World Vision’s courage changed my mind: becoming ex-lesbian

Friends and family, in the wake of the courageous World Vision stand to continue to deny same-sex couples employment, I have searched my heart, prayed around the clock and have come to a very difficult decision. See, it was in a moment of weakness that World Vision announced they would include homosexuals in their ranks [Read More…]

Thank you Fred Phelps

A couple of y’all have asked me why I have been strangely quiet about Fred Phelp’s passing so I guess I should try my best to answer. Because thinking about this man and his legacy makes me mad, it hurts like hell and brings out the worst in my heart. As a Christian, a lesbian [Read More…]

Five Things I’ve Learned About Coming Out

As some of y’all know I have been in a bit of a personal spiral since my father died in October and my marriage crumbled in December.  Even though I promised that “my personal tragedy would not affect my ability to do good hair” it seems my bloggy bouffant has indeed fallen flat in recent months. [Read More…]

Even straight folks have closets

…and we are all bigger than our closets.   Ash Beckham, at TEDx Boulder, discusses the current state of homophobia in our culture challenging even the word “homophobia” itself. There is no fear, just loathing. Hating things we don’t understand, people we don’t know or anything that is different than our day to day. “Homophobic” [Read More…]

Paradigm Shifts & Miracles: Seventh-Gay Adventists

I am honored to introduce you to a Daneen Akers.  Daneen is an independent documentary filmmaker from San Francisco, CA where she lives with her husband and producing partner, Stephen Eyer, and their 4-year-old daughter, Lily.  I had the amazing opportunity to spend an afternoon with Daneen just a couple of weeks ago.   We [Read More…]

I walk the line

By now many of you have seen the NALT project co-founded by John Shore and Evan Hurst. But just in case, NALT stands for Not All Like That – meaning that not all Christians are like “that”.  Like what you ask?  Well you know the type, the Pat Roberston, Tony Perkins et al type – [Read More…]

A lesbian and a fundamentalist walk into a bar

Ok, so it was really a Starbucks in a little strip-mall out in the northern suburbs of Atlanta but you have to admit “A lesbian and a conservative minister walk into a suburban Starbucks” just doesn’t have the same ring to it. Anywho… As some of you know, last week I wrote an open letter [Read More…]

An Open Letter to Billy Humphrey of IHOP Atlanta on ‘Homosexuality and Gay Marriage’

My friend Mike Morrell invited me to read and respond to a post produced by Billy Humphrey of IHOP-Atlanta.  Mike graciously reminded me to use my words (and some of those words come from our similarly conservative backgrounds).  Mike shared my response as a guest post on his own blog today. Here is my response (and Mike’s note).    [Read More…]

BOLO: Bible Drive-By Linked to Myth Labs

Coming Out Christian blotter report: Independence Day, 2013 FBPD received a status update reporting a possible bible drive-by at the corner of Faith St. and Reason Ave. at approximately 6:15 p.m.  Unit 2239 responded to the J316 call immediately and set up a permitter to assess the scene. Witnesses report there was a quiet party occurring at [Read More…]

What’s the difference between welcoming and affirming homosexuals?

In the wake of all the flap about the, rather specious, albeit on the surface, good and hopeful news from the now defunct Exodus International, a friend who is on this journey with us, asked me to explain the difference between welcoming and affirming.  He honestly and openly is concerned about those who are drawing a line in the [Read More…]