Command v. Suggestion: “Wives, submit!” and “Husbands, love!”

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Any Christian Patriarchy advocate reading my post yesterday would surely have been shaking his or her head and saying "but it's all about servant leadership, not a dictatorship!" or "women may be commanded to submit to their husbands, but God also commands men to love their wives!" These are the two go-to excuses made by defenders of Christian Patriarchy, who argue that those men who are dictatorial and domineering simply aren't doing it right.I recently read a post on Sober Second Look cal … [Read more...]

Christian Patriarchy to Men: You don’t have to grow up!

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What are the qualities we generally associate with maturity? The ability to see things from others' perspectives? The ability to accept that the world doesn't revolve around you, and that things don't always go the way you want them to, and that you just have to deal with that? The ability to cooperate with others, to communicate and find compromises that everyone can be happy with?Yeah, under Christian Patriarchy, a man doesn't have to do any of that. Because he's the head of the family, … [Read more...]

Oh, for heaven’s sake!

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Doug Wilson's daughters have joined in the fray, defending their father against the recent outcry of the blogosphere (see my last post for more on that). I just read their defenses, and I just can't even. I'm sitting here bone tired from a day of blogging and dissertation writing and baby watching, and there's no way I want to write a whole post responding to their defenses. Fortunately, I don't have to. Sierra has already replied to their posts, saying everything I would and more:Doug … [Read more...]

Marital Rape? Doug Wilson on Dominance and Submission in the Marriage Bed

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*Trigger warning for survivors of sexual or domestic violence*The blogosphere I follow has lit up in horror over the last day or so in reaction to a blog post which makes a connection between the prevalence of rape in our society and sex as practiced in the marriage bed today, and, some have argued, responds by endorsing marital rape. This post, which contained a lengthy quotation by prominent conservative evangelical reformed pastor and leader Doug Wilson, was posted by Jared Wilson of The G … [Read more...]

Raised Quiverfull: Skarlet’s Story

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A post in the Raised Quiverfull series.Part 1: Introductory Questions 1) Please introduce yourself before we get started. Are you married or unmarried? Are you in school, holding down a job, or staying home? Do you have children? What religious beliefs or lack thereof do you ascribe to today? Provide whatever additional information you like.I’m Skarlet, I’m 23 and I’m married, and do not currently have any children. I’m finishing up my last two classes in order to graduate with my Bachel … [Read more...]

Vision Forum views food as a HUGE THEOLOGICAL ISSUE

Vision Forum has just put out a Petition for Prayer: This week Vision Forum Ministries will endeavor to do something we think timely and significant. We recognize that the mission before us is both dangerous and risky. Once more we walk into the breach of controversy, this time by addressing a very difficult subject fraught with inherent challenges, not the least of which are the potential of error from confusion, extremism, trendism, indifference, apathy, and worse—theological heresy. Wow, t … [Read more...]

Worthwhile Reads: Patriarchy is all the same

Patriarchal marriage and “responsibility” on A Sober Second Look But most of the interpretations of the Qur’an and of Islamic law that we encountered when we first converted did not (and would never have) used the word “patriarchal” to describe their vision of the “ideal” Muslim marriage. Nor did they put much stress on the duty of the wife to obey the husband. Instead, they focused on the idea that the family (supposedly, like every other social institution) needs a leader, or it will collapse. … [Read more...]


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