Love, Sex & Dating After Converting to Islam

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Ed. Note: Please welcome our newest writer Luca, whose column "Halal Since 22" will be published the third Tuesday of every month.“You’re the nicest guy ever!”I’ve been called a lot of things by women throughout my life. Forward thinking, a saint (after a very unsaintly evening), emotionally unavailable, a complete fucking asshole, etc. I’d prefer to be called any of those things than be called nice. Nice is mild chicken wings. Nice is clothes from Old Navy. Nice is there, but otherwise t … [Read more...]

Dater in Training

Eren Cervantes-Altamirano

 Dating is like a blank page. One that, as a writer, I have to contemplate for a little while before beginning.Apparently, one also has to be “trained” in dating. A friend of mine told me that it takes a few dates with different men, to get back into the “dating mode.” As I replay the events that led to my first dating experience after my partner passed away, I can’t help but also remember my teenage dating days.See, my teenage years were full of love and drama. I had a few different … [Read more...]

Fairytale Beginnings

Zainab Chaudary

Tiny Love Story"And what do you do?" so many have asked."I tell stories," the girl said.One by one they've walked away, not understanding the language she speaks.Until one day..."I tell stories," said she."Then you are brave," said he, "and you should keep telling them. I want to hear them all."The End.Like a conjurer, I have dozens of stories like this up my sleeve. They come to me at inopportune moments, waking me up at three in the morning or badgering me in … [Read more...]

Advice: Navigating Young (Forbidden) Love

Dear Love, InshAllah,We are parents of a Muslim college student who met a Muslim boy at school and wish to get to know each other with parental supervision for marriage. The boy told his Pakistani parents he wished us to meet and get to know each other. They first agreed and next day refused and hit him and threatened to have him transfer to another school. We are not Pakistani, however they say that is not the reason, that it is because he is too young. We also wish they were older however … [Read more...]

When Fairy Tales Fail Us

When a daughter is born into a loving family, she is cherished and treated like a princess and dressed up like pretty little doll with colorful plastic bangles and trinkets.The beautiful princess is told fairy tales before being tucked into bed. Her mother speaks about the knights that saved Cinderella, Rapunzel and Snow White. Then, this little girl begins to dream of her very own Prince Charming and she starts looking for him as soon as she turns sixteen years old. Some girls get lucky and … [Read more...]

Summer Reading: Salaam, Love!

Summer is here! It's time to dive head first into your summer reading list, and what better place to start than Salaam Love: American Muslim Men on Love, Sex & Intimacy. the follow up to the groundbreaking book, Love InshAllah.Salaam, Love features 22 American Muslim men, from a broad spectrum of ethnic, racial, and religious perspectives—including orthodox, cultural, and secular Muslims— speaking openly about their romantic lives, offering frank, funny, and insightful glimpses into thei … [Read more...]

Girls Like It, Too

 Call me crazy, but girls love sex too. (Yes I know, a shocker right?)Want to hear the crazy truth? Muslim girls love sex as much as their males counterparts. In fact, they are as hormonal as men. They desire sex, passion, hot love-making, PDA and fetishes as well. The most shocking aspect of this is that some Muslim women have slept with men before marriage.You heard me right. Men. Not a man, but men.It is a perplexing and a bitter pill for a Muslim man to swallow.As a … [Read more...]

Crying and Reclamation

I am not always strong.There are times that I experience steep slopes of sadness. This doesn’t happen very often, but when it does, the sorrow arrives as crude, impolite explosions.I don’t have everything together, no matter what type of confidence seeps out of my writing. I spend most of my time struggling from paycheck-to-paycheck, too poor to actually date should anyone ever ask me out.  I’m always in a suspended state of fear that this is all my life is going to be: a lonely existence w … [Read more...]

Half Agony, Half Hope

"Do you have any children?" a nice woman making small talk asks me.I reply pleasantly, "No, I don't," but my inner monologue is racing."Children? I don't have children because  I don't have a husband.  I don't have a husband because I never had a romantic relationship with a guy. I never had a boyfriend, I've never even been kissed and I'm way older than Drew Barrymore was when she was in that movie with Michael Vartan! I'm older than Jesus ( AS) when he was on this earth! Oh God, what i … [Read more...]

Thank you, San Francisco!

A huge thank you to our San Francisco readers who ventured out in the rain last night to our SOLD OUT launch party for Salaam, Love! We're incredibly grateful for your love, support, and wonderful discussion. A special thank you to our MC for the evening, Zahra Noorbaksh, and to the California Institute of Integral Studies for hosting the event.Check out more pictures from our event on our Facebook page, here.Next up - Los Angeles! View our full book tour schedule, here. … [Read more...]