Up Is Down and Down Is Up

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I recently came upon this quote from the Botkins, and it reminded me of everything I left behind when I rejected my parents' belief that, as an unmarried adult daughter, I was under my father's authority: Many stay-at-home girls believe that, as they become adults, their fathers’ jurisdiction over their lives will lessen. They feel that, in order to mature into individuals able to think and act for themselves, they must be “liberated” from another’s input into their lives. This is because we’re … [Read more...]

The Knight in Shining Armor

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I am no longer surprised when I meet a woman raised in the same quiverfull Christian homeschooling culture as I who grew up to leave it all and yet still married young. There are a number of reasons for this, including habit and familial expectation. But I want to focus on a few common themes I've noticed in these situations, and the way these themes come together to create what I call the knight in shining armor phenomenon.First, its important to bear in mind that one part of the entire … [Read more...]

Lost and Found: A Friendship, a Shunning, and an Apology

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While I talk a lot about my background here on the blog, I generally maintain some level of distance. Today I want to narrow that distance by sharing an email from a young woman who was a good friend of mine growing up. We'll call her Kate. Her email reduced me to tears and reveals a lot about just how this sort of culture functions---and about how and why shunning occurs.Kate was a good bit younger than I but was one of my closest friends during my high school years. She was homeschooled … [Read more...]

Dominance and Submission or a Cooperative Partnership?

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Supporters of patriarchal gender roles and hierarchical marriage relationships often argue that feminists want to pit men and women against each other, but what they don't realize is that by turning marriage into a relationship based on dominance and submission, they are the ones pitting men and women against each other. In seeking equality, feminism envisions relationships built not on dominance and submission but rather on communication and cooperation, companionship founded on mutual respect, … [Read more...]

Guest Post: Focus on the Family: Feminism is “the way of death”

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A Guest Post by Samantha[In this two-part series, Samantha offers her thoughts on a Focus on the Family radio interview with Nancy Leigh DeMoss and Mary Kassian, authors of True Woman 101: Divine Design.]Yesterday I went over the first half of Jim Daly and John Fuller’s interview with Nancy Leigh DeMoss and Mary Kassian over at Focus on the Family’s daily radio program. DeMoss and Kassian are promoting their new book, True Woman 101: Divine Design, an eight-week course in “biblical womanh … [Read more...]

Guest Post: Focus on the Family: “True strength . . . submits”

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A Guest Post by Samantha[In this two-part series, Samantha offers her thoughts on a Focus on the Family radio interview with Nancy Leigh DeMoss and Mary Kassian, authors of True Woman 101: Divine Design.]Tuesday and Wednesday (March 5 and March 6), Focus on the Family’s Jim Daly and John Fuller hosted Nancy Leigh DeMoss and Mary Kassian on their daily radio show. DeMoss and Kassian are currently promoting their new eight-week Bible study: True Woman 101: Divine Design. The jacket mat … [Read more...]

Mark Driscoll (Re)Invents Patriarchy

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You know what is interesting? Essentially every time conservative evangelical leaders wax on about patriarchy, they act like what they're preaching is new and shiny and totally different from that bad woman-hating patriarchy thing we had in the past. As an example of this, I give you Mark Driscoll's January sermon, "Real Men: Men and Marriage," which Ahab of the Republic of Gilead has transcribed for us. In it, Driscoll preaches the same-old age-old patriarchy but appears to think that what he's … [Read more...]


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