A Letter to My Muslim Son About Love

Don't look for it. It will find you. And if it doesn't, your aunties on your mother's side will find it for you in the form of a young Muslim girl, probably the daughter of a doctor or a lawyer, likely the last sister in her family to be unwed. She will be cute, but not the cutest, they will say, but she's a good, pious girl. We will all be invited for chai one day at her mansion in a gated community on a hill, but really they just want to see you, your demeanor, your ability to lead prayer in a … [Read more...]

The Most Epic Blanket Fort and the Nerdy Love Story That Made It So

This fall, Nhu-An and I are getting married.We've been together since November 18, 2000, back when we were seniors in high school. Despite a lot of obstacles like living on opposite sides of the country for much of our relationship and the glacial pace at which I completed grad school, we've stayed together and continue to be in love. To celebrate our engagement, we made this epic blanket fort.Here’s the nerdy story that made all of this possible.A nerdy love storyNhu-An and I were v … [Read more...]

The sacrilegious love affair I couldn’t resist

Salon excerpted one of the most controversial stories from Salaam, Love: American Muslim Men on Love, Sex & Intimacy. What do you think of the issues writer Maher Reham raises? You can also read Maher's contributor spotlight on our website, here.Curious to read more stories from Salaam, Love? Order the book today! … [Read more...]

NPR: American Muslim Men Balance Faith And Love In ‘Salaam’

Tune into Salaam, Love contributor Haroon Moghul's great interview with NPR Weekend Edition today. You can also read his story Prom, InshAllah online at the link!"I think for a lot of American Muslims, especially those of us who are in some kind of community role, we're forced to become, for lack of a better term, professional Muslims. A lot of the things that I wanted to do with my life, I was unable to do, because I realized that as an American, and as a Muslim, I had an obligation to become … [Read more...]

A Love Story: From Strangers to Family

A beautiful video profile of "Love, InshAllah" editor Ayesha Mattu & her husband Randy Nasson, who was also yesterday's "Salaam, Love" featured contributor.http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EEukTt2GGkMVideo credit and gratitude to Women of Spirit & Faith, Peabody Award-winning filmmaker Alison Fast and documentary filmmaker Chandler Griffin! … [Read more...]

When the loss is forever

I haven’t written much about the transition of my son J to our new life and existence after Joan's death. He lost his mother when he was 12; it is something that will shape him for the rest of his life. He stood by her, holding her hand as she gulped her last breaths, he wept inconsolably as she faded and grew cold. I wonder what the impact of that will be as he grows into manhood. It will have an impact; there is a huge crater in his life.My first action after the funeral and all the e … [Read more...]

Remembering Dhadhi

Eds. Note: This beautiful piece is being posted in honor of the author's grandmother's first death anniversary. Ending the year with a moving reminder of the only thing that lasts, the bridge between life & death: love.On Friday, I buried Muneer Unisa Begum, a woman who has lived with me my entire life.Her capacity for love was like her appetite: large and generous.Born in Hyderabad Deccan, India on April 8, 1925, she moved to Karachi, Pakistan during partition and then … [Read more...]

Time For Changes, Time For Life

Eds. Note: Introducing our newest monthly columnist, Alan Howard, with his meditations on life after the death of his dear wife Joan one year ago. Look for his column the last Tuesday of every month!I haven’t written in quite a while.  I have been in mourning since my wife's death last December, but also struggling for a sense of normalcy. The truth of the matter is that this new and scary part of my life - the part of my life that Dante described as being “in a dark wood” - is hard to ex … [Read more...]

Rad Brown Dads

We're loving this new Tumblr, Rad Brown Dads, an homage to the beauty, struggles, and power of parents of color. Check it out and submit a picture of your rad brown dad! … [Read more...]

Coming Out As A Geek Is Hard To Do

We've crossed the one-year anniversary of my blog, Brain Knows Better, and it's pretty incredible to think how much my life has changed over this last year. It's been a ton of fun to explore the psychology of sci-fi, but more than anything, this blog has helped me be honest about who I am – a big geek.I didn't like who I was in middle school and tried everything I could to blend in.I wasn't always this open about being a geek. For most of my life, I tried to hide it. In middle school, I knew … [Read more...]


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