank you for sharing this story, small but so revealing. Death, of loved ones, strangers and eventually ourselves, is something none of us can escape the reality of. The best we can do is share the experiences and help each other bear the losses.

  • Rosalie Addison via Facebook

    So sorry for your loss. May you have peace.

  • Gillian Butler via Facebook

    So sorry, may light perpetual shine upon him.

  • Mike Lapomarda via Facebook

    My sympathy and condolances to you and your family.

  • DR

    I loved that he made you laugh in your last conversation. Much love.

  • Prabhu Venkataraman via Facebook

    I’m so sorry for your loss.

  • Karen Turley Ham via Facebook

    So, so sorry! I lost my dad in 2004. It hurts, even when you think you are ready. :’(

  • Karen Turley Ham via Facebook

    So, so sorry! I lost my dad in 2004. It hurts, even when you think you are ready. :’(

  • Autumn

    Sincere condolences, Mr. Shore. Great men live on forever in our hearts and minds.

  • Laurie

    You are in my thoughts & prayers <3

  • http://johnshore.com mike clark

    John,

    I am sorry for your loss and I hopr your grieving process is a healthy one.

    As for your father, I believe he is home at last and enjoying every instant of eternity.

    Peace,

    Mike Clark

  • http://shiningpearlsofsomething.blogspot.com Suz

    I’m so sorry, John. I wish you peace.

  • Rebecca

    So sorry for the grief you must go through…so glad to know that your dad’s journey is with God now. And that is good, because that is Love.

  • Nancy

    I am sorry for your loss, and happy that you had such a great dad in your life. Peace out.

  • http://www.globewriter.wordpress.com Vernon

    My sincere condolences John. I lost my dad in November and my appreciation of him has deepened since his passing. Your columns have given me great comfort and inspiration not to mention chuckles for a long time – your dad must have been very proud.

  • Roger Smith via Facebook

    Grace, comfort, encouragement, strength, healing to you and all his loved ones.

  • Jana Harrison Currier via Facebook

    Wow, I’m really sorry!

  • Theresa Jeffrey via Facebook

    :(

  • Kim Liddick Hetherington via Facebook

    I’m so sorry. My condolences.

  • Mary Wisner Miller via Facebook

    Prayers.

  • Carol B.

    I’m so sorry for your loss…sending love and light your way……

  • http://www.facebook.com/deanna.smith.9465 DeAnna Smith via Facebook

    It sounds like you have some wonderful memories of your dad…

  • http://www.facebook.com/sspencerwolff Scott Spencer-Wolff via Facebook

    Warmest thoughts John… I remember when you wrote about moving him to Assisted Living.

  • http://www.facebook.com/bwalston Brad Walston via Facebook

    I said a prayer for you and your family just now. My heart goes out to you.

  • http://www.facebook.com/bwalston Brad Walston via Facebook

    I said a prayer for you and your family just now. My heart goes out to you.

  • Judy Mincey

    Holding you in the light. Memory keeps our loved ones near. Praying for peace.

    “But Joy cometh in the morning.”

  • Alicia Osmera

    May your family find God’s peace during this time.

  • http://www.facebook.com/robbi.wrighttaber Robbi Wright-Taber via Facebook

    so sorry for your loss….

  • Kerry

    I’m sorry to read this sad news John but glad to read the gift of humor he shared with you. Maybe he could pass along some questions for you to God? You’ll always carry him with you and the love will always reach him/you.

  • http://thethreews.wordpress.com Ken Leonard

    I’m very sorry, John. That routine sounds utterly hilarious. And considering how funny you are when you’ve such a mind, I’m sure he must have been.

    Prayers for you and your family …

  • Steve Vacca via Facebook

    I am so sorry John. May God’s grace give you strength in the time of your mourning.

  • http://somewhatreal.com/itsme/ Vince

    John, I’m very sorry to hear that. My prayers go out to you and your family.

  • Kathy Gheen

    Sorry to read this. May your grief and sadness be eased by funny and cherished memories.

  • http://www.facebook.com/angela.l.black Angela LaRosa Black via Facebook

    I’m so sorry.

  • http://www.patheos.com/blogs/exploringourmatrix/ James F. McGrath

    My sincerest condolences, John.

