Counseling in the Hands of Emotionally Abusive Parents

One summer home from college, my parents insisted that I meet with our pastor. I was questioning evangelicalism and exploring other Christian faith traditions, and my parents were very concerned about me. So they set up a meeting and sent me off. I could have refused, I suppose, but I was living with them and dependent on them for transportation, so I really wan't in a place to put up too much of a fuss. The meeting could have been a whole lot worse, and besides, it was just the one meeting. Mo … [Read more...]


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When Up Is Down and Down Is Up, Submission Edition

I recently came upon an old article explaining the concept of wifely submission. While I'm unsure who wrote it, and it appears to be from the 1990s, it's similar enough to the ideas taught by many evangelicals and fundamentalists that it bears addressing.There are a lot of misconceptions about submission and submissive people.  Before we can intelligently consider what the Bible has to say on the subject of submissive wives we need to clear these misconceptions out of our way.  Let me begin w … [Read more...]


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World Magazine’s Hypocrisy on Patriarchy and Child Abuse

Growing up in an evangelical home, I read World Magazine regularly. Today, I'm honestly not sure World knows what direction it is headed. Over the past year or so, the publication has been simultaneously distancing itself from the patriarchy movement within Christian homeschooling and promoting that same movement, and simultaneously calling for the self-policing of child abuse in Christian communities and allying itself with organizations actively involved in child abuse coverups.This past Ap … [Read more...]


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Can Heitman Prevent His Daughter from Going to College?

Pastor Karl Heitman recently wrote a blog post titled "2 Reasons Why My Daughter Will Not Go to College." I pledged to myself that I will not sacrifice my daughter on *the altar of men* by sending her out of my home, care, and protection at age 18 just so that she can get a degree and achieve some worldly status. I will count those years as a precious time for my wife and me to prepare her for the wonderful task that’s ahead. The job of being a wife and mother is a high calling and I would a … [Read more...]


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On Transgender Men and “Living Life As a Woman”

In my post earlier today, I wrote the following: If you are a non-transgender man, please understand that you have no experience living life as a woman. An exchange took place in the comments that is worth highlighting.First, reader Isaac had this to say:Re: Trans men having lived experience "as women"---I think this can be somewhat true, but it's an idea to apply carefully and lightly. Each trans man has a different experience in which he may experience more or less misogyny directed … [Read more...]


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Is Sam Harris Sexist?

I recently wrote about League of the South's Michael Peroutka's denial that he is racist. The organization he says taught him everything he knows openly promotes secession and the creation of a white Christian South, but because it also eschews racial hatred Peroutka is aghast at the charges of racism. In fact, he has accused those charging him with racism of playing a “cynical, dishonest race-card-smear game.” It was this situation that my mind was drawn back to as I read Sam Harris's recent pos … [Read more...]


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From Humiliation to Cooperation

Yesterday, I wrote about an article in Time Magazine's online parenting section written by Focus on the Family's Jared Pingleton. In that article Pingleton addressed the Adrian Peterson child abuse controversy. My main argument in my own post was that by misunderstanding the dynamics of abuse, Pingleton both erased abusers and reinforced abusers' justifications for their actions.Today I want to address the rest of Pingleton's article---namely, his advice on how to properly apply corporal … [Read more...]


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