Salaam, Yusef Ramelize!

Our new book, Salaam, Love: American Muslim Men on Love, Sex & Intimacy, will be released on February 4th. In the lead up to the release, meet our 22 contributors.Today, meet Yusef Ramelize!An excerpt from Yusef's story, "Who I Needed to Be":“Sometimes a father’s love goes way beyond the words and the things that his children might see,” my mom said with tears in her eyes. “Everyone has a different way of expressing love. Of course, some ways are healthier than others, but somet … [Read more...]

Man of the House

I’ve had many humbling experiences in my life, including voluntarily going homeless for one week every year as part of an awareness-raising project. But my most humbling experience so far has been being unemployed.Since I left my job in October, I went from being the man-of-the-house to the man-in-the-house. My new househusband role begins at 6:45 am when I wake up to make and pack my wife’s lunch. By 7:15 am, I’ve also ironed her clothes. At 7:30 am, I’m warming up the car to drop her off at … [Read more...]

Friday Love: Yusef Ramelize

Last time we heard from Yusef, he had written a wonderful post for this blog entitled Who I need to be for you, detailing how he changed himself to become more open to finding the love of his life, Samira (below, mashAllah!).This time, Yusef is going homeless. … [Read more...]

A male perspective: Who I need to be – for you

Yusef & SamiraI'm not a marriage counselor but it doesn't take much to see that young Muslims’ unrealistic expectations, fears, families, and career ambitions – among other factors - are contributing to a high rate of single and divorced Muslims. In my own circle, for every happily married couple that I know, there are three or four people still looking for the right connection.For a long time I was one of those people. I was a true romantic, believing that if I searched hard enough and … [Read more...]