  • Andrew Hackman via Facebook

    Sorry for you loss…

  • Ralph Sheldon via Facebook

    May the memories, his legacy to you, his stories, laughter and music be inscribed on your very being to his utter delight

  • Kimberly J Edwards via Facebook

    I’m so sorry John. Prayers, of course, for you and your family. And as someone who has lost a parent, my deepest wish for peace and grace as you grieve. Take good care, my friend.

  • Michael

    Hi John – So sorry to hear of your loss. My recollection of your previous stories about your Dad was that your relationship with him was a mixed bag. Certainly, life is like that: no relationship is ever exactly what you thought it could be, should be or wanted it to be, yet hopefully we remember the good things about it and resolve the difficulties in our mind as an adult, even after those people in our life are no longer with us.

    My sincere sympathy.

  • HJ

    I’m so sorry John. Thanks for sharing some stories of him here. My prayers are with you and your family.

  • Leila

    John, I’m so very sorry for you and Cat as well as for your older sister. May you find solace and comfort in your time of loss and God bless and keep you and yours.

  • Blaine Williams via Facebook

    John, so sorry for your loss of his presence, well physical.

  • textjunkie

    May you have peace and comfort, John!

  • Mary Buchanan Moore via Facebook

    :(

  • Lee

    So sorry to hear that, John. He sounds wonderful. I have just reluctantly put my mom into a nursing home, and I am so grateful she realizes she needs to be there for her own health and safety. I visit her everyday, and now I can spend the time talking to her instead of cleaning her apartment, washing her dishes, changing the sheets on her bed, etc. Please accept my sincere sympathy.

  • Leslie Marbach via Facebook

    John, my thoughts are with you. Yeah, that doesn’t begin to say what I mean, but I hope you’ll understand the love that comes with it.

  • Roberta Vallantyne via Facebook

    Sorry for your loss. Prayers.

  • Kirsten A.S. Mebust via Facebook

    Sympathy. Glad you have humor in the midst of grief.

  • http://www.facebook.com/kathryn.r.campbell.1 Kathryn Robertson Campbell via Facebook

    God’s peace.

  • Sharon Aldridge Kaufman via Facebook

    My thoughts are with you.

  • Carl Sansoucy via Facebook

    so sorry, John! prayers for you and your family

  • http://www.facebook.com/anglawson Angie Lawson via Facebook

    My deepest sympathy.

  • Matt

    Thinking of you, John.

  • Ellen Kohn-Perry via Facebook

    Prayers for you all .

  • Olu

    U are in our thoughts, Uncle John….

  • Leila Smith via Facebook

    I’m so sorry…

  • Mike George via Facebook

    Peace and love to you

  • http://rindle.blogspot.com Lyn

    This is the second person whose blog I follow who’s lost a parent this week. *sigh*

    I’m glad you had the chance to laugh with your dad. Keep that lightness with you, John.

    Keeping you in my prayers.

  • thereasa

    Peace and blessing in his wonderful memory until you are united again.

  • Alicia Bell via Facebook

    Sorry about your loss.

  • Amy Blamey Michael Finnerty via Facebook

    So truly sorry, John.

  • http://www.facebook.com/valeriebarlowhorton Valerie Barlow Horton via Facebook

    So sorry for your loss.

  • http://www.facebook.com/edwin.ortiz.549 Edwin Ortiz via Facebook

    My thoughts and prayers are with you.

  • http://www.facebook.com/archie.mckinlay Archie Mckinlay via Facebook

    So sorry John, you’re all in our thoughts.

  • Joe Beard via Facebook

    my thoughts are with you and your family

  • Brenda

    John, so sorry for your loss. Prayers and hugs to you and your family. Hold fast to those memories and all the others you have. You have my deepest sympathy.

  • http://www.facebook.com/susan.w.chesney Susan Watkins Chesney via Facebook

    Praying that you will continue to feel the love and the humor of your dad with you daily. Sounds like he and my brother will be keeping heaven full of love and laughter…Peace to you and all who loved your dad.

  • Jan Darlene Hastings via Facebook

    It’s sad that he couldn’t stay with you longer.

  • http://www.facebook.com/layne.beamer Layne Beamer via Facebook

    Sorry for the loss. So glad you had him and he had you.

  • vj

    Oh, John, so sad to hear this! Deepest condolences to you…

  • http://www.facebook.com/tim.q.dallacqua Tim Qj Dallacqua via Facebook

    I am so sorry

  • Suzanne Ash via Facebook

    Namaste Friend. Holding many peaceful moments for your heart.

