If he’s Jesus and I’m the church, that’s not equal

Bride of Christ

"Husbands and wives are equal, they just have different roles." Do you have any idea how many times I've heard that? At one point I believed it, but somewhere along the line I realized it couldn't be true. Why? Because the husband's role always ends up being "being in charge" while the wife's role is "doing as told." I'm sorry, but that's not equal. That can't be equal.But I also remember hearing another constant meme - that marriage is a reflection of the relationship between Jesus and the … [Read more...]

“Women and Children First”: An age-old anti-feminist myth

Titanic

I've written a lot about Vision Forum, and about their fetishization of the Titanic, and this week I came upon something of a bombshell. You see, that whole "women and children first" thing is a myth - a fabrication - originally created in order to combat the fight for women's suffrage. When Vision Forum touts the "chivalry" of the men on the Titanic, it not only perpetuates a lie but also uses this lie to do the same thing the lie was created in 1912 to do - fight against women's rights. Let's … [Read more...]

Worshiping the Man: Christian Patriarchy as Idolatry

idolatry

I just realized something that should have been obvious a long time ago. Christian Patriarchy is idolatry.See, Sarah Over the Moon recently wrote a piece in which she argued that picturing God as male, in the shape of a man, and speaking of him as king or father is idolatrous because it makes God into a man, brings God down to an earthly level, instead of understanding God as "an analogy that aids human understanding and breaks earthly power structures." In other words, patriarchy lowers God … [Read more...]

Just Obey: Christian Patriarchy as Spiritual Abuse

patriarchy

I have heard the term "spiritual abuse" thrown around the blogosphere lately and I just realized that I wasn't really sure of a good definition of the term. I did some digging around on the internet and found a variety of definitions and aspects. There doesn't seem to be one consensus on what the term means, exactly. Some bloggers give it a wide definition while others give it a very narrow one.But as I thought about spiritual abuse, I kept coming back to one thing. Spiritual abuse involves … [Read more...]

Theology 101: Divine Revelation and Spiritual Headship

divine revelation

About a month ago a reader asked why, if evangelicalism was a religious tradition that emphasizes direct divine revelation, any evangelical would hold that God speaks to a woman through her husband or father rather than just speaking to her himself. How could those two ideas go together? This is a very good question, and it deserves an answer, so here we go!It is absolutely true that evangelicalism has long emphasized direct revelation from God. The idea was always that … [Read more...]

So you say you don’t hate gay people, Part II

gay marriage2

Yesterday we talked about how no matter how often Christians who opposes gay rights claim they don't hate gay people, their actions still hurt gay people. On some level, then, it doesn't matter whether these Christians actually hate gay people or not. But let's go ahead and explore that question, shall we? Can a person oppose another person's rights without hating that person? In other words, can a person oppose another person's rights for some reason other than hate?After all, Christians … [Read more...]

Dear Lisa: Let us offer you some hope

marriage

Lisa of broken daughters recently wrote a post in which she admitted that even though she is in a wonderful relationship with a wonderful young man, she is scared to death of marriage and can't picture herself married. Now, I don't think there is anything wrong with people choosing not to marry, and plenty make that choice. It's just that Lisa's reasons are as follows: "But I’m afraid of marriage. I’m afraid of what marriage is to me, what I have been taught marriage is. You see, I only know two … [Read more...]


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