Post-Traumatic Church Syndrome: A book review


It seems nearly every week we hear another report about the demise of the church. Just Google the term “leaving church” and you’ll get about 169,000,000 search results. For real, go try it. Posts range from why are people leaving, how to leave well, why not to leave, to to win members back and why [Read More...]

Regarding the Duggars – are you part of the problem or part of the solution?


Hell’s bells, y’all, I really didn’t want to end my blogging sabbatical and start up writing again on a stomach-churning, blood-pressure raising, angry-eyes note but damnit, the news of the Duggar disgrace continues to unfurl, so - here we are. I am worried to pieces about the girls who were repeatedly sexually assaulted and who now seem to be little more [Read More...]

A family lunch tainted by bigotry: a guest post by Tonya Caputo


I saw a Facebook post by a mom the other day that just broke my heart and really pissed me off. I know we all see those maddening posts every day but this one stuck with me in such a way that I immediately reached out to the mom who wrote the post and invited her to share [Read More...]

Prayers from Matelot


On Sunday morning I woke at 6 a.m. to the distant but unmistakable sound of “Amazing Grace” off in the distance – in Matelot, Trinidad. I am traveling with a group of students who are on a Global Awareness trip to explore issues of gender and community development in Trinidad and Tobago. My job is to document the trip through [Read More...]

My top 5 posts of 2014


It’s been a wild ride this year, y’all and I am thoroughly astonished and wildly grateful for each and every one of you who’ve hung in here with me. I have had the incredible opportunity to experience so much this year the good, the bad and the ugly. Most importantly I have had the painful [Read More...]

When the happiest time of year is not that damn happy.


As some of you know I have the honor of facilitating an online community of spiritual practice and fellowship. I know it seems like just a silly, online gimmick but I have come to know this time and “place” as quite real and deeply moving. Friends, it seems that we are indeed in a dark [Read More...]



Tonight we light the third candle representing joy. And so I pause. One year ago today I awoke for the first time in my life under a roof that I put over my own head. Joy, oh joy seemed so reluctant, resentful and recalcitrant but I knew, we both knew, that it was no longer [Read More...]

Patron of Defense Against the Dark Arts?

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Blogging at Patheos for nearly two years has been an amazing, life changing experience. I am so grateful to have the privilege of lifting up a voice of progressive faith against the dark arts of willful ignorance, dangerous vitriol and general asshattery of those who teach the faithless lie that LGBT people are not of [Read More...]

A word or three about commenting on my big ole lesbian blog

Apparently very few people bother to click the cute little tab up there called Comment Covenant so it is time to share it right out loud as a blog post. The following description of how I pray discourse unfolds on my blog is drawn from Parker Palmer’s Book Healing the Heart of Democracy.  I invite you into conversation [Read More...]

Faithful Internet: a Net Neutrality webinar Nov. 24, 2014

Today, the Internet is a place where all Americans have an equal voice—no matter the color of our skin, size of our wallets, or content of our beliefs. Right now, a proposal in Washington would end the Internet as we know it. It will create fast lanes for those who pay—and slow lanes for the rest [Read More...]