A New Story to Tell


During my last year of college and my first year of marriage, my husband, Hadi, did most of our housework. He bought our groceries, made our dinners, and did our laundry. I expected this: my father assumed similar tasks whenever my mother was working toward another degree. There was a subversive element to this that I appreciated. Both my husband and my father defied the stereotype of the patriarchal Muslim man; both my mother and I were far from being subservient Muslim women.Then, quite … [Read more...]

Love Comes Later


We had been married just over 24 hours and had just finished dhuhr prayer when a friend of the family, my mother-in-law’s dearest friend, kneeled in front of us and grasped our hands in hers, with a look of tenderness and concern.“Now I need to tell y’all something. This right here, right now? You think this is the love but I have to tell you, this isn’t the love.”We looked at each other, eyebrows raised, knowing smiles on our lips, the wisdom of those in their early twenties (which is to … [Read more...]

A Love Story: From Strangers to Family

A beautiful video profile of "Love, InshAllah" editor Ayesha Mattu & her husband Randy Nasson, who was also yesterday's "Salaam, Love" featured contributor.http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EEukTt2GGkMVideo credit and gratitude to Women of Spirit & Faith, Peabody Award-winning filmmaker Alison Fast and documentary filmmaker Chandler Griffin! … [Read more...]

Man of the House

I’ve had many humbling experiences in my life, including voluntarily going homeless for one week every year as part of an awareness-raising project. But my most humbling experience so far has been being unemployed.Since I left my job in October, I went from being the man-of-the-house to the man-in-the-house. My new househusband role begins at 6:45 am when I wake up to make and pack my wife’s lunch. By 7:15 am, I’ve also ironed her clothes. At 7:30 am, I’m warming up the car to drop her off at … [Read more...]

30 Years Together

Unlike the movies, making a life with another person is rarely a happily ever after.There are stormy seasons and safe comforting shores by turn. In our life together, there have been times that my husband Yusuf and I could have given up because those comforting shores were nowhere to be seen.But, this week marks three decades together as wife and husband.In making it this far together, I’ve discovered four hard-learned truths in the creative process that is marriage:  … [Read more...]

50 Romantic Photos

Check out more photos in Buzzfeed's collection entitled, The 50 Most Romantic Photos of All Time. … [Read more...]

For better, for worse, couples who endure

Thea & RonA new NYT weekly feature profiles marriages, civil unions and partnerships that have lasted over 25 years.In the first of the series, one couple reminisces on the glue that holds it all together.Know a couple who should be profiled? Send them your submission, here!What he learned from her:Ron: She made me stronger no doubt about it. She made me realize I had potential to do above and beyond. I never would have stepped out of my comfort zone. I would have done … [Read more...]