Crosspost: How Modesty Teachings Hurt Men Too

By Darcy Originally posted on Darcy's Heart-Stirrings Someone posted this article today on Facebook, from a famous Christian author and blogger: If Only She Knew ~ Thoughts On Modesty I read this against my better judgment and honestly, I’m sitting here furious. I have said for years that boys in conservative Christian homes are conditioned to struggle with “modesty” and everyday normal things regarding female bodies. That they are programmed to see non-erotic body parts as erotic. This artic … [Read more...]


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#DefendTheDuggars (Sort of)

By Kathryn ElizabethOriginally posted on The Life and Opinions of Kathryn Elizabeth, PersonI’ve said it before on social media and I’ll say it again here. The mocking of Duggar children is not something I can get behind. Criticize the Duggar parents for what they’re doing to their children, criticize Jim Bob, Michelle, and Josh for their anti-LGBT activism, that’s fair game. Mocking the kids isn’t.Kids like the Duggars, who aren’t being given a real education (you don’t get a real edu … [Read more...]


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Do Traditional Gender Roles Lead to Good Sex? No.

I recently read a blog post from several years ago that had me doing that whole "but . . . wait . . . what . . . NO" thing throughout my reading of it. I thought I'd share, because illustrates something we've seen before---the idea that anything good in a marriage must of necessity be a result of following the gender roles God laid out, not, you know, a result of things like communication or compromise. I've covered posts in the past by women who are functionally living in egalitarian marriages … [Read more...]


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On the Duggars and the Locus of Outrage

I recently received the following email:Hi Libby Anne, I’m a long-time reader of your blog, so I know you occasionally write about the Duggar family. Well, recently I heard about a fairly popular petition to get the show “19 Kids and Counting” cancelled. Maybe you have also heard this, but if not, here is one news story about it: http://www.cbsnews.com/news/thousands-petition-against-19-kids-and-counting-for-lgbtq-fear-mongering/ Supposedly, this was due to comments they made against gay m … [Read more...]


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Punishment Has No Place in Marriage*

I grew up in an evangelical family, raised by parents who believed that husbands are to lead and wives are to submit. But I don't recall hearing anything about husbands punishing their wives for lack of obedience. When disobedient wives came up, husbands were generally advised to simply love and pray for them. So I have to admit to being rather horrified by some blog posts I came upon this week.First I read a blog post by blogger Sunshine Mary, in which she wrote that her husband refused to r … [Read more...]


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The Courtship Mask

I recently posted excerpts from an article written by Shoshanna Pearl, which began like this: When I got married, I expected my husband to be that alpha male that my dad was; but he was not. We would be driving down the road and he would say, “Where do you want to eat?” I would smile and say, “Wherever you want to eat,” expecting him to quickly turn in to this or that place without hesitation. Instead, he would smile and say, “I don’t care. I want to take you where you want to go. Where would yo … [Read more...]


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But What If Your Husband Tells You Not to Submit?

When I write about submission, especially in the context of Debi Pearl's book, Created To Be His Help Meet, commenters frequently ask what Debi would say to a woman whose husband told her not to submit. I think we have our answer, or at least as close as we're going to get to an answer. It's an article by Debi's daughter Shoshanna Easling. My Dad was not the type of guy to check with you before he made a decision. We would be driving down the road when all of a sudden he would pull in to a … [Read more...]


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