What’s the most important thing about you? Oh right.

Vision Forum. When the catalog hit our counters we kids always crowded around. Or, I should say, catalogs. There were three. The first included books, mostly on theology and family living. Also videos and CDs. Mom and dad bought a lot of things from that catalog. The second was the All-American Boys Adventure catalog. That's the one we kids fought over. Wrist rockets, science kids, water canteens four outside explorations . . . just about every item in that one ended up circled as Christmas … [Read more...]


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What’s in a name? Honor, Providence, and Arrow

I knew three different girls named Mercy as a child, though Bible names were more common in my community. For every Faith or Patience or Grace, there were half a dozen Elijahs and Hannahs and Rebeccas. But there were no Tiffanys or Stephanies or Ryans. Names are very important in families in the orbit of the Quiverfull and Christian Patriarchy movements.Let me offer an example. Doug Phillips is the president of Vision Forum. His children are named Joshua, Justice, Liberty, Jubilee, Faith E … [Read more...]


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“A truly loving husband won’t take advantage”

A twitterer recently tweeted this at me: "In marriage it is her duty but if her husband truly loves her he will never make her have sex just because they are married." If I had a dollar for every time someone said something like this, I'd be rich. It goes like this (and Debi Pearl's books are really chock full of it): God requires women to submit to their husbands, but truly loving husbands won't take unfair advantage of that. Let's dissect this, shall we?Requirement: According to t … [Read more...]


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Raised Quiverfull: Chryssie’s Story

A post in the Raised Quiverfull series.Part 1: Introductory Questions Question 1: Please introduce yourself before we get started. Are you married or unmarried? Are you in school, holding down a job, or staying home? Do you have children? What religious beliefs or lack thereof do you ascribe to today? Provide whatever additional information you like.In an effort to be anonymous, I’ll go by Chryssie, and I am 21. I am the oldest of 9; 5 boys and 4 girls. I recently got married as of May, … [Read more...]


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CTBHHM: Michael Pearl’s Stamp of Approval

Created to Be His Help Meet, pp. 13Created to Be His Help Meet, a popular evangelical/fundamentalist marriage manual, begins with a one page introduction by author Debi Pearl's husband, Michael Pearl. This is important, because it signals that Michael approved of his wife's writing a book. In evangelical and fundamentalist circles, whether they embrace "complementarianism" or actually use the word "patriarchy," women aren't supposed to write books, etc., without their husband's "blessing." … [Read more...]


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From “Legal” Coverture to “Visionary” Coverture

You remember that piece I wrote a while ago about a World Magazine writer explaining why she changed her name when getting married? Well, her husband has commented on that piece arguing that I misunderstood what was said in the essay, so I made added a correction to the end of my post. But doing so made me think again about the whole name changing thing - and about why it was seen as completely natural, obvious, and mandatory in the conservative evangelical community in which I was raised. And … [Read more...]


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Raised Quiverfull: Kiery’s Story

A post in the Raised Quiverfull series.Part 1: Introductory Questions Question 1: Please introduce yourself before we get started. Are you married or unmarried? Are you in school, holding down a job, or staying home? Do you have children? What religious beliefs or lack thereof do you ascribe to today? Provide whatever additional information you like.I’m 21, married and building my empire, which is a fancy way of saying I’m employing myself while not making very much money. I have a seaso … [Read more...]


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