  • http://Sweethopecookies.com Anita

    John, so sorry to hear about your loss, but love your remembrance of him. You have done your father proud my man.

  • Jeri Vauq LaPlante via Facebook

    It makes me sad for you but know you are ok. It makes me smile to read that he was a good & funny person, that still he made the best of what he was working on to the point of giving you a sacred loving funny memory. Your Dad will always be with you John . People like you guys make the world go round in a joyful way. My Sincere Condolences .

  • http://thesamechild.blogspot.com Jon Gilbert

    Condolences, John. Yet, how nice to know that his humor is the part that you’ll remember most. Since laughter is the best medicine, it stands to reason this part of him will likely be what helps you most to recover from his passing.

  • Mary Ellen via Facebook

    Praying for all who loved him.

  • Tori Murrill Connolly via Facebook

    Condolences.

  • Tori Murrill Connolly via Facebook

    Condolences.

  • http://www.facebook.com/valreia ValReia Ann Lavigne Cox via Facebook

    He is at peace can go wherever he choses now… Be joyful in your memories of him… .

  • Linda Barringer via Facebook

    Condolences to you and your family.

  • http://www.facebook.com/yserafini Yvette Serafini via Facebook

    sorry to hear that

  • http://oygbo.posterous.com/ Oygbo

    It’s always hard when a loved one goes away, even when they go to the better place…. May God’s Abba love embrace you, John, now and in the coming months and years!

  • Ric Booth

    I’m so sorry for your loss, John.

    You’ll always have that pool trip memory, which pretty much rocks.

  • http://www.facebook.com/ricbooth56 ERic Booth via Facebook

    Sorry got your loss, John.

  • http://www.facebook.com/elena.porcelli Elena Porcelli via Facebook

    Im praying for his soul and for you

  • Ria McIlduff

    I lost my Dad 16 years ago and I still think about him every day. He will always be with you, and you will continue to mine those wisdoms the rest of your life. Thank you for sharing this, as it blessed me this morning.

  • Jim Hutchison via Facebook

    Sorry for your loss.

  • http://www.facebook.com/teresa.freeman.96 Teresa Freeman via Facebook

    To make others smile during your time of grief is a selfless gift. Thank you. May peace and comfort blanket you and yours.

  • Jodi Trumble Bailly via Facebook

    Prayers are with you.

  • Rob Brunner via Facebook

    So sorry to hear that you lost such an important man in your life, John. Love to you.

  • Auntie Dasch via Facebook

    love you. thank you. that is all at this time ;-)

  • Leslie Bley via Facebook

    I recently lost my step father, Rob. Seems like yesterday but it was a couple of years ago.

  • http://www.facebook.com/gina.cirelli.1 Gina Cirelli via Facebook

    There is so much I want to say, John, because I can relate to you so much on the parent front. I am sorry for your loss, and I am glad that it became a loss to begin with? I am not at that point, as — like Christina Crawford — I just want it to be over. I think often about how you handled your situation with your dad and I hope I can get there someday.

  • Leslie Bley via Facebook

    I love you!! There are no other words that help! I love you…

  • Nicola Moloney via Facebook

    John I’m so sorry. I pray you find solace in your family, friends and your Faith.

  • http://www.facebook.com/marston.myers Marston M. Myers via Facebook

    Your Dad is always with you even if not physically. Bless you and your family.

  • Jill

    You are a very good man, Rev. Shore. It is wonderful all the love being sent your way in 10 amazing pages of prayers and best wishes. Hopefully your community can help lift your heart now they way you lift ours. Wishing you peace, Jill

  • Nita Hardgrove Kellum via Facebook

    I’m sorry for your lose. May you find comfort in your memories.

  • http://www.facebook.com/laurie.veneklasen Laurie Veneklasen via Facebook

    sorry

  • Carl Johnson via Facebook

    Way to celebrate his life, John. Wishing you Peace.

  • http://www.facebook.com/priscilla.schiltz Priscilla Schiltz via Facebook

    Praying for you and all whose life’s he touched!

  • Anna Joy

    Sorry for your loss, John.

  • Linnea Lundeen

    I’m so sorry about the death of your father. He obviously passed his sense of humor on to you. That and your memories–and time–will ease your pain and grief.

