I’m not your rainbow doormat

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For as long as I’ve been tending the weedy garden of this blog I have been asked by theological horticulturalists, from hobbyist to professional, “why you gotta be so mean?” Ok, maybe not exactly like that but I definitely hear regular challenges to my voice, from both sides of the aisle, that read a little [Read More...]

Until We Could by Richard Blanco

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The next two weeks my mind will be awash in all things Pride as we prepare to do down south what folks around the country did back in June. Claim how far we come. Create opportunities for more people to know they are beautiful and beloved. Celebrate who we are. On Sunday, October 5 I have the honor of [Read More...]

Mamma, why you gotta be so gay on Facebook?

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We had just lit a candle, said a blessing and were passing around the broken bread for all at the table to share when we began talking about our respective days. The kids had been about the business of getting the most out of the last days of their summer vacation (we go back to [Read More...]

5 things you REALLY mean when you say “I don’t approve of your homosexual lifestyle”

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The phrase “homosexual lifestyle” gets thrown around a lot by conservatives when jockeying for political power or popularity points. Sadly it seems it gets used even more so by otherwise nice enough people when they want to claim how much they love gay people, they  just “don’t approve of their lifestyle.” UGH! Please, God, please [Read More...]

Refusing to discriminate against the gays is NOT discrimination!

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Sooooo, last night I read a funny little diddy where some “Christians” in Mississippi are all in a lather because they WON the right to discriminate against gays and lesbians.  Wait, why on earth would these silly ignorant people be miffed vitriolic about WINNING the right to be ugly hateful. Weellll, as it turns out other citizens of their fair state have shockingly [Read More...]

God and the Gay [Evangelical] Christian

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Deborah Arca, who I lovingly (and maybe and maybe a bit delusionally) call my editor here at Patheos invited me to participate in this month’s book club featuring Matthew Vine’s new book God and The Gay Christian. Before I even opened the book I had an odd feeling about the task at hand. The very title God [Read More...]

United Church of Christ files lawsuit challenging North Carolina marriage laws

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One of the most important reasons I am struggling with shedding the label Christian is that I remove myself a step from my beloved tribe. According to a press release dated April 28, 2014 written by Connie Larkman of the UCC. “The General Synod of the United Church of Christ (UCC) has filed suit against the [Read More...]

Leaving church to search for Christ

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Sometime near the end of what I now call World Vision Week I had a dream. As the blackness of slow-wave sleep dissolved, I found myself in the completely mundane and peaceful kitchen I once shared with my ex-wife. As we puttered around, putting away the evening’s dishes, I sensed a shadowy presence swooping past [Read More...]

How to Determine If Your Religious Liberty Is Being Threatened in Just 10 Quick Questions by Rev. Emily C. Heath

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Thank you Rev. Emily for allowing me to share this kick-ass post originally shared on The Huffington Post! It seems like this election season “religious liberty” is a hot topic. Rumors of its demise are all around, as are politicians who want to make sure that you know they will never do anything to intrude [Read More...]

Five Things I’ve Learned About Coming Out

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As some of y’all know I have been in a bit of a personal spiral since my father died in October and my marriage crumbled in December.  Even though I promised that “my personal tragedy would not affect my ability to do good hair” it seems my bloggy bouffant has indeed fallen flat in recent months. [Read More...]


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