Another Undeserved Murder

Due to me being sick last week I wasn’t able to post this, so here you go a week late.

On February 25, 1997 a man that I considered my second dad, Jeff Still, was killed by a drunk driver. Jeff was a man I looked up to in all aspects of life: He loved the Lord, he played Division I football in college, and he was a model husband and father to his two little boys—all things I aspired to each day of my young life [I was 16 years old when he was killed].

Jeff always listened to me, encouraged me, stuck up for me in the face of much adversity, and believed in me that the crazy goals I had could, and would, come true with enough faithful dedication and love.

I loved Jeff (I called him Coach Still) so very much. I still have a picture of him hanging on my refrigerator, and even in writing this my heart hurts remembering who he was and what he meant to me.

As I posted on October 17th, please do not drink and drive. There are too many innocent lives lost by stupid, and very preventable decisions to get behind the wheel of a car while drunk [and by drunk I mean ANY drinks at all]. I am not judging anyone who does drink. I am just trying to prevent more lives that will be taken away from potential friends and families who will miss that person everyday—wishing they were there for just one more day to share one more experience. Always remember that just because someone thinks they are “ok” to drive, doesn’t mean they actually are. There is no excuse.

Much love.

About Andrew Marin

Andrew Marin is President and Founder of The Marin Foundation ( He is author of the award winning book Love Is an Orientation (2009), its interactive DVD curriculum (2011), and recently an academic ebook titled Our Last Option: How a New Approach to Civility can Save the Public Square (2013). Andrew is a regular contributor to a variety of media outlets and frequently lectures at universities around the world. Since 2010 Andrew has been asked by the United Nations to advise their various agencies on issues of bridging opposing worldviews, civic engagement, and theological aspects of reconciliation. For twelve years he lived in the LGBT Boystown neighborhood of Chicago, and is currently based St. Andrews, Scotland, where he is teaching and researching at the University of St. Andrews earning his PhD in Constructive Theology with a focus on the Theology of Culture. Andrew's research centers on the cultural, political, and religious dynamics of reconciliation. Andrew is married to Brenda, and you can find him elsewhere on Twitter (@Andrew_Marin), Facebook (AndrewMarin01), and Instagram (@andrewmarin1).

  • Brytne

    I'm sorry about your Coach. I completely agree with your blog and feel VERY strongly against drinking and driving!

  • Anonymous

    March 12, 1964, when I was 16, the principal & 2 cheerleaders(one actually died the next day) were killed coming back from a basketball 'playoff' game by a drunk driver in a headon crash. His passenger was also killed.This has solidified my feelings about drunk driving & seat belt use. (Seat belts were a new 'invention' at that time & I feel they could have saved some of these folks.)A Calvinistic addendum: The least injured cheerleader became a Christian in the 80s. PTL!I feel your pain, Andrew. There are too many drunks on the road & too little punishment, etc.

  • Anonymous

    I can't seem to get posted, except for being anonymous.I posted the last comment about 1964. [The drunk driver who was 39 at that time, later died in a fire that killed other folks when he was 58, if I got the info right.]Mrs "T" :)

  • susan la veau

    coach still was an amazing teacher and friend. he was so easy to talk to and always made time if u needed help.his brother was the same way.