Everybody Dies. Lent Reminds Us of That.

By Ken Lund [CC BY-SA 2.0], via Wikimedia Commons

It seems the news lately has been full of death:  We've lost Hollywood idols like Robin Williams and Joan Rivers, '60s rock stars like Leslie Gore, politicians like Mario Cuomo.  "60 Minutes" host Bob Simon, and 21 Coptic martyrs. The New York Times' David Carr entered eternity on the same day as Ahmad Givens, star of VH1's "Real Chance of Love.".Every day, souls are propelled off this planet, separated from the twisted bodies which had been their flimsy wrapper for fifty, sixty, ninety y … [Read more...]

39 Years Later, Remembering the Edmund Fitzgerald

Edmund Fitzgerald

Does anyone know where the love of God goes When the waves turn the minutes to hours… –Gordon Lightfoot, “The Wreck of the Edmund Fitzgerald”It was circa July 1973, and my husband and I—young, free-wheeling and in love, with more dreams than experience—embarked on a driving trip through upper Michigan.  We’d never been much farther north than Lansing at that point.  We pitched a tent along the way, getting to know Grayling and Mio, the Au Sable River and the Traverse City wine country, fina … [Read more...]

Should You Take Your Child to the Cemetery?

When a loved one dies, should you take your small child to the funeral?I know it's Halloween and all, but this is a serious question--and it was given a very serious answer in the French Catholic newspaper La Croix.  Daniel Oppenheim, psychiatrist and psychoanalyst and the author of Dialogues With Children About Life and Death, offers advice to parents of young children.I'm not sure there's any one "right" answer--but I'll share some of his insights.   If your experience in your own f … [Read more...]