So you’re getting straight-married…again?


Someone very dear to me called the other day to say that she and her boyfriend are talking about getting married. She was brimming with so much joy and excitement that I practically felt the sunlight of her happiness radiating through the phone and I swear I saw a flock of doves take flight on [Read More...]

Casting the first stone

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I’ve been thinking a lot about the arrest of judge Roy Moore’s son. Did you hear about it? According to the police department in Troy, Alabama, Chief Justice Roy Moore‘s son Caleb, who is 24, was arrested and charged with possession of a controlled substance and possession of marijuana after a run-in with police in the [Read More...]

United Church of Christ files lawsuit challenging North Carolina marriage laws

One of the most important reasons I am struggling with shedding the label Christian is that I remove myself a step from my beloved tribe. According to a press release dated April 28, 2014 written by Connie Larkman of the UCC. “The General Synod of the United Church of Christ (UCC) has filed suit against the [Read More...]

Thank you Fred Phelps


A couple of y’all have asked me why I have been strangely quiet about Fred Phelp’s passing so I guess I should try my best to answer. Because thinking about this man and his legacy makes me mad, it hurts like hell and brings out the worst in my heart. As a Christian, a lesbian [Read More...]

Facing my inner, silent self


I have so much I want to tell you about the swirling waters of my life and the excruciating, transformative, generative current in which I find myself swimming, sometimes with Olympic grace but more often with flailing gasps. Right now I can not find a way to collect all my thoughts, feelings and words to [Read More...]

Create in me a clean heart

“Blessed are the pure in heart: for they shall see God” (Mt. 5:8)   What is purity of heart? What does it mean to see God? How the hell does one go about being pure of heart in order to see God? When pondering the imponderable mystery of pure hearts, my mind drawn to the [Read More...]

What changed Exodus International’s Mind?


On June 19, the leaders of Exodus International issued a formal, public apology to the LGBT community for the years of deep damage they have wrought in the lives of people of faith who were convinced they could be changed from gay to straight by the organizations wrongheaded, harmful practices.   Today I awoke to the Good News that the board of Exodus International has [Read More...]

Why Every Christian Leader Needs to Have a Good Relationship with a Homosexual


In his post, “Why Every Christian Leader Needs To Have a Good Answer about Homosexuality“, Tony Jones asserts directly, concisely and correctly that “…LGBT issues are a wave crashing across American culture right now, and you don’t get to not have an opinion about it.”    It truly is a fantastic post and could not [Read More...]

In love with fear


Oh Lord We are a culture In love with fear And afraid of love Be not afraid, you call Many of the same souls Who shout With closed minds And plugged ears That the government Shall not have any role In regulating Weapons Be afraid, they say Are the same souls Who demand With closed [Read More...]

Devastated by your joy

I am leading with my pain today so I pray you will forgive the undercurrent of anger in my words. Love does not require that I passively and silently receive blow after blow of the clinched fist of ignorance. Love requires that I speak truth in the face of hate masquerading as faith. Here is [Read More...]