The Five Pillars of My Relationship

I'm a community organizer addressing men’s violence against women within the South Asian immigrant community.“We have to connect with women’s organizations nationwide and learn about what they are doing. How do they speak to men and boys about this issue?” asked my supervisor. As I began to call my colleagues, I kept being directed to the same man who was an advocate on this issue.We spoke a few times over the phone but our first meeting was at a domestic violence conference where we had … [Read more...]

Leaving an abusive marriage

Over the past 2 weeks, I’ve had a few conversations with folks who, upon hearing that I'm leaving an abusive marriage, asked "did he physically hit you?" and "what did he do?"I know these people are well meaning and didn't mean to come across in any particular way, but I am left feeling like I need to justify what happened to me. Perhaps I should just be grateful that at least they aren't asking me "what did you do to cause it?" which I've heard numerous times from some in my family.  But rea … [Read more...]