One of my all-time favorite movies is When Harry Met Sally. Not really because it’s filled with virtuous messages, but more because it highlights the real-life struggles single men and women experience in trying to make their dating and marriage relationships work – and what happens when they don’t.
An especially favorite scene of mine is when Billy Crystal’s character, Harry, melts down in front of his friends after bumping into his ex-wife, and is overwhelmed with staggering emotions of anger and failure.
“Right now, everything is great,” he says to the couple moving in together, “Everyone is in love, but do yourselves a favor and put your names in your books now because believe it or not, one day you’re going to go ’round and ’round over this dish. This $8 dish is going to cost you a thousand dollars in phone calls to the law offices of that’s-mine-this-is-yours.”
For many, that line is so, so true. As we discussed in my previous article, the thought of forgiving someone who has so deeply hurt you can seem insurmountable, but it is possible. If you watched the Second Key To Healing video in that article, you found some practical tools to help you begin that process. In this article, we’re going to tackle another important step in healing, which is detachment.
Right now, you may be clinging to things that are holding you back, such as the hope that your ex-spouse will know someday how much pain he’s caused you, or hanging on to hope that her new marriage will also fail, etc. Whatever it is you are holding tightly to, these emotional possessions are preventing you from having a healthy perspective on life and relationships. It is important for you to release your grip on them and let them go. Only you can make this decision, but it’s worth it.
I hope you enjoy this video presentation for the Third Key To Healing.