Dolls, Yes; Ballerinas, No

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It may surprise some readers to know that in spite of my parents' patriarchal beliefs, they gave one of my brothers a doll for Christmas one year---because he had begged for a doll of his own. My parents believed that my brothers were preparing to be fathers, and that that meant boys playing with dolls was perfectly acceptable.There's lots more, too. There's the brother who built his own dollhouse so that he could get in on dollhouse play with his sisters. He carefully fashioned the rooms, … [Read more...]

Voddie Baucham, Daughters, and “Virgin Brides”

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Last summer, Michael Farris denounced patriarchy. Or, so he claimed.Among those who homeschool for religious reasons, there is a subculture sometimes called the "patriarchy movement." Michael Farris, founder of the powerful Home School Legal Defense Association (HSLDA) and probably the most well-known leader in the Christian homeschooling world, has for decades espoused the beliefs of this movement. But in the last year and a half, two of its leaders, Bill Gothard and Doug Phillips, lost th … [Read more...]

Crosspost: How Modesty Teachings Hurt Men Too

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By Darcy Originally posted on Darcy's Heart-Stirrings Someone posted this article today on Facebook, from a famous Christian author and blogger: If Only She Knew ~ Thoughts On Modesty I read this against my better judgment and honestly, I’m sitting here furious. I have said for years that boys in conservative Christian homes are conditioned to struggle with “modesty” and everyday normal things regarding female bodies. That they are programmed to see non-erotic body parts as erotic. This artic … [Read more...]

#DefendTheDuggars (Sort of)

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By Kathryn ElizabethOriginally posted on The Life and Opinions of Kathryn Elizabeth, PersonI’ve said it before on social media and I’ll say it again here. The mocking of Duggar children is not something I can get behind. Criticize the Duggar parents for what they’re doing to their children, criticize Jim Bob, Michelle, and Josh for their anti-LGBT activism, that’s fair game. Mocking the kids isn’t.Kids like the Duggars, who aren’t being given a real education (you don’t get a real edu … [Read more...]

Do Traditional Gender Roles Lead to Good Sex? No.

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I recently read a blog post from several years ago that had me doing that whole "but . . . wait . . . what . . . NO" thing throughout my reading of it. I thought I'd share, because illustrates something we've seen before---the idea that anything good in a marriage must of necessity be a result of following the gender roles God laid out, not, you know, a result of things like communication or compromise. I've covered posts in the past by women who are functionally living in egalitarian marriages … [Read more...]

On the Duggars and the Locus of Outrage

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I recently received the following email:Hi Libby Anne, I’m a long-time reader of your blog, so I know you occasionally write about the Duggar family. Well, recently I heard about a fairly popular petition to get the show “19 Kids and Counting” cancelled. Maybe you have also heard this, but if not, here is one news story about it: http://www.cbsnews.com/news/thousands-petition-against-19-kids-and-counting-for-lgbtq-fear-mongering/ Supposedly, this was due to comments they made against gay m … [Read more...]

Punishment Has No Place in Marriage*

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I grew up in an evangelical family, raised by parents who believed that husbands are to lead and wives are to submit. But I don't recall hearing anything about husbands punishing their wives for lack of obedience. When disobedient wives came up, husbands were generally advised to simply love and pray for them. So I have to admit to being rather horrified by some blog posts I came upon this week.First I read a blog post by blogger Sunshine Mary, in which she wrote that her husband refused to r … [Read more...]


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