I Once Courted Too (Some Thoughts on Jessa Duggar)


Reader Marguerite had this to say in a comment on a recent post about Jessa Duggar's courtship: Since I am not directly familiar with purity culture, I find this all very shocking. Jessa is an adult, and yet her father is dictating to her whom she can even associate with, reading all her texts, and in general completely controlling her life. I doubt she feels that she has any other options at this point, which makes her more or less a helpless pawn in her parents' hands. At twenty! I find this … [Read more...]

Guest Post: Courting a Stranger


As you may know, the Duggars announced last week that their daughter Jessa is now courting. I've watched the conversation surrounding this announcement, and to be honest, my gut reaction has been to wish people would leave the poor girl alone. This is as close as Jessa is allowed to come to dating, and she almost certainly has all of the happy jitters that come with first love. I remember that time myself and have a lot of empathy for Jessa, and some of the more snarky responses I've seen have … [Read more...]

The Father-Removing Gay-Procuring Child Abuse Racket

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[Trigger warning for child abuse denialism]I promised in my earlier article on Stephen Baskerville's Faith & Reason lecture that I would devote more attention to his views on child abuse. Here I am, ready to fulfill that promise! To summarize Baskerville: First, mothers are the true abusers and it is removing the father from the home that is the real cause of child abuse. Second, child protective services exists to take children from innocent heterosexual families and sell them off to … [Read more...]

Patrick Henry College’s Faith & Reason Lecture: Rape, Domestic Violence, and Child Abuse Denialism

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[Trigger warning for rape, assault, and sexual harassment denialism]This past Friday, Stephen Baskerville delivered Patrick Henry College's annual (and mandatory) Faith & Reason lecture (you can read the full text here). Baskerville has been a professor of government at Patrick Henry College since 2007. Patrick Henry College, as you may remember if you are a regular reader, was founded by Michael Farris (founder of the Home School Legal Defense Association). Farris' desire was to educate a … [Read more...]

Guest Post: A Confession


A Guest Post by TimOriginally posted on Wine and MarbleTim blogs at Good and LostI have been avoiding this all day. All week. In one way or another, I’ve been avoiding this all my life.Some of you may think you know me, but you don’t, not really. You know a version of me, meticulously maintained, that I’ve spent my life pretending to be. And I am afraid — so very afraid — that if I let that image fall, you won’t like what you see. I’m afraid you’ll laugh at me, that you’ll think I … [Read more...]

Double Standards and Responsibility: An FYI Roundup

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Both yesterday and today, I have come upon an ever-growing stream of responses to the viral blog post, FYI (if you're a teenage girl). Some of them were so good I just couldn't leave them be without sharing them. So here, in this post, I'm going to offer a roundup of responses of sorts. Feel free to post additional responses you've come across in the comments, and I may add them here.First, of course, is my own post, FYI (A letter to my daughter Sally): Dear Sally,I saw something today … [Read more...]

Then Why Didn’t You Tell Us That, Mom?

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"I want you to know that I never actually believed everything in those Above Rubies magazines," my mom told me when I was visiting home a while back."Then why didn't you tell us that, mom?" I asked. "I read every issue of that magazine cover to cover, and I always thought it was completely approved material."I don't know why my mother made that admission to me when she did. It was before the Mother Jones article about Kathryn Joyce's new book on evangelical adoption, which sheds light on … [Read more...]