On the Duggars and the Locus of Outrage

I recently received the following email:Hi Libby Anne, I’m a long-time reader of your blog, so I know you occasionally write about the Duggar family. Well, recently I heard about a fairly popular petition to get the show “19 Kids and Counting” cancelled. Maybe you have also heard this, but if not, here is one news story about it: http://www.cbsnews.com/news/thousands-petition-against-19-kids-and-counting-for-lgbtq-fear-mongering/ Supposedly, this was due to comments they made against gay m … [Read more...]


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Sex and Respect

A recent post got me thinking about what led me to give up the idea that a man choosing to wait until marriage to have sex with his significant other was a sign of respect for her. There was a time, of course, when I held this view very strongly. I had been raised to view that any young man who would even consider having sex with a young woman before marriage did not respect her, and that any relationship built on that foundation would be troubled.While in college I met a young man---Sean. I … [Read more...]


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Punishment Has No Place in Marriage*

I grew up in an evangelical family, raised by parents who believed that husbands are to lead and wives are to submit. But I don't recall hearing anything about husbands punishing their wives for lack of obedience. When disobedient wives came up, husbands were generally advised to simply love and pray for them. So I have to admit to being rather horrified by some blog posts I came upon this week.First I read a blog post by blogger Sunshine Mary, in which she wrote that her husband refused to r … [Read more...]


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Sexual Repression, the Duggar Parents, and Mine

When people on the outside think about fundamentalists and conservative evangelicals and others who teach that sex before marriage is sin, they often seem to have this picture of people who are completely sexually repressed, who feel shame about having sex and can't bring themselves to say the word "sex." Now I'm not denying that such people exist---they certainly do. What I want to point out is simply that this does not describe all fundamentalists and conservative evangelicals who teach that … [Read more...]


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Dispelling Some Duggar Rumors

The Stir has been coming out with some "interesting" reports on Jessa Duggar and Ben Seewald's wedding. According to writers for The Stir, Jessa and Ben's decision to have their first kiss in private was made in the moment, and wasn't something the Duggar parents knew of ahead of time (or were very happy with either), and also according to writers for The Stir, when Jinger went back to get Jessa at the conclusion of her private moment with Ben, the couple were caught in the middle having sex. … [Read more...]


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What Kirk Cameron Doesn’t Know about Jessa Duggar and Ben Seewald

I really can't let this go by without commenting on it. It seems Kirk Cameron took his daughters to Jessa Duggar's wedding because he wanted them to see the wedding of a couple that chose not to kiss until marriage---to serve as an example, of course. As a read through a news article that quoted Kirk Cameron explaining this, I found myself becoming both angry and frustrated. I don't understand how people so much older than I can be so clueless about relationships. It boggles the … [Read more...]


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Don’t Try to Fix It—Pray!

I recently came upon this image:Text: When life doesn't fit, don't worry, be critical, or try to fix it. Instead, take your problem to Jesus and leave it there. It's one thing to pray in addition to actually doing things to fix a problem in your life, but praying instead of doing things to fix a problem in your life is something else altogether, and that seems to be what Max Lucado is promoting here.Of course, this idea that prayer alone can be sufficient to fix a problem is whe … [Read more...]


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