Video of Living in the Tension Event: Intersex

For all of you around the world who were not able to make it to our recent Living in the Tension Large Group Event about Intersex, Sexuality and the Church – featuring intersex individual PD Williams - held at Roscoe’s Bar in Boystown, here is the video.

Living In The Tension from luke johnson on Vimeo.

I’d love to hear some of your thoughts on what PD said. This is the 1st video resource that I know of looking into Intersex life and Church. Feel free to use this as you see fit…

Also, here is a copy of the questions that were asked throughout our interview:


What is The Marin Foundation?

What is Living in the Tension?

Questions for PD:

I.          Intersex

What is Intersex?

What genetically composes an intersex person?

Do you  know of any factors that help cause intersex genetics?

Are there any particular health issues that come with male and female genetic make-up? 

            -What health issues are expected for intersex?

            -What health issues do you personally have?

II.        Identity

When did you find out you were intersex?

And how did you find out?

How did you identify yourself growing up – male or female?

Did your family have any decision in which gender you were raised as?

How do you identify yourself today – male or female? 


Do you feel like you belong in any community of people now? Gay, Mainstream or Church?

Have you ever been in a relationship? 

            Which one would you choose – male or female?

Which bathroom do you use?

What has been the most difficult part of being intersex?

What has been the most rewarding part of being intersex?

What do you want for your future?

III.       Family

How did your family react when they found out about your genetic make-up? 

            How did they treat you?

During your childhood, did others know of your genetic make-up and how did they treat you?

Now as an adult, how do your family and friends treat you? 

            What about everyday life or acquaintances?

How do you tell someone you’re intersex? 

            Is that a strange conversation? Do you ever get used to it?

            What do you say to someone who asks if you’re a guy or a girl?

IV.       Faith

When did you find God?

What drew you to the Christian faith?

What have your experiences been with the Christian community?

What has the church told you in the past?

What have your experiences been in everyday life? Any difference?

Was it hard to find friends? 

            Inside the church?

            Outside the church?

V.        Practical Applications: Churches, pastors, gay community

What can the church do to make you feel loved and accepted?

            Bathrooms? Bible Studies? Men/Woman Groups? Serving in the church?

What can pastors do to assist in your spiritual development?

            What advice would you give them to understand people in your situation better?

What can the LGBT community do to make you feel loved and accepted? 

            What advice would you give them?

Why do you keep fighting to have a relationship with the Church when so many have just kicked you out? You must have a lot of faith? What drives you?

Much love.

About Andrew Marin

Andrew Marin is President and Founder of The Marin Foundation ( He is author of the award winning book Love Is an Orientation (2009), its interactive DVD curriculum (2011), and recently an academic ebook titled Our Last Option: How a New Approach to Civility can Save the Public Square (2013). Andrew is a regular contributor to a variety of media outlets and frequently lectures at universities around the world. Since 2010 Andrew has been asked by the United Nations to advise their various agencies on issues of bridging opposing worldviews, civic engagement, and theological aspects of reconciliation. For twelve years he lived in the LGBT Boystown neighborhood of Chicago, and is currently based St. Andrews, Scotland, where he is teaching and researching at the University of St. Andrews earning his PhD in Constructive Theology with a focus on the Theology of Culture. Andrew's research centers on the cultural, political, and religious dynamics of reconciliation. Andrew is married to Brenda, and you can find him elsewhere on Twitter (@Andrew_Marin), Facebook (AndrewMarin01), and Instagram (@andrewmarin1).

  • Mrs T

    Thank you Andrew & PD for allowing this. I now have something to steer interested people to. There is so much to learn.
    I was there in person & am touched by the health problems. I expected sociological/emotional problems, but not the others. Please pray for PD, you all!

  • Guest

    I really appreciate this post. I am having some difficulty hearing/understanding PD. (Andrew is clear, PD’s microphone seems muffled.) If there are any other recordings of his talk or if it ever becomes available as a transcript, I’d love to be able to hear him again.