Tonglen meditation is a healing practice. The word tonglen is Tibetan, and means “giving and taking.” It is also translated as “sending and receiving.” Rooted deeply in Tibetan Buddhist teachings of mindfulness and service, tonglen is designed to transmute and transcend suffering, not only on the personal level but on the global as well.
Seeking ease for ourselves is not always synonymous with working toward the liberation of all beings. But, in the case of tonglen, the transformation of discomfort is a path that allows for healing, transformation, and liberation on all levels. His Holiness the Dalai Lama has said that he practices tonglen everyday. This is what he says of the practice; “Whether this meditation really helps others or not, it gives me peace of mind. Then I can be more effective, and the benefit is immense.”
Tonglen is a practice I’ve found to be helpful when I’m feeling the need to create change in myself, or in the world at large. And lately I’ve been feeling that need a lot. Perhaps you have been too? Tonglen is part of my spiritual process around social justice, because it contributes to the liberation of all beings. It’s part of my mental health plan and my self-care process because I find it to be a valuable practice for centering, releasing attachment, and increasing presence. Perhaps you will find through practice that tonglen has immense benefit for you as well.
The Pali word dukkha is often translated into English as suffering, but has many other more subtle and complex meanings. In an effort to be more accurate and inclusive of meaning, I will use the word dukkha in this article instead of one of the various translations.
The practice of tonglen may at first seem a counter-intuitive method for creating healing if you are used to the concept of breathing in “good” energy, and releasing the “bad.” The practice of tonglen instead allows us the opportunity to consciously take dukkha into ourselves, and using our consciousness, to transform dukkha to resourceful states such as nonattachment, peace, ease, joy, love, or other states that encourage healing, release, relaxation, and well-being.
Tonglen begins with becoming conscious of the moment. Then, as opposed to the meditations or visualizations that invite you to breathe in peace and breath out pain, you breathe in dukkha and breathe out resourceful states. Like a tree converting carbon dioxide to oxygen, you become the filter that purifies the air for others to breathe.
While the idea of breathing in spiritual exhaust may not appeal at first, this practice is also designed as a way to overcome selfishness, or the act of cherishing oneself above other beings.When taken to the pragmatic level you can see that the practice of tonglen serves; when we become willing to transmute suffering it allows us to actively “be the change we wish to see in the world,” whether the suffering we transform is truly only our own or is a more global suffering.
The magic of tonglen is a simple yet profound process of spiritual alchemy. By converting the suffering of yourself and the suffering of all beings through your consciousness and breath, you are contributing to conversion of the clouds of attachment, which can be visualized as clouds of spiritual exhaust. This spiritual exhaust is created by attachment, which, according the many spiritual philosophies, produces suffering.
How to Practice Tonglen:
- Become conscious of the moment you are in. Don’t grasp at attachment to a purity of awareness, but be exactly where you are. Every moment of experience, be it joyful, blissful, angry, exuberant, sad, or frustrated has equal opportunity for your coming fully present in awakening.
- Breathe the dukkha, or spiritual exhaust, in. You may imagine the dukkha as smoke, haze, or as a having a color if that helps. If it helps, you may also or alternatively visualize one who is suffering, or the cause of suffering itself. You may visualize breathing in the dukkha surrounding the one who is suffering. Remember, this may be you. You may visualize your own dukkha and breathe it in, or the dukkha of others.
- In your center, allow the dukkha to transform. You are transmuting that spiritual exhaust to pure spiritual oxygen, like a tree transforms exhaust to clear air. Create this transformation by allowing the dukkha to dissolve into the nothingness at the center of everything. Or, as my friend Durga Fuller says, allow it to dissolve into “the emptiness that we are essentially.”
- As the transformation occurs, the dukkha transitions to nonattachment, joy, bliss, ease, peace. Allow yourself to fill your center with whatever of these states is within your reach. All merit you have accrued through the enactment of practice in the world will help to power this transformation.
- Breathe out the cleared and resourceful emotion or state, and send it out into the world in the form of non-attachment, bliss, joy, ease, happiness, peace.
Sometimes healing of the self is more challenging, so it may be easier for you to practice tonglen for the healing of others. Or, it may be easier to start with breathing in your own dukkha. Wherever you start, know that healing suffering is an ongoing process. And, healing suffering through your own selfless practice is work towards the liberation of all beings.
(Note: Edited How To section on 1/28 for greater clarity.)