Just Obey: Christian Patriarchy as Spiritual Abuse

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I have heard the term "spiritual abuse" thrown around the blogosphere lately and I just realized that I wasn't really sure of a good definition of the term. I did some digging around on the internet and found a variety of definitions and aspects. There doesn't seem to be one consensus on what the term means, exactly. Some bloggers give it a wide definition while others give it a very narrow one.But as I thought about spiritual abuse, I kept coming back to one thing. Spiritual abuse involves … [Read more...]

Theology 101: Divine Revelation and Spiritual Headship

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About a month ago a reader asked why, if evangelicalism was a religious tradition that emphasizes direct divine revelation, any evangelical would hold that God speaks to a woman through her husband or father rather than just speaking to her himself. How could those two ideas go together? This is a very good question, and it deserves an answer, so here we go!It is absolutely true that evangelicalism has long emphasized direct revelation from God. The idea was always that … [Read more...]

So you say you don’t hate gay people, Part II

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Yesterday we talked about how no matter how often Christians who opposes gay rights claim they don't hate gay people, their actions still hurt gay people. On some level, then, it doesn't matter whether these Christians actually hate gay people or not. But let's go ahead and explore that question, shall we? Can a person oppose another person's rights without hating that person? In other words, can a person oppose another person's rights for some reason other than hate?After all, Christians … [Read more...]

Dear Lisa: Let us offer you some hope

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Lisa of broken daughters recently wrote a post in which she admitted that even though she is in a wonderful relationship with a wonderful young man, she is scared to death of marriage and can't picture herself married. Now, I don't think there is anything wrong with people choosing not to marry, and plenty make that choice. It's just that Lisa's reasons are as follows: "But I’m afraid of marriage. I’m afraid of what marriage is to me, what I have been taught marriage is. You see, I only know two … [Read more...]

Worthwhile Reads: Doug Wilson’s Rants

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Hey guess what? Sierra has a sprained wrist but it seems I somehow still managed to get her to write a post in spite of that!Doug Wilson Continues Attention-Seeking Rants Against Rachel Held Evans, Feminists Seriously, what would this guy do for a living without the feminist movement? He should be paying us all royalties for the privilege of making a living setting up and burning down straw feminists. Also, I never thought I'd see Sauron discussed in the same post as Doug Wilson...but for … [Read more...]

Raised Quiverfull: Anne’s Story

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A post in the Raised Quiverfull series.Part 1: Introductory Questions Question 1: Please introduce yourself before we get started. Are you married or unmarried? Are you in school, holding down a job, or staying home? Do you have children? What religious beliefs or lack thereof do you ascribe to today? Provide whatever additional information you like.I'm Anne (aka quicksilverqueen). I'm married to the most wonderful, loving guy anybody could ask for! I currently stay at home to take care … [Read more...]

Command v. Suggestion: “Wives, submit!” and “Husbands, love!”

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Any Christian Patriarchy advocate reading my post yesterday would surely have been shaking his or her head and saying "but it's all about servant leadership, not a dictatorship!" or "women may be commanded to submit to their husbands, but God also commands men to love their wives!" These are the two go-to excuses made by defenders of Christian Patriarchy, who argue that those men who are dictatorial and domineering simply aren't doing it right.I recently read a post on Sober Second Look cal … [Read more...]


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