Done being Gay and Christian in America

Some of y’all may know that in July I will be moving with my new wife to the Netherlands. The inspiration for this leap across the pond bloomed one traumatic night in November when the changing of the guard ushered in the new regime of madness under which we now find ourselves. See, Betsy has [Read More…]

Freaking out and making plans – welcome 2017

Happy New Year my friends, family, neighbors and dearest ne’er-do-wells! Take a deep breath…what’s that smell? Why, that’s the embers of 2016 dying and the crisp clean smell of a brand-spanking new year. And boy is 2017 going to be a doozie or what? I am glad to see last year begin to fade away, but I would [Read More…]

The beautiful and terrified heart of one lesbian’s mama

It’s been almost six years since mama died and it has taken me nearly twice that long to understand her beautiful, terrified heart. By all accounts, Beverly was a loving wife and mother. To my father she was devoted and true, to her daughters, a constant presence of self-sacrifice. Life with mama was golden… …and [Read More…]

It’s not a gay kiss, it’s a kiss. An open letter to the straight friend.

“You own everything that happened to you. Tell your stories. If people wanted you to write warmly about them, they should have behaved better.” ― Anne Lamott, Bird by Bird: Some Instructions on Writing and Life I’m in love! I am wildly, madly, deeply, paradigm-shiftingly, make up words if I want to, in love. And yes, I am [Read More…]

Homophobia in the doctor’s office

Over two years ago I posted about the fear I carry when visiting the doctor, especially when taking my children to receive health care. I hear all the time, from otherwise well-meaning folks, that things are getting better so I have nothing to really be afraid of. Actually, friends, the more things change, the more [Read More…]

My cup runneth over

If you’ve read my blog recently or happen to be one of the unfortunate souls being subjected to my endlessly sappy Facebook feed, it should be pretty clear by now that I’ve lost my damn mind and fallen head over heels in love. I promise to return you to our regularly scheduled programming of exploring [Read More…]

What happens when two women walk into a South Texas courthouse to get a marriage license ?

About three days after the love imbued, justice bent, paradigm shifting decision of the Supreme Court of the United States welcoming same-sex couples into the covenant of marriage, I finally found my grown-up words amidst the heavenly chorus of joy and the clamoring cacophony of vitriol. In that post and in subsequent Facebook conversations I extended an invitation. What I [Read More…]

An open letter to Senator Jason Rapert

So it looks like yet another ill-informed or fear-mongering politician is playing the “religious freedom” card in a very unique way. According to Arkansas Times, it seems he said Jason Rapert said this (just an snippet of the fabulous tantrum) about the 12th annual gay Pride parade in the town of Conway, AR . “This is truly [Read More…]

Eastertide sabbatical

Happy Easter, dear friends. Christ is risen! Christ is risen indeed! In this season of resurrection and renewal it is time for me to step away from the seemingly never ending fight to have my sacred worth recognized and my humanity acknowledged by those whose hearts are still enslaved by ignorance, fear, loathing and power-hungry [Read More…]

So you’re getting straight-married…again?

Someone very dear to me called the other day to say that she and her boyfriend are talking about getting married. She was brimming with so much joy and excitement that I practically felt the sunlight of her happiness radiating through the phone and I swear I saw a flock of doves take flight on [Read More…]