It’s My 30th Birthday Today! And I Need Help For Real…

Wow. 30. I know for many out there 30 years old is young. To me, it’s a huge day because at 8:56am Central Time I was ushered into a new decade. 30 seems so grown-up. So old…

I was already 5 years old when my parents turned 30. And here I am on a completely different path trying to just live and get by moment by moment in this crazy work that the Lord has given me; and you all as well – a group of people trying to show our culture a new bold way to live reconciliation.

I will be getting more into The Marin Foundation’s financial situation in the upcoming week, but 30 years old was ushered in by my wife and I getting the news that she has been let-go from her job. That means we don’t have her income. We no longer have insurance as of January 14. We need some help for real.

Here is a link to a new online giving site for The Marin Foundation through our website where all you have to do is sign up once, and your credit card will automatically be charged monthly, quarterly or annually without you having to think about it.  We never had this capability before through PayPal (the donation button on the left), so instead of going to PayPal sign up at this new link; which we will be embedding on all of our sites soon.

Instead of gifts and loving words, please, please sign up to donate $30 per month for my 30th birthday. If we can get 100 people to give $30/month my wife and I will be able to have health insurance for the entire 2011 year – including the two other full time employees for The Marin Foundation will have it as well, who to this point have not had any health insurance because we couldn’t afford it.

I’ll be honest, for all of the unreal opportunities we have been given over the past year, hey, the past six years since The Marin Foundation came into existence, this new decade scares the heck out of me. My head is telling me that at 30 you are supposed to be hitting your stride; your comfort zone; a solid way to move forward for the rest of your life. And here I (and my wife and the newly unknown financial stability of The Marin Foundation because my wife’s income has been the stability factor for The Marin Foundation to be able to save and grow) more insecure than ever.

Our ultimate fundraising goal for this next year would be to get enough people to sign up giving a total of just over $300,000 per year. I will break down all of our entire budget, expenses and fundraising plan over the next week, but, let’s shoot high. The Marin Foundation’s total 2011 budget can be reached if 900 people sign up to give $30/month; which totals $360/year. $1 per day will secure our entire work.

On any given day there are an average of between 500-800 unique visitors to this blog. If each of you, who come to this site for a reason, would be so bold and gracious to give, our entire 2011 budget will almost be met. We then wouldn’t have to worry about taking time to fundraise, but will be able to continue doing our actual work!

Please give to The Marin Foundation for my birthday; to sustain this work that you care so much about.

Thank you all so much. I love you dearly.

Much love.

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  • Mrs T

    Happy B’day!
    You know that if I had the money, I would give it freely & excitedly!
    But I don’t. However, there must be some of you out there who can spare the dough. Please help Andrew out so he can continue to use these great opportunities.
    Wow! 30 years old – a mere child! My kids are 31 & 34 1/2 & I’m double his age+.
    Anyway, Andrew, have a special day. Enjoy the wife of your youth today while you are still a youth!
    Brenda, I know there is much uncertainty, but aren’t you glad you could stay home with him on this special day & not fight the traffic & weather?Much Love & Big HUGS to you both!!!!

  • Seth

    Happy 30th birthday! Historically (at least in Europe), you would be considered just ending your youth and entering adulthood. At one time, 30 was recognized as the ideal age–the one at which Jesus began his public ministry. Our attitudes toward age have changed much since then; not that long ago, the saying, “Never trust anyone over 30” was widely repeated. In the decades since then, we’ve made our kids grow up much sooner, but nowadays we tend to prolong their youth–what’s the rush?

    I was 9 (with two younger sisters!) when my Dad turned 30. When I was 30, my son was 6 years old (he’ll be 26 next month, which puts me close to your parents’ age–shh!), but most of my friends didn’t have children yet. And I’m kind of relieved that I don’t have grandchildren yet!

    It seems like we’re stretching our age-related milestones out these days, so don’t spend too much time taking stock. You’re on the path and at the pace that God has established for you–which BTW, is absolutely remarkable–and I look forward to seeing what He will continue to accomplish through you.

