Single Women: Do Not Try To Change Him

A bit more on the general subject touched upon with yesterday’s, “Stop Wasting Time Looking for Mr. Right.” If you’re a single woman, a good thing to understand about any man with whom you’re thinking about getting more deeply involved or even married is that men don’t change. They are who they are. Love and [Read More…]

Stop Wasting Your Time Looking For Mr. Right

A single woman recently wrote me this: What do guys want? I’m an intelligent, good-hearted woman with a lot to offer any man. But all the men I meet seem to have some sort of congenital aversion to commitment—to settling down, getting serious, getting married. But isn’t that the best life has to offer — [Read More…]

Why Love is Like a Tapeworm

People always say that love is an unfathomable mystery no mortal can fully understand. I, on the other hand, think love is like a tapeworm. It’s invasive, sucks the life out of you, makes you take drugs, makes you walk funny, and causes you to spend a lot of time alone in the bathroom, crying. [Read More…]

The Moment I Met My Wife

When I saw my wife for the first time, I leaned against a wall for support. She had just turned in my direction after stepping off the elevator at the far end of the otherwise unoccupied dorm floor hallway in which I was standing like the Scarecrow with dropsy. I was twenty years old, and drunk. It [Read More…]

Why Men Are So Bad at Valentine’s Day

The problem isn’t that men are no good at Valentine’s Day. The problem is they’re TOO good at it. [Read more…]

On Facebook, Where Do You Draw the Line With An Ex?

So recently (with Is It EVER Okay To Be Facebook Friends With an Ex? and The Radical Immaturity of True Romantic Love), we’ve had some fun (and even a little drama!) talking about whether or not a married person should ever be Facebook friends with an ex. I asserted that Facebook-friending an ex is never [Read More…]

The Radical Immaturity of True Romantic Love

To the question I posed yesterday—Is It EVER Okay to Be Facebook Friends With an Ex?—I caught a flurry of protestations for answering an unqualified “no.” In general, the arguments proffered by those claiming that it is okay for a husband or wife to maintain, via Facebook, actively open lines of communication with one or [Read More…]

My Wife and I Never, Ever Fight. I’m Too Close to God For Anything That Pedestrian.

A few people wrote to ask if a big fight between my wife Cat and me is what caused me to pen True Love: The Cruise Ship That Can’t Stay Afloat. I totally appreciate any concern ever shown me by any of my readers—it’s just the sweetest thing—but can you imagine? First you publish a [Read More…]

Here Comes the Sun

I’m every day aware that when I die I will do so having in the course of my life been truly known by exactly one person. I have a terribly slight relationship with my father, less of one with my older sister, and haven’t seen or spoken with my mother in thirty-five years. I don’t [Read More…]

5 Words That Completely Explain Why Men Hate To Talk About Their Emotions

It keeps their emotions pure. (By which I mean that men tend to sort of instinctively think that talking about their emotions can only degrade those emotions.) [Read more…]