Done being Gay and Christian in America

Some of y’all may know that in July I will be moving with my new wife to the Netherlands. The inspiration for this leap across the pond bloomed one traumatic night in November when the changing of the guard ushered in the new regime of madness under which we now find ourselves. See, Betsy has [Read More…]

Our wedding was not a great gay wedding…

On March 11, 2017 I married the love of my life in sight of God, family and friends, but it was not a great gay wedding. Let me tell you what happened… The day before the wedding, as our friends and family began arriving in sunny Florida, we headed over to a local nail salon [Read More…]

Freaking out and making plans – welcome 2017

Happy New Year my friends, family, neighbors and dearest ne’er-do-wells! Take a deep breath…what’s that smell? Why, that’s the embers of 2016 dying and the crisp clean smell of a brand-spanking new year. And boy is 2017 going to be a doozie or what? I am glad to see last year begin to fade away, but I would [Read More…]

Trump alone cannot overturn marriage equality, but that is not the point

Okay y’all, please listen to me. Yes, it is true that in order to overturn marriage equality, Scalia’s seat needs to be filled with a conservative judge (which it will be) and another seat would likely need to be filled similarly and the SCOTUS would need to agree to hear a case. That is not [Read More…]

Sure, you can be Orlando too

Sunday, June 12, 2016 dawned for us like most other seemingly boring days in our life – waking to smiling eyes and a gentle kiss, sipping a cup of coffee while reading an early morning devotional, taking a long walk with the pups and getting ready for a ridiculously hot day of our homosexual lifestyle – [Read More…]

Peanut Butter Cups and the First Amendment

Hey! You got your religion in my government! Hey! You got your government in my religion! Peanut butter and chocolate may be two great tastes that taste great together, but government and religion are not. That is why in 1791 the First Amendment was added to the Constitution of the United States of America. Congress [Read More…]

It’s not a gay kiss, it’s a kiss. An open letter to the straight friend.

“You own everything that happened to you. Tell your stories. If people wanted you to write warmly about them, they should have behaved better.” ― Anne Lamott, Bird by Bird: Some Instructions on Writing and Life I’m in love! I am wildly, madly, deeply, paradigm-shiftingly, make up words if I want to, in love. And yes, I am [Read More…]

Why I am still going to Wild Goose Festival In North Carolina

Wild Goose Festival! For some of y’all those words get your tummies all a flutter with excitement. For some of you, whut the heck are you talkin’ about?? And for some of my friends, even though they have been and dearly love this weird and wonderful festival, they can’t bring themselves to attend this year. [Read More…]

Homophobia in the doctor’s office

Over two years ago I posted about the fear I carry when visiting the doctor, especially when taking my children to receive health care. I hear all the time, from otherwise well-meaning folks, that things are getting better so I have nothing to really be afraid of. Actually, friends, the more things change, the more [Read More…]

Why this Christian lesbian was not at the Gay Christian Network Conference

I am hearing truly wonderful news of love and warmth and transformative experiences coming from the Gay Christian Network conference this past week. Let me say, before I get a bit rant-tacular, that I am immensely grateful for the many hearts, minds and bodies that were embraced, maybe some for the first time ever, at [Read More…]