He Knows Their Name: The Mom of a Transgender Teen Speaks Out


For sixteen years, that name was the one that the child used. When they were 14 and came out as gender fluid and pansexual, they flirted with another more androgynous name, but it never really caught on. As an affirming parent, I could wrap my head around their orientation and support it, but when I asked if they wanted me to call them that name, it was always with a sense of, “Please, don’t want that,” behind it. And for a while, those unspoken words were heeded. They were ambivalent about the name, and were content for those who knew about their orientation to continue to use their birth name. [Read more...]

“Am I a Bad Christian for Loving My LGBTQ Child?”

Finally they voiced the deeper question that drove all their worries, “Are we wrong if we unconditionally love and support our son?”

I was caught off-guard and almost fell out of my chair. [Read more...]

Trans Invisibility: An Interview With Our Friend Eli


How often do we really recognize full diversity of experience, expression and identity encompassed by the acronym LGBT (Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender– and increasingly Queer: LGBTQ)? When we refer to this community as it is some kind of monolith, who gets ignored?

I’m joined today on the blog by my friend Eli, who is trans, to talk about the T in LGBT. He’ll be the first to tell you that he doesn’t speak for the entire trans community, and that his experience is innately unique. But like any experience, it’s valid. And I imagine it will resonate with many others, in and outside the trans community, who have been made to feel invisible. [Read more...]

Identity Theft


Too often in our conversations surrounding faith, gender and sexuality, we hear statements that project one’s own limited understanding and experiences onto the other. Unlike the insight of an intimately acquainted friend, these are unsolicited statements come from a place of one’s own beliefs about a given issue, not their knowledge of you as an individual.
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Repairing Our Therapy


A few months ago I sat across the table from a guy whose eyes searched the room and voice broke when he asked me one of the most heartbreaking questions I’ve ever heard: “How do I become straight?” Two years into my work here at The Marin Foundation, this was the first time I had heard that question pointe blank. Though the pain in his eyes was all too familiar. [Read more...]

Discriminating…In Jesus’ Name?

This post is written by Michael Kimpan, the Executive Director at The Marin Foundation, and was initially posted here, at his personal blog. – Barronelle Stutzman is stirring up headlines. The 70-year-old grandmother is the owner of Arlene’s Flower Shop in Washington State, and identifies as a devout Christian. She’s also opposed to gay marriage – so much so [Read More...]

On the Importance of Fidelity.


– This post is written by Michael Kimpan, the Executive Director at The Marin Foundation. You can read more from Michael at his blog here. – We’ve written before on the importance of fidelity – a resolved commitment to a person, organization, mission or idea. Most often, we use this word in conjunction with ‘faithfulness’ in the context of [Read More...]

These Three Remain: Reaching Towards Faith, Hope and Love as LGBTQ Christians

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This post is by Laura Statesir, our Director of Family and Youth:
And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. – 1 Corinthians 13:13 (NIV)
For many years this verse was so important to me that I considered getting “faith”, “hope”, and “love” tattooed on my body. Over time the meaning of these promises has changed in my life. The innocent idealism of my youthful faith has given way to something deeper and yet less certain as I’ve struggled with reconciling my sexuality with my faith and with my interactions with my Christian communities.
At the Gay Christian Network conference in Portland this past January I met many other Christians who are seeking a vision of how these words might be tattooed on their own hearts. [Read more...]

Second Parent Perspectives Video

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When the child of Christian parents comes out as lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender or queer these parents often struggle to reconcile their faith with their child’s sexuality or gender identity. Parents typically feel alone. They have no one to turn to and believe that no one will understand their experiences.  Many times, there is no [Read More...]

Who is my neighbor?

– This post is written by Michael Kimpan, the Executive Director at The Marin Foundation. You can read more from Michael at his blog here. – Do you remember the story of the Good Samaritan? It might help to refresh your memory. A teacher of the Law comes to Jesus, asking how to inherit the abundant life of God’s [Read More...]

Empathy Can Backfire

Misguided Empathy

Empathy restores humanity.

But this blog post isn’t about the merits of empathy.

Empathy can backfire. It can have the unintended, reverse effect of being unhelpful, disconnecting and dehumanizing. This is misguided empathy [Read more...]

NEW!! Parent Perspectives: Journeys of Faith with our LGBTQ Children

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As part of our ongoing effort to provide resources for Christian parents of LGBTQ children, The Marin Foundation is creating an online video series called “Parent Perspectives: Journeys of Faith with our LGBTQ Children”. In these videos, Christian parents of LGBTQ children share their personal stories in the hopes that other parents can learn from and be comforted by their experiences.
This month we are proud to release our first video which features Chicago’s own Anna Ricci. Anna takes us through her journey as a Christian mother with a gay son; the ups and downs, struggles and joys. Anna discusses her shock and anger at her son’s coming out. She takes us through her early emotional struggles and questions of faith. She talks about her relationship with her son then and now. Finally, she shares how giving her son to God led her to a deeper more intimate relationship with God and with her son. [Read more...]

Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. and the Urgency of Opposing Inequality

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The following post is by Jason Bilbrey, our Director of Pastoral Care here at The Marin Foundation.  You can read more from Jason at his blog,www.jasonbilbrey.com or follow him on Twitter at @JasonBilbrey. “I must confess I am not afraid of the word ‘tension.’ I have earnestly opposed violent tension, but there is a type of [Read More...]

Out of the Darkness.

  This post is written by Michael Kimpan, the Executive Director at The Marin Foundation. You can read more from Michael at his blog here – and his book, Love Never Fails :: Building Bridges Between the Church and the Gay Community will be available for pre-order soon (2015, IVP). – This post isn’t about what you think it’s about.  At the [Read More...]