How Treating Sexual Thoughts as “Sin” Undermines Relationships

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As an evangelical child and adolescent, I grew up thinking that I would marry a man who would spend his entire life struggling with lustful thoughts---that he would need an accountability partner to help prevent him from cheating on me and that from time to time he would come to me and confess some "sexual sin," whether that be sexual thoughts or pornography use. I anticipated standing by my man as he spent his life battling with sexual desire. And then I grew up and married a guy who doesn't e … [Read more...]

It Took This for People to Listen?

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Last fall a petition was created calling on TLC to cancel 19 Kids and Counting after the Duggars deleted photos of gay and lesbian couples from their facebook page (they had called for happily married couples to post pictures of themselves, but apparently only meant heterosexual couples). At the time, I wrote a post I titled On the Duggars and the Locus of Outrage. My words then are still relevant today, in the wake of revelations that Josh Duggar sexually abused five girls in two families as a t … [Read more...]

How Christian Culture Excuses Sex Offenders

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Over the past week, as I have followed the response to the revelation that Josh Duggar sexually molested five girls as a teen, I have grown only more disheartened. At times I've started to hyperventilate. Many Christians are placing more emphasis on protecting Josh than on protecting his victims. Just as many have proven themselves unable to distinguish between consensual premarital sexual contact and nonconsensual premarital sexual contact. Even more have acted as though forgiveness should n … [Read more...]

When the Perpetrators Matter More than the Victims

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In March 2002, Jim Bob Duggar found out that his fourteen-year-old son, Josh, was sexually molesting prepubescent girls. Jim Bob did not say anything about this to the authorities until July 2003, even as it continued to happen and the list of victims grew. And in the wake of these revelations, I have been absolutely horrified by the number of people who have said they would not have immediately reported their fourteen-year-old son for molesting prepubescent girls either.I have a … [Read more...]

Why Josh Duggar’s “Teenage Mistakes” Matter

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Last week it was revealed that Josh Duggar sexually assaulted five girls in two families, some as young as five, when he was a teenager. This took place over the course of a year. Josh's father, Jim Bob, did not report the incidents to law enforcement until 16 months after the initial incident, and even then only did so to a family friend who then failed to file a report. The incidents came to the attention of the authorities in 2006, but by then the statute of limitations had passed. Any c … [Read more...]

Josh Duggar and the Tale of Two Boxes

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In the wake of revelations that Josh Duggar sexually molested five girls in two families as a teenager, I've seen some Duggar supporters argue that progressives and liberals don't have any room to criticize Josh given that . . . well, let me just show you:Text as follows: If this boy had been experimenting with girls in a non-Christian family, then he would have been encouraged. I know a family that were proudly showing photos of the their teenage son on a trip to Disneyland … [Read more...]

Anna Duggar and the Silencing Power of Forgiveness

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I have been coming upon more and more truly excellent commentary in the aftermath of the revelation that Josh Duggar sexually molested five girls in two families as a teenager---and that his parents, their elders, and local law enforcement covered this up. There is Samantha's How Josh Duggar Is Getting Away with It, for example, and Kathryn Elizabeth's Josh Duggar Says He's Sorry. So What? I've seen defenders argue that we shouldn't be airing the family's private affairs publicly, and that this … [Read more...]


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