39 Years Later, Remembering the Edmund Fitzgerald

Edmund Fitzgerald

Does anyone know where the love of God goes When the waves turn the minutes to hours… –Gordon Lightfoot, “The Wreck of the Edmund Fitzgerald”It was circa July 1973, and my husband and I—young, free-wheeling and in love, with more dreams than experience—embarked on a driving trip through upper Michigan.  We’d never been much farther north than Lansing at that point.  We pitched a tent along the way, getting to know Grayling and Mio, the Au Sable River and the Traverse City wine country, fina … [Read more...]

Should You Take Your Child to the Cemetery?

When a loved one dies, should you take your small child to the funeral?I know it's Halloween and all, but this is a serious question--and it was given a very serious answer in the French Catholic newspaper La Croix.  Daniel Oppenheim, psychiatrist and psychoanalyst and the author of Dialogues With Children About Life and Death, offers advice to parents of young children.I'm not sure there's any one "right" answer--but I'll share some of his insights.   If your experience in your own f … [Read more...]

When We All Fall Down: A Meditation on the Meaning of Death

Speaking of the Dead

What words can you offer when a family has lost someone they love, when death claims a child or a young mother?  Even more difficult, what can you say when someone without faith crosses that final threshold, and those he left behind are bereft, deeply worried about his eternal home?I have often thought that of the many responsibilities which priests and pastors face in their ministry, delivering a sermon at a funeral must be one of the most fearsome tasks. *     *     *     *     * That's w … [Read more...]