Jesus said what?

Jesus teaching

I was told as I grew up that Christianity is a relationship, not a religion. It’s about having a relationship with Jesus, not about following rules. It would seem, then, that I was not raised with legalism, right? Wrong. You see, my parents do not believe that Jesus would tell one person one thing and [...]

Patriarchy in Practice

Sally Gallaher released a study a few years back revealing that even though the majority of evangelicals agree that the wife should submit to the husband and that the husband is the head of the house, almost all of them actually in practice have egalitarian marriages. Interesting, no? It strikes me that patriarchal gender roles [...]

I Wear A Bikini (Gasp!)

Earlier this summer, I watched two teenage girls playing in a pool. They were both carefree, both playful, and both fairly new to their suddenly womanly bodies. The first wore a bikini, the other a one piece swimsuit with a high neckline and shorts. The first was an exchange student from Europe, the other my [...]

Explaining The Resurrection

Another blogger that I have been corresponding with asked me the other day how I, as an atheist, account for the resurrection. When I was a fundamentalist, I was told that the resurrection was incontrovertible proof of the truth of Christianity, the kind of proof that cannot be ignored even by an atheist. This argument [...]

Sowing Hatred

As the New York Times has reported, it appears that Anders Breivik, the man who carried out the bloody killings in Norway last Friday, was influenced by American anti-Islamic bloggers. The man accused of the killing spree in Norway was deeply influenced by a small group of American bloggers and writers who have warned for [...]

Like a Little Child

My little girl says “hi” to everyone we pass on the street. And it’s not just a motion, either. She turns, smiles, waves her hand, and practically shouts “hi,” with happiness in her voice. She’s happy to see new people, happy to make new friends, happy to be alive. And what’s more, she doesn’t judge. [...]

Thoughts from Norway

On Friday, over ninety people died, victims of terrorist attacks. Eighty-five of these victims were teenagers who had gathered for a youth camp on a scenic island. To some extent, such happenings have become commonplace. Buses bombed in Spain, subways in England, hotels in India. Except in this case, the perpetrator was not a Muslim, [...]

A Life Remake

Note: I did not think to take pictures while in this process, because I did not realize at the time that this was going to turn into a post, so the images below are comparative ones I found online. Yesterday I did something that I feel like is a sort of metaphor for my life. [...]

Boys and Girls

I had been planning to write a post about the way gender stereotypes are imposed on children. See, I would argue that most (or even all) of the differences between the genders are simply the result of social conditioning. Girls are taught to be nurturing and cooperative, boys are taught to be assertive and independent. [...]

Myths About Atheism

I grew up being told some absolute lies about atheists. Now I am one. So I’m going to take a moment here to discuss some myths about atheism: 1. Atheists are just mad at God. Um, no, I’m an atheist because I literally don’t think that there is a God. How could I be mad [...]

Whose Choice?

When I was in high school, my father told me he wouldn’t be in the business of finding a husband for me. He knew other men did it, he told me, but he wouldn’t. Why? For two reasons: First, because I, not he, was the one who would have to live with the guy, and [...]

Sex Miseducation

Children who go to public school receive sex education. Some sex education programs are better than others, some are more comprehensive, others less so, but at least children attending public schools get sex education. I didn’t. My parents never told me about sex, never had “the talk” with me, nothing. My parents taught me that [...]