All the Evangelical Marriage Teachings I Had to Unlearn

My husband and I have been married for almost ten years. My upbringing was evangelical, and it did not prepare me for marriage in any way. I had a lot of bad habits to unlearn and I made a lot of mistakes. Indeed, many of my early missteps with regard to marriage stemmed from the evangelical teachings I learned growing up. I'm going to run through some of them here, but this is not a comprehensive list.Growing up in a conservative religious community, I was taught that couples were happiest w … [Read more...]


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The Many Shades of Coercion

This week OK Magazine called attention to a recent sermon in which Kenny Batson, a pastor friend of the Duggars, discussed marital intimacy. In his sermon, Batson referred to a marriage retreat Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar helped put on: “What they talked about was this matter right here. Intimacy in marriage. And Michelle said something that I’d never thought, I mean I knew of it but I never thought like she put it,” he explained.“She said ‘Ladies, your husband can get his laundry done by ot … [Read more...]


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Princess or Scientist: It’s Not an Either/Or

This image was recently posted on a Neil DeGrasse Tyson fan Facebook page. It shows a little girl wearing dark sunglasses and an adorable "I'm on it" expression, pointing to her shirt, which sports pictures of planets and the words "Forget Princess I Want to be an Astrophysicist" emblazoned across the top.I assisted a first grader while volunteering at a book sale at my daughter's school a few days ago; she wanted a language book with pictures and French words like her friend had found, … [Read more...]


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Do Children Have a Right to Medical Care?

It's been a while since I've written about the Home School Legal Defense Association (HSLDA). This isn't a fringe organization, and it's never just been about homeschooling. Michael Farris, who founded the organization in 1983, is a well-connected figure in the Christian Right. He ran for Lieutenant Governor of Virginia back in the 1990s. Earlier this month, he took a job as the president of the Alliance Defending Freedom, the country's largest Christian Right legal group.Anyway, check out H … [Read more...]


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Why is Kylo Ren the Center of Episode VII Merchandise?

I recently came upon these shirts in the boys' clothing section at Walmart:The shirts both feature Kylo Ren, the primary villain of Star Wars Episode VII: A Force Awakens. I found myself suddenly curious. The heroes of Episode VII---the good guys---were Rey, a young white woman, and Finn, a young black man. But if you go to the Walmart website and google "Star Wars A Force Awakens shirt" there are half a dozen shirts prominently featuring Kylo Ren for every one shirt even picturing Finn. … [Read more...]


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Why Susan Pevensie Has Defenders

Like every other good evangelical child, I grew up reading the Chronicles of Narnia, by C. S. Lewis. I was so fascinated with the books that my siblings and I made green and yellow rings and used them to travel through the pools in the wood between the worlds and explore imaginary worlds. (If you have no idea what I'm talking about, you need to reread the Magician's Nephew.) In my family, the four oldest children were two boys and two girls, so it was only natural that we would play as Peter, … [Read more...]


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Why I Lied About My Rape

A Guest Post by K. Matthews Note from Libby Anne: This post may be triggering to some readers. Sexual assault has been a frequent topic of conversation in 2016, and with that conversation always seem to come a few questions: What are rape and sexual assault? How can we ever trust women to tell the truth about them? Why might women lie about such topics? Well, here is why I did.When I first told just a few people about my rape, I lied. But I didn’t lie about it happening—I lied about i … [Read more...]


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