  • Anne

    I’m sorry to hear of your loss, John. No matter how old or ill they might be we are never really ready to lose our parents. Regardless of what may have happened when we were growing up, our parents were doing the best they could. God Bless you.

  • Maria

    My prayers are with you and your father, John. May you both be the recipients of His sweet love and his sweet embrace, your dad as he is being called home, and you as you are being called to continue doing His work.

    And love and hugs from me to you, John.

    Maria.

  • Scott

    I am so sorry for your loss, John.

  • mike moore

    I think I’ll have a ham sandwich for lunch today. Was he a mustard AND mayo kind of guy? XO.

  • http://www.ninotchkabeavers.com Ninotchka

    So incredibly sorry for your loss.

  • Rachel

    John, I’m sorry – your dad sounds like he was a hoot, though, which makes for some fun memories. My dad died twenty years ago and I think about him a lot.

    Hold on, and I’ll be praying for you and your whole family. It’s never easy no matter when it happens.

  • http://www.facebook.com/jorniw Jorni Wilson via Facebook

    My Prayers and thoughts are with you in this time of loss. So sorry.

  • http://www.facebook.com/EdandBrenda Ed Hooper via Facebook

    My prayers and thoughts to you and your family John.

  • http://www.facebook.com/kelly.withee.1 Kelly Withee via Facebook

    I am so sorry for your loss.

  • http://www.djfree.blogspot.com DJ

    John, I’m so sorry to hear this :( The world could use all of the hilarious people it has. I hate it when one passes. But it’s good knowing that he had such an impact on you, and hopefully had a full, joyful life. Blessings to you and yours.

    DJ

  • EsAyBe

    My prayers are with you, John. God bless you and your family. And I am thankful that your father’s gift of humor didn’t skip a generation.

  • http://christianbeliefs.blogspot.com/ Jan Maxwell

    So sorry. When a loved one dies, a piece of us goes with them.

  • Jennifer McKenna via Facebook

    My condolences; hope you find peace.

  • Gretchen

    John, it sounds like your dad went out making people smile. Thinking of you in this time of loss.

  • http://www.facebook.com/annmarie.martin AnnMarie Martin via Facebook

    So sorry.

  • http://www.facebook.com/faith.nettletonscherer Faith Nettleton-Scherer via Facebook

    Prayers and Blessings for you!

  • Desiree Dickens via Facebook

    I am sorry for your loss, John. What a blessing for you to have such an awesome dad

  • http://www.facebook.com/diane.archabald Diane Archabald via Facebook

    I am so sad for you John I have just discovered your blog in utter despiration while googling how to help my elderly mom. I spent a few minutes laughing and sending your blog to my siblings only to come yo your fb page. I will pray that your wonderful humor and faith will carry you through.

  • Joshua Laflin via Facebook

    :(

  • Kelly Anderson via Facebook

    It is post two years since my mother passed. I find myself laughing and smiling at things she said and did often. You will as well. Prayers for your family in this great loss.

  • John C Hoddy via Facebook

    God bless, John.

  • Pam Hart via Facebook

    So sorry to hear! Condolences to you and your family! God Bless you!

  • Chuck Anziulewicz via Facebook

    I’m tremendously sorry, John.

  • Carolyn Clement via Facebook

    I’m so sorry to hear about the loss of your dad. Be kind to yourself as you grieve.

  • http://www.facebook.com/heidi.parker.1048 Heidi Parker via Facebook

    Praying <3

  • Terry Caswell Faulkner via Facebook

    I am so sorry for your loss, John. Such meaningless words for such a profound loss, but it’s all I have. Prayers of condolence for you and yours.

  • http://www.facebook.com/karenrequa.higgins Karen Requa Higgins via Facebook

    You and your family and friends who knew your Dad personally, John, are in my thoughts and prayers. May your Dad Rest in Peace.

    Thank you for sharing such a delightful tale of your Dad’s being strong and able to continue having a little “freedom” right to the end…may we all be able to have a ham sandwich at the nearby store when or if we want one!

  • Barb

    John, So sorry for your loss. I am grateful for your father because he gave you life. In turn, you saved mine and others. Prayers and Thanksgiving. Barb

  • Leslie Palisand via Facebook

    Blessings… Peace within.

