How to Talk to Young Kids About Same-Sex Relationships

The following post is by Jason Bilbrey, our Director of Pastoral Care here at The Marin Foundation.  You can read more from Jason at his blog, It’s been a few years since our daughter, Norah, first encountered boys holding hands and girls kissing. That was in the summer of 2011, when our family moved from [Read More…]

What I Wish my Youth Pastor Had Said – Part 2

Below are some best practices and recommendations for Christian youth workers* who have LGBTQ and questioning youth in their church or Christian organization. Obviously each situation is different and every suggestion may not work for your unique group or denomination but remember that the stakes are high. Statistically LGBTQ youth commit suicide in higher numbers than heterosexual youth. LGBTQ youth also leave their faith in alarming numbers. If we err as Christian youth workers, let us err on the side of love. [Read more…]

What I Wish my Youth Pastor Had Said – Part 1

I come from a background in Christian youth ministry. I worked at Christian camps, with inner-city ministries, with wilderness therapy programs, and for Young Life [a Christian youth ministry organization]. I understand the unique pressures and stresses of working in Christian youth ministry and having a youth come out to me. I also identify as LGBTQ so I understand what it is like to come out to a Christian youth worker.

So what should you do as a Christian youth worker* when a youth comes out to you? How should you respond? What do I wish my Young Life leader had said to me when I came out? [Read more…]

2014 Parent Conference

Unconditional Ministries, The Marin Foundation, and FreedHearts are excited to present the 2014 Midwest Parents Conference, “By Parents, For Parents”, on June 13th and 14th in Chicago. Join us to hear from, worship with, and experience community with other Christian parents who are learning to reconcile their faith and their child’s sexuality or gender identity. [Read more…]

Jonathan Merritt on being “Outed”

  This post is written by Andrew Marin, President and Founder of The Marin Foundation. On Twitter this morning I saw a link to a story in Christianity Today where author and Religion News Service columnist Jonathan Merritt explained the backstory to Azariah Southworth’s very public outing of him as gay in 2012. The Christianity [Read More…]

One-On-One with Tim Schraeder

This post is written by Michael Kimpan, our Associate Director at The Marin Foundation. You can read more from Michael at his blog here – and his book, Love Never Fails :: Building Bridges Between the Church and the Gay Community will be available for pre-order soon (Fall 2014, IVP). — As many readers are now aware, [Read More…]

Is World Vision’s New Stance on Married Gay Christians Neutral?

Somewhere in Federal Way, Washington, there’s a woman who loves God, adores her wife and kicks butt at feeding hungry kids.

She’s either a current or soon-to-be employee of World Vision, the large Christian charity devoted to economic development and disaster relief throughout the world, who just announced on Monday that they will extend the opportunity for employment to gay, lesbian and bisexual Christians in same-sex marriages. [Read more…]

The Gamble: Gays and Lesbians Experimenting with Straight Relationships

You’re the expert of your own experience. That’s one of the central tenets of The Marin Foundation, something we talk about all the time. Who you are, how you identify–whether as gay, lesbian, transgender, queer, asexual, straight, bisexual, pursuing celibacy, ex-gay–that’s not up for debate. Your story is sacred, and nobody is better equipped to explain who you are than you.

That’s simple in theory and hard in practice. It’s never harder than when I receive emails like this… [Read more…]

The Parallel Experiences of Jesus and a Sexual Minority

The Ethiopian Eunuch was a sexual minority. He felt the alienation of being outside cultural norms. But apparently he wasn’t alone.
“Who is the prophet speaking about?” That was the Ethiopian’s question to Philip. And, of course, the question behind it was, “Who understands what I’m going through?”
Philip’s answer is Good News. [Read more…]

Finding the Good

The following post was written by Kevin Harris, Director of Community Relations at The Marin Foundation. In my work at The Marin Foundation, it’s a relatively common thing to come across posts written about how to be an ally in relationship to the LGBT community (a recent example). Considering that variations of such lists have [Read More…]

Is Empathy Dangerous?

I remember sitting at lunch after church with Christine, who had married her wife around the same time I had married mine. We swapped wedding stories for a bit before she told me, with a shaky voice, how nervous she felt about the upcoming Prop. 8 vote and the possibility that her marriage might become legally invalidated.

It was the first time I had ever considered how that might feel.

With these discoveries came two distinct, paradoxical feelings in equal measure: empathy, and skepticism of that empathy. [Read more…]

Father’s Love Letter

Warren Perry is a teacher and coach, Southerner and Yankee, sinner and saint living in the tension in New York City. Follow him on Twitter @CoachPerry03 or contact him at  Ah, February. It’s the shortest month of the year. Christmas is far behind us and spring is still too far away. And of course there’s [Read More…]

Fear of the Unknown

The following post is written by our friend Candice Czubernat. Candice has spent the last 13 years studying theology and psychology, grappling with how homosexuality and Christianity can co-exist. She now servers as a web-based therapist and is founder of the Christian Closet, offering counseling sessions over the web through Skype, G-video and over the phone. Candice is also an [Read More…]

13 Most Viewed Posts of 2013

Check out the 13 most viewed posts in 2013 on our Love Is an Orientation blog! Topics range from a man’s wife coming out, to the United Nations, to big news from pastors Louie Giglio and Steve Chalke, to the major LGBT news of 2013 with the rulings on DOMA and Prop 8, and Exodus International closing. [Read more…]