Guest Post: A Courtship Story, Part 2: Waiting and Hoping

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A Guest Post by MelissaOriginally posted on Permission to LiveNote: I'm reposting Melissa's series, originally written in February 2011, with her permission. Why now? Put simply, because it was one of the first things that came to my mind when I heard about Jessa Duggar courting. This is something I wish she could read. This is for Jessa. For all the posts in this series, click here.  Now that I had given up on being anything but what my parents wanted from me, I began to gain some sort of … [Read more...]

Guest Post: A Courtship Story, Part 1: Listen for the Singing

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A Guest Post by MelissaOriginally posted on Permission to LiveNote: I'm reposting Melissa's series, originally written in February 2011, with her permission. Why now? Put simply, because it was one of the first things that came to my mind when I heard about Jessa Duggar courting. This is something I wish she could read. This is for Jessa. For all the posts in this series, click here.  I begged my Mom to let me go to high school when I was 14. She was shocked by my request. How cou … [Read more...]

The Twisted Evil

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I write a lot here on the blog about Debi Pearl's Created To Be His Help Meet and Michael Pearl's To Train Up A Child. I think it's important to remember that there are people who wholeheartedly believe and follow both books. This isn't some abstract thing. For these individuals and families, this is real life. And the things the Pearls say---things that are, I might add, actually quite widespread in fundamentalist Christian circles far beyond the Pearls themselves---shape the directions of p … [Read more...]

When Christian Homeschooling Violates Title IX

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Bill Gothard has long been big in Christian homeschooling circles. Thanks to Jeri Loftland, I was recently pointed to a website on which Gothard lays out some of his ideas concerning education. I'm going to quote Gothard's list and then pull out a select few items for further discussion. So without further ado, on to Gothard's "Advanced Seminar Session 16: Successful Education."The ultimate goal of education is not to produce a degree, but to produce many godly generations. God … [Read more...]

College Was To Be My Dowry

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My dad told me he was going to pay for my college education as a dowry for my future husband. He said it would be wrong to settle my future husband with debt wracked up for my education when I was going to be a stay at home mom and would never work outside of the home anyway. This is what came to mind when I read the recent viral post Six Reasons Not To Send Your Daughter To College.If I was only ever supposed to be a stay at home mom, you may be wondering, why did my parents bother to send … [Read more...]

I Once Courted Too (Some Thoughts on Jessa Duggar)

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Reader Marguerite had this to say in a comment on a recent post about Jessa Duggar's courtship: Since I am not directly familiar with purity culture, I find this all very shocking. Jessa is an adult, and yet her father is dictating to her whom she can even associate with, reading all her texts, and in general completely controlling her life. I doubt she feels that she has any other options at this point, which makes her more or less a helpless pawn in her parents' hands. At twenty! I find this … [Read more...]

Guest Post: Courting a Stranger

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As you may know, the Duggars announced last week that their daughter Jessa is now courting. I've watched the conversation surrounding this announcement, and to be honest, my gut reaction has been to wish people would leave the poor girl alone. This is as close as Jessa is allowed to come to dating, and she almost certainly has all of the happy jitters that come with first love. I remember that time myself and have a lot of empathy for Jessa, and some of the more snarky responses I've seen have … [Read more...]


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