  • Ben

    May peace at his death and joy at his life attend you and others who loved him through your mourning time.

  • http://www.facebook.com/diane.silver.16 Diane Silver via Facebook

    Hugs.

  • http://www.facebook.com/rvreeland Rich Vreeland via Facebook

    Sending you and your family love and light. May you be surrounded and comforted by the love of those around you.

  • http://www.facebook.com/erica.colmenares Erica Caldwell Colmenares via Facebook

    Oh, John. I am so sorry for your loss.

  • Bruce Good via Facebook

    So sorry to hear of your loss John. My condolences to you and your family.

  • Julie

    John, it sounds like your dad was a gift to you. Revel in his being a part of your life while you mourn the loss.

  • Tom Stephenson via Facebook

    So sorry for your loss, John. Healing blessings and prayers for you and yours.

  • http://www.facebook.com/gina.vonkahle Gina Von Kahle via Facebook

    peace on you

  • Ellen (Armstrong) Wrona

    My thoughts are with you, John.

    Everything else that I wrote (and deleted) here sounded corny and trite so I will just say take care of yourself and know that you are loved by many.

  • Patty Anderson O’Daniel via Facebook

    So very sorry for your loss. Peace and strength to you…

  • http://www.facebook.com/debbi.sheltonscites Debbi Shelton-Scites via Facebook

    Lifting prayers to you and your family. <3

  • David S

    I’m so sorry for your loss, John. Know that I am holding you and your family in my prayers.

  • Todd

    hey John. I lost my dad 9 years ago. No words, just wanted to tell you you’re not alone. Praying for healthy grieving and healing.

  • Dave Bowling

    My thoughts and prayers are with you … both now and as you adjust to this cycle of life. Thanks for sharing a humorous story about him with us – just like you which is something I admire.

    Peace be with you and your family,

    Dave

  • Jay M Launt via Facebook

    My most cherished piece in times that death visits is Henri Nouwen’s short work, “Memorium”. , following the death of his mother. Are you familiar with it? Available from amazon.com

  • Holly Wells via Facebook

    I’m so sorry to hear this, John. May he find a good deli in heaven with some younger folks. And may God comfort you and your family through the grieving process.

  • Carrie Aldrich via Facebook

    So sorry to hear the news. You’re in our thoughts and prayers.

  • Robert

    My condolences John- I’m glad you have so many fond memories- thank you for sharing them with us.

    Rober

  • Rachel G.

    There is no night without a dawning

    No winter without a spring

    And beyond the dark horizon

    Our hearts will once more sing…

    For those who leave us for a while

    Have only gone away

    Out of a restless, care worn world

    Into a brighter day.

    ~ Helen Steiner Rice

  • Mary Coleman

    Sorry to hear of your loss, John. You have my sympathy & compassion as you get through this difficult time. Now we know where you got your wicked sense of humor!

  • http://www.facebook.com/ashley.e.vizenor Ashley Erin Vizenor via Facebook

    Praying for you John. I’m so sorry for your loss.

  • http://www.facebook.com/susawagner Susa Wagner via Facebook

    I am very sorry for you loss, John. Thinking of you and your family… and may I say, you have given him a beautiful tribute on your blog…

  • Stacy

    John I am so very sorry for you. I do activities at an assisted living facility and I think your Dad and I would have gotten along quite well. I would have gladly taken him to Von’s and gotten him that ham sandwich he longed for. I look forward to reading more about your Dad if you so choose to write more. He sounds like he was a pretty good guy and will be missed greatly! Peace to you and your family.

  • Elizabeth

    I’ve read about your sometimes problematic relationship with your father over the years. I also know, firsthand, that complexity and conflict within our family in no way diminishes our love for them while living or the pain of losing them. I’m so sorry, John. Heartfelt prayers for healing and comfort during this difficult time.

  • Jan Chaple Johnson via Facebook

    Prayers for you & your family…

  • Ben

    Sorry for your loss, John. My thoughts are with you.

  • Nancy

    How grand that your dad had a sense of humor. I can see the resemblance. Everyone needs a funny bone to nudge their way through the trying times. My condolences in your loss John. May you have peace & comfort in the memories.

  • Vanda Law via Facebook

    My deepest sympathy to you and your family for the loss of your dad. Lost mine 2 years ago and I think of him everyday. May the memories sustain you while your grieve. Blessings.