    I am so sorry to hear about your wife’s employment, and hope that situation changes, soon. And I fully understand your concerns about health insurance–which is majorly in the news this week. Nevertheless, I suspect that you all will land on your feet, and work things out, as you have in the past, to keep building your bridges.

    All the best to you both!

    PS: I will see what I can do between now and the end of the year with the PayPal link.

  • Geoff G.

    My head is telling me that at 30 you are supposed to be hitting your stride; your comfort zone; a solid way to move forward for the rest of your life.

    LOL…At 30 I had just been kicked out of the Army under DADT, ending a career I had given serious consideration to following through with for at least the minimum 20 years.

    On the other hand, at 30 I was just embarking on (finally!) getting my undergraduate degree properly underway.

    I guess my point is that, while life may pitch a few curveballs at you, things have a way of working out if you keep doing what you’re supposed to be doing. Don’t worry about it too much.

    FWIW, I’m pushing 40 now and I still don’t really know what I want to do when I grow up 🙂 You seem to have a mission in life and that’s probably one of the greatest things anybody could hope for.

    • WOW! WOW! Geoff, thank you so much for sharing that. And thank you for the reminder about keeping your nose to the grindstone while being faithful through it all! I needed that. Much love brother.

  • bro, i hope you get some great feedback from this. I am turning 39 tomorrow, man that is old. I understand the whole fundraising thing for sure, it’s what I do.

    Much love dude.

  • Gayla

    Age 30– finally moved to San Francisco. No marriage rights, parents refused to talk to partner. Joined groups battling religious right. Protests against rush limbaugh–attending funerals weekly– pastor had to fly all the way to texas to do a funeral for a guy because no pastors in texas were doing aids funerals. Being an out lesbian did not gain me speaking engagements worldwide, and it cost me job training and income over my lifetime. Do I feel sorry for straight white men and their economic difficulties? Do I trust these guys to take gay dollars for “their” non-profits?
    Hell no. Could straight white men get married to women? Legally? Could they attend any church they wanted to without having to suffer from insults, being called sinners, treated like dirt? Hey welcome to the world buddy…
    I think it is time to focus attention on gays and lesbians, and I think gays and lesbians should do the speaking at these right wing pastor’s groups.
    I don’t want straight white men representing me in any way whatsoever.
    And welcome to the world, because you could easily get hired by many companies and never have to deal with the sexists, the racists and the homophobes, because you are the ruling class worldwide.

    • Thanks for sharing Gayla! I have a few thoughts:

      1. I had no choice in being a white male born in 1980, just as you didn’t have one being a lesbian born when you were. Since this is a fact, we are tasked then we being as best stewards of the racial/orientation/cultural situation we’re given. I say as often as I can that I recognize that I am generally at the top of the cultural hiearchy by doing nothing other than being born the way I am. So it is with great intentionality on my end to invert that hiearchy, starting with myself. That is what I try to do. And believe me, if I wanted an easier life I would go and work somewhere else that paid me for my privledge status. I had one of those jobs before. I quit it. Instead, I was on food stamps for 3 years trying to get The Marin Foundation off the ground and in almost 6 years of existence, I, for the first time, got paid a salary this year.

      2. I fully agree that it is of the utmost importance for LGBT people to be the ones going to the speaking engagements to the conservative places. That is why, as often as I can, bring with me LGBT friends to have their voice heard. In fact, here is a link to a video where I was asked to speak to Moody Bible Institute, and instead had a lesbian friend of mine share her story because she went to Moody:

      The broader problem is that most of those conservative places would never, ever “let” an LGBT person share. So I guess the question is, would you rather have no one sticking up for the LGBT community in-person, in those places to hold them accountable from someone they trust; or would you rather have a straight person living in Boystown for a decade speak about the LGBT community in those conservative places regarding a message of unconditional love and compassion and all being God’s children?