Can this wife abuser change?

Got this in: Hello John, I am an abusive man. I have found many books and websites for abused women. Could you post some suggestions for any abusers who find your website? I admitted my abuse a couple of months ago. I started counseling just last week. I have also found a life skills course [Read More...]

Mother’s Day: Raised Too Alone (by John Shore)


If your mother’s unhappiness—her pain, her dysfunction, her drama—was more precious to her than you could ever be. [Read more...]

Love: Like a teacup on the Titanic

Got this in: Hello, Sir! I’ve read through your work, and especially liked your 2+2=5  post. I have a problem that makes me very sad, and I can’t change anything about it, so I followed your advice in that post, asked for peace, and got some! Except it was temporary relief … Maybe I asked wrong? [Read more...]

One Man. Two fiancees. One prenup-nup?

In this morning: Hi John, We are three professionals, myself and two women that are talking about living together. There are no children in the picture and not sure if there will be or not. I have given a lot of thought of how to structure an agreement so it is fair to us all [Read More...]

Sexual Abuse and the Luck of the Draw

Apropos to my last post, Six Things to Know About Sexual Abuse and Forgiveness, I late last night wrote as a status on my Facebook page: I think if there’s one message that victims of abuse need to hear and believe, it’s that every single ounce of the total power of their lives is still [Read More...]

The miracle of one dog plus lots of love

Hi guys. The letter below is from a good woman I know. It doesn’t describe 1/100th of what she does out of love for her fiancé. Please help this young couple if you can. And you absolutely can, no matter what, by maximally sharing this post—and especially this link. Please do that, a lot. The [Read More...]

What does a woman mean when she says “I need space”?

Dear John, A good friend of mine suggested I contact you. I am now at the end of a five-year relationship and I am feeling lost as to what happened. We have had no fights, no disagreements, no infidelity. Just all of a sudden, it is over. I came home yesterday to a “Dear John” [Read More...]

The Bible vs. the bottle

I was raised in a Christian family, and have professed my faith since I was a young child. I was also homeschooled in the middle of nowhere, with my only socialization being in the church and youth group I grew up in. As you can imagine, I was a very sheltered child. [Read more...]

15 Ways to Stay Sane Caring For an Elderly Parent

One of the most emotionally complex and difficult things a person can experience is taking care of an elderly parent. I recently spent time tending to my aging, widowed father, and thought I’d pass along these fifteen points, each of which I found to be significantly helpful during this phase of my own life. [Read more...]

“Seven Reasons Women Stay in Abusive Relationships”: paperback, Kindle sale, review

I’m very pleased to announce that my Seven Reasons Women Stay in Abusive Relationships and How to Defeat Each One of Them is now available in paperback for $7.99. Also, the Kindle edition of this book is also now on sale, down from $7.99 to $4.99. Seven Reasons is also available as a NookBook. Sarah [Read More...]