  • Ann Bergsagel McPherson via Facebook

    Hugs from Indiana! Love is eternal! Bless you & your family in this time.

  • Mark Tindall via Facebook

    Thinking of you at this sad time.

  • Diana A.

    My thoughts and prayers are with you at this time. Peace.

  • http://www.facebook.com/bert.gagnon.14 Bert Gagnon via Facebook

    I am so very sorry for your loss.

  • http://www.facebook.com/kathleen.isabell Kathleen M Isabell via Facebook

    I still miss my dad. He put up with my adolescent nutbaggery and then later in life whenever I got myself in a mess he would let me experience some of the consequences… then I would look up and his hand would be reaching out for me to lift me up. He was always my champion and my biggest fan. The last thing we said to each other before he slipped into a permanent coma was “I love you.” I know there’s something special about fathers that last a lifetime. Advice to remember, support and memories that never go away. Blessings.

  • http://www.facebook.com/jim.jolly.96 Jim Jolly via Facebook

    May God give you comfort, heal your hurt and bring you to being united with him again in all His love.

  • http://www.facebook.com/sarah.j.kazmierczak Sarah Jane Kazmierczak via Facebook

    I’m so sorry for your loss. I hope that once the grief has lessened, you will be able to look back on all of the happy memories you have of him. Prayers for you and your family….

  • http://www.facebook.com/NEWolfe Nathaniel Wolfe via Facebook

    So Sorry for your loss.

  • Michael Bussee via Facebook

    I am also sorry for your loss. I know what it’s like to lose parents. Blessings to you and your family.

  • Carla Serenko

    Ah, John, how sorry I am. To lose a parent is tough; to lose a tremendously funny parent is heart-breaking. We love you down here in SW Florida and hold you and your family close in our hearts.

  • http://castlerockbear.tumblr.com Keith Walsh

    Sorry to hear about your loss, John…He sounds like someone who would have been awesome to know, like you :) HUGS

  • Susan Golian

    Oh John – such a mixed up bag of stuff when a parent dies. My heart goes out to you. Much love!

  • Cindy Haber via Facebook

    Prayers going out to you and your family and know that we love and support you in your time of loss.

  • gail.livi

    More that 50 years ago I scribbled in my 5-year diary, “Tonight my daddy died.” I had just turned 15, and he taught me so much in just that time. I wonder if I could have been so much more if only I had had a few more years to learn what he had to teach. My very brain chemistry changed that night. I was never wholly the same again. He was funny too and a hell of a black jack player when Mother wasn’t looking. We played for matchsticks. Never quit missing him, seek out his spirit and let him be a part of you as you were for him. My blessings and a candle of light I send you in this dark avenue.

  • Achilz

    My sympathy. You have made so many people feel better through your hard work on this web sitee, I hope you can accept some of their sympathy and kindness in return.

  • Tina Stull Brauer via Facebook

    So sorry.

  • Julie A Richards via Facebook

    /hugs /comfort /support

  • http://frenchizal.blogspot.com Jenni

    I’m sorry for your loss, John.

  • Cynthia Haug-West via Facebook

    Prayers for you and yours, John. I’m so sorry.

  • Katherine

    John,

    Much love to you and your family…thoughts and prayers. I will light a candle in memory of your father and for your family today. You should also know, your blog entries have spoken to my heart time and time again. Thank you for your gift!

  • http://www.facebook.com/MamaRosi Rosi Buchanan Lovell via Facebook

    Praying for you John

  • http://www.facebook.com/judy.mahan Judy Tate Mahan via Facebook

    Surely he will be greatly missed by all who were blessed to have known him.

  • Susan in NY

    I am sorry for your loss, John. I’ll say a prayer.

    Susan in NY

  • http://www.facebook.com/freya.spencer.3 Freya Spencer via Facebook

    <3

  • Allie

    I’m sorry for your loss, but glad that you have a nice memory of him as one of your last encounters.

  • Kathleen Reimold via Facebook

    So sorry

  • http://www.facebook.com/bill.steffenhagen?sk=wall Soulmentor

    Thank you for sharing, John. My father lived into his 80′s and died about 4 years ago. Tho we saw each other once or twice a year, I never knew him and have literally NO good memories of him. He never knew how I guess and sure, some of that is my failing for not trying, but the fact is that by the time I learned that, I no longer cared.

