When Marriage Looks Like the Only Escape


Over the weekend I spent time speaking with yet another young Christian homeschool graduate considering early marriage. We'll call her Jen. I cannot begin to tell you how many times I have heard this story. Speaking with this Jen, I was reminded, once again, of my own youthful wedding, and the decisions I made at the time.Jen told me she felt if she got married, her parents would give her breathing room---and stop trying to sabotage her relationship with her boyfriend. The sad thing is, … [Read more...]

The Cold, Unforgiving World of Geoffrey Botkin


By AhabOriginally posted on Republic of GileadSome time ago, after I reviewed the Botkins' "Ready for Real Life" webinar series, a reader pointed me to a 2013 sermon by Geoffrey Botkin. On September 29th, 2013, Botkin delivered a sermon at Christ the King Church in Centerville, Tennessee (where he serves as an elder) entitled "How Bad Company Corrupts Good Morals, Part III", available at Sermon Audio. Geoffrey Botkin is the head of the Western Conservatory of the Arts, a ministry that pr … [Read more...]

What Courtship Was for Me


I grew up in a community where courtship was not only the ideal but also the only option considered godly. Dating was for worldly people who didn't care about things like purity, marriage, or family. And yet, I don't think my parents actually sat down beforehand and hashed out how they were going to handle things. When I was grown and entered the world of romantic relationships, they seemed to be flying by the seat of their pants---in other words, their approach changed over time.My own " … [Read more...]

What the Ruff, the Spotted Hyena, and the Cuttlefish Taught Me about Gender and Sexuality


Evangelicals support a strict gender binary and see the patriarchal family structure---with a breadwinning father and a homemaking mother---as both natural and in some sense biologically universal. The Bible frequently talks about male and female animals, and, growing up in an evangelical home, I remember being taught that there is no homosexuality in the animal kingdom. That certain animals mate for life was also emphasized in an effort to enforce patriarchal norms.Now sure, I also learned … [Read more...]

Fifty Shades of Evangelical Justifications for Patriarchy


While researching my previous blog post on Fifty Shades of Grey, I came upon an article by evangelical blogger Owen Strachan titled How “50 Shades of Grey” Harms Women & Jesus Saves Them. I'm going to deconstruct this blog post piece by piece to really dig into the problems with its logic. I should note that Strachan is not a nobody. He's a professor at Boyce College and president of the Council on Biblical Manhood & Womanhood.Let's turn to Strachan's article:We commonly hear toda … [Read more...]

When Men Wax Poetic about My Womb


I want to start out by saying that right now, I am very frustrated. Very very frustrated. Men need to stop talking about---and especially for---women until they stop and freaking listen. I wrote last weekend about some of Matt Walsh's statements about birth control, but today, I have more to say. Walsh wrote this, for example: The birth control pill is a dramatic and potentially harmful “medication” designed to “cure” a natural function of a woman’s body. It seems that men who develop and pu … [Read more...]

“Women’s Cultures” Reminds Us that the Catholic Church Is Still Out of Touch with Women

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By AhabOriginally posted on Republic of GileadAs of late, Catholic leaders have been showing their true colors regarding their attitudes toward women. For example, the 2014 Humanum conference was brimming with retrograde messages about gender complimentarity, marriage, and family. Cardinal Raymond Leo Burke drew ire earlier this year when he decried the "feminized" atmosphere of the church. Now, the Catholic Church is being ridiculed for a misguided conference on women's issues at the … [Read more...]