What sexual abuse steals from its victims–and how they can get it back

Scared young girl with an adult man's hand covering her mouth

Young people who are sexually abused by someone they love are through that trauma robbed of something essential that those never so betrayed keep intact with them throughout their lives: their ability to trust in themselves to know when they are safe and when they are not. The lesson abused kids learn is that in [Read More...]

Tell me/us about your weather

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What’s going on with the weather where you live? [Read more...]

The mother we never had


If your mother’s unhappiness—her pain, her dysfunction, her drama—was more precious to her than you could ever be. [Read more...]

Woman having affair with her pastor’s wife: “I ended it.” Chalk up 3 more lives decimated by anti-gay “Christianity.”

A very upset and lonely woman sitting down crying against a wall

How wonderful to be straight, and by that fact alone deserve God’s favor! Meanwhile, year in and year out, gay kids commit suicide at three times the rate of straight kids. [Read more...]

She’s having an affair with her pastor’s wife

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A woman writes to ask advice on the affair she’s having with her pastor’s husband. [Read more...]

Your abuser can’t know himself like you know him


This is for anyone in an abusive relationship. [Read more...]

Yoga pants in public


Walking to our car after our yoga class last night my wife and I were chatting about her wearing her yoga pants in public. [Read more...]

Is it a sin to look at porn?


Lots of people get hurt when you drop a coin into the coffers of the producers of online porn by visiting their websites. And in the very now of that moment, not least amongst those people getting hurt is you. [Read more...]

When bad Christians happen to good women

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Why is it that converting to Christianity turns so many people into dinks? [Read more...]

What no one can forgive


Find yourself unable to finally and completely forgive a terrible transgression against you–to “just let it go”? This is for you. [Read more...]