    It’s all gone and done now.

    I’m happy that you have good memories.

    • Jill

      Soulmentor, I would like to share some comfort with you tonight if you wouldn’t mind. I am very sorry for your experience. I’ll simply say that I can relate to what you’re saying, and I just want for you not to be alone in your feeling.

      • http://www.facebook.com/bill.steffenhagen?sk=wall Soulmentor

        Thank you Jill. You have a good heart. You, and everyone here are the antidote to prevailing cynicism. Much love to you.

        Bill

  • Barbara Rice

    I am so sorry. He raised a fine son.

  • Brian

    Sorry for your loss

  • Stuart

    Sorry to hear about your loss but thankful there are good memories to remember him by! He left a great legacy.

  • Skrillet

    You have helped me so much. PS I am 13 and I read your amazing work.

  • AMA

    So sorry, John. Just do not know what else to say. Take care.

  • http://snarkthebold.blogspot.com/ Edo

    Several days late, but my condolences, John.

    And my prayers, alongside too many others bereaved this week.

  • http://asad123.wordpress.com Asad

    John, just as you have always been a good listener and a compassionate friend to me, and all your readers, I am here for you now.

  • Lee Walker

    Condolences, John. Losing a parent, no matter what the relationship, is always difficult. I know you’ve shared some of the harder things about him and how difficult it was, but choosing to acknowledge and highlight the good is an honorable thing. He deserves that. We all deserve that. May his memory bring you smiles and laughter. God bless.

  • http://www.nightwares.com/ Warren

    Ah, my sympathies.

  • Stacy Herring via Facebook

    Sorry for your loss!

  • dana111

    John,

    I am so sorry for your loss. My mother’s father died on the 4th of January, and she had some very difficult times with her father growing up. At the funeral, she said the only way she survived it and began to love and respect her father again to remember the forgiveness and the love of God. I have been reading your site for some time, and I always enjoyed the posts you shared about your dad. God bless.

  • robert

    hi John…

    Years ago, my “gay” dad/mentor died and I was devastated. Another friend reminded me that the pain I was experiencing was my living monument to the love that we had shared… those words changed the experience… from loss to… something more sublime.

    My biological dad died on thanksgiving… he had been ill for many years… and I saw this as an opportunity to repair some of the ancient hurts… and to be of service to him… and to recognize him for the person who he was… rather than resent him for the person who I wanted him to be… I was lucky… my dad and I were able to bridge a huge gulf… and I was next to him when he died… which was a blessing…

    Your dad sounds like he is a very good man… you were very lucky to have shared a life with him… I am truly sorry for your sorrow…

    with love

    Robert

  • Meghan

    I’ve been away from the interwebs for a while, so I missed this until now. I’m so sorry to hear about your loss John. We’ll keep you in prayer here.

  • Erin D.

    I’ve been away for a while as well. I’m so sorry about your loss, John. Hugs and condolences.

  • http://www.facebook.com/WomenSublime Women Sublime via Facebook

    So sorry for your loss…

  • http://www.facebook.com/pam.pulver.9 Pam Pulver via Facebook

    I AM SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS i JUST BROUGHT MY 90 YEAR OLD MOM TO MY HOUSE TO CARE FOR HER WE GOT HOSPICE AND I TRULY ADMIRE YOU FOR YOUR INSIGHT BLESSINGS AND PEACE TO YOU AND YOURS

  • Debbie Veatch Osterhout via Facebook

    Deepest condolences.

  • Kevin

    John, I’m so sorry about your dad. I’ve never commented on your blog before – but I’ve really appreciated so many of your posts as well as your kind and generous spirit that shows through in all of them.

    : (

  • Kimberly Schmelzer via Facebook

    John, my condolences on your loss. My Mother died Thanksgiving morning last year and it is definitely a process to heal.

  • JanvierNoir

    John–

    What a great story about your dad. I can see why you loved him so much. Sending you peace and comfort!

  • Dan(Chicago)

    Very sorry for your loss and thanks for sharing the story. Laughter is highly underrated as an important tool for keeping sane in an often baffling world.

  • Matthew Principe

    Sending love and light to you in this paradigmatic shift in your world.

  • http://www.facebook.com/davidallenjones David Allen Jones via Facebook

    So sorry to hear.


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