Double Standards and Responsibility: An FYI Roundup

Both yesterday and today, I have come upon an ever-growing stream of responses to the viral blog post, FYI (if you're a teenage girl). Some of them were so good I just couldn't leave them be without sharing them. So here, in this post, I'm going to offer a roundup of responses of sorts. Feel free to post additional responses you've come across in the comments, and I may add them here.First, of course, is my own post, FYI (A letter to my daughter Sally): Dear Sally,I saw something today … [Read more...]


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Then Why Didn’t You Tell Us That, Mom?

"I want you to know that I never actually believed everything in those Above Rubies magazines," my mom told me when I was visiting home a while back."Then why didn't you tell us that, mom?" I asked. "I read every issue of that magazine cover to cover, and I always thought it was completely approved material."I don't know why my mother made that admission to me when she did. It was before the Mother Jones article about Kathryn Joyce's new book on evangelical adoption, which sheds light on … [Read more...]


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A Few Leave . . . but Others Stay

I recently read a post by Lana that made me think about everyone I left behind when I left my conservative evangelical patriarchal homeschool upbringing. With all the [ex] conservative homeschooler blogs out there nowadays, people may be under the impression that homeschool fundamentalism has virtually disappeared among homeschool alumni. To be sure, this Christian movement among homeschool graduates is dying a very slow and painful death. But it is so far from over, and I have so many friends … [Read more...]


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If Women Won’t Vote My Way . . . They Shouldn’t Vote

One argument against women voting that I didn't mention in my recent post on the subject is that women lean left. The blog post I responded to mentioned that here: Based on the Bible, it is wrong for women to exercise authority over men. However, women voting can lead to a passing of laws that the majority of men would oppose. One example of this is abortion – more than 50% of men are against it, but more than 50% of women are for it, which is why it is legal. Interestingly enough, abortion is … [Read more...]


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Hey Ladies, Rock the Vote—by Not Voting

When I was sixteen, I was at a camp located in the fusion between "biblical" Christianity and capitalist patriotism. There was a man there with his children, and he was vetting me as a potential bride for one of his five strapping lads. Oh, this wasn't explicit---but in retrospect it was pretty obvious. Anyway, one question he asked me was what I thought about whether I thought women should vote. He explained that his wife did not. I think this may have been how I disqualified myself from being … [Read more...]


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“Ghost” Rapes in Mennonite Bolivia

Any time someone says "oh, but they're such good Christians, they could never do XYZ," I just want to bang my head against a wall. This is especially true with groups like the Amish and the Mennonites, and also in how I've seen people react to the Duggars' TLC show. "Look at them, raising big families, praying together, going back to the solid way things were in the good old days, not dependent on anyone---aren't they quaint and sweet and wholesome?" Look, no one is immune to doing terrible … [Read more...]


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Under Her Father’s Authority

In many ways, my upbringing and background isn't that weird. Yes, I had twice as many siblings as most people have cousins, but in general my upbringing was very normal---for the evangelical subculture, that is. But when I tell people about my background, the thing that always trips them up is the part about unmarried adult daughters being under their fathers' authority, to the point of requiring complete submission and obedience. This is . . . weird, even for the evangelical world. But in the … [Read more...]


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