Charting Your (Wife’s) Monthly Cycle

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If you're reading the reviews of Michael Pearl's Created To Need A Help Meet, you will know that he recently advised young husbands to track their wives' cycles so they would know in advance when their wives were going to go all hormonal and ballistic on them---when it was their time of the month. Most of those who commented responded in horror to Michael's suggestion, and I was horrified too---but in my case I was also struck by the familiarity.My father tracks my mother's cycle on his own … [Read more...]

Matthew Chapman, Child Marriage, and Homeschooling

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Yesterday I wrote about my concerns about child marriage in the Christian homeschooling world. In particular, I wrote about the Maranatha story, and included a mention of the marriage of Maranatha's daughter Lauren at age 16 to a man ten years her senior. I included a wedding picture from Lauren's wedding in the post, in order to make what I was talking about real. Blogger Lana of Wide Open Ground, who knew Lauren's family growing up, expressed concern at my use of that picture, saying that … [Read more...]

Testosterone: Biblical Patriarchy’s Kryptonite

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Several weeks ago, I talked to my mom about Doug Phillips' affair and the closing of Vision Forum Ministries. My mom talked about how sad that was, and how bad she felt for Doug's wife and children, all of which I'd been expecting. But she didn't stop there, and I hadn't expected her to."Well," she concluded, shaking her head, "he's male."And she clearly felt that explained it. But I was not content to let that go. "Actually mom, most guys manage to not cheat on their wives," I told her. … [Read more...]

Child Marriage and the Rest of the Maranatha Story

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Maranatha's courtship story has been told and retold in homeschooling circles at least since the 1990s, and is held up by many as an ideal. But there's one thing that is routinely left out of the story. Just how old was Maranatha Owen when she married Matthew Chapman at the culmination of a parent-guided courtship/betrothal process?We often think about child marriage as something that happens in other countries, but not here. I've generally thought of it that way too, even with my … [Read more...]

My Father, an Enigma

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"Libby, you could be an engineer. You have the mind for it."My dad made this comment while we were in the car, driving by a factory of some sort. I was probably around sixteen. My dad's comment was completely offhand, and I didn't bother to respond. Inside, though, I was baffled. Why would my dad suggest such a thing? Didn't he realize that my lot in life, the lot God had designed for me, was to be a homemaker, raising children, caring for my husband, and tending the home? Couldn't he see … [Read more...]

The Daughters’ Role; Or, Enough with the Blame Already!

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I was thinking today about Doug Phillips' affair when something came to my mind that made me rather uncomfortable. It's fairly common in evangelical and fundamentalist circles to put at least some of the blame on a man's wife when he has an affair. After all, the logic goes, she clearly didn't keep him occupied and contented. But within Vision Forum circles, this has actually been taken a step further. A lot of men are leaving their wives for younger women because they yearn for attention from … [Read more...]

It depends upon what the meaning of the word “know” is

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This from Doug Phillips' original "Statement of resignation": There has been serious sin in my life for which God has graciously brought me to repentance. I have confessed my sin to my wife and family, my local church, and the board of Vision Forum Ministries.  I engaged in a lengthy, inappropriate relationship with a woman. While we did not “know” each other in a Biblical sense, it was nevertheless inappropriately romantic and affectionate. This from Doug Phillips' recent "Clarification on Res … [Read more...]


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