How We Disagree

In a conversation on an earlier post about my comment policy, one reader said this: I think a huge reason for the anger that you can encounter here is that this place is pretty united by going against beliefs that cause harm. So when there's someone who doesn't agree, people get mad because their beliefs are harming others, so fuck them! They're clearly a horrible person, so we don't give a fuck how we treat them!But I used to believe a lot of those things, and while they were horrible … [Read more...]


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When Demons Are Real

I'm sure by now nearly every one of you has heard about Arkansas state representative Justin Harris's decision to "rehome" his two adopted daughters with a man who then sexually abused them. Most of you have probably heard, too, about the impetus for Justin's decision---that he believed the girls were possessed by demons. Justin called in specialists to conduct an exorcism and kept the girls separated because he believed they could communicate telepathically.I might very well think this s … [Read more...]


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Bob Jones University Rejects Key Recommendations of the GRACE Report

Remember when I wrote about GRACE's investigation of how Bob Jones University handles sexual assault and other forms of sexual abuse? Well, GRACE released their report in December and BJU has mulled their course of action for several months now, but is now moving ahead---rejecting some of the GRACE report's key recommendations.To be fair to BJU, they have made some changes in recent years. A full-time women’s counselor was hired in 2012. In 2013, the university’s policies on sexual abuse wer … [Read more...]


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What Courtship Was for Me

I grew up in a community where courtship was not only the ideal but also the only option considered godly. Dating was for worldly people who didn't care about things like purity, marriage, or family. And yet, I don't think my parents actually sat down beforehand and hashed out how they were going to handle things. When I was grown and entered the world of romantic relationships, they seemed to be flying by the seat of their pants---in other words, their approach changed over time.My own " … [Read more...]


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Sorting Out the Good from the Bad

In yesterday's blog post, I compared my relationship with my own children with my mother's relationship with my younger siblings, and with me as a child. I wrote as follows: As my own children have grown, it has become striking how different the relationship I have with them is from the relationship my mother has with my younger siblings who still live at home. Her relationship with her children is built on authority and obedience; my relationship with mine is built on mutual respect and trust. … [Read more...]


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HSLDA on those “Radically Atheistic” Public Schools

As my regular readers will know, I am in favor of allowing homeschooled students to play sports in their local public schools. Perhaps surprisingly, the Home School Legal Defense Association (HSLDA) has long remained neutral on sports access bills, declining to directly oppose them but refusing to support them. I've heard concern that allowing homeschooled children to participate in sports would require some form of academic oversight, but then that oversight would only apply to those who volunt … [Read more...]


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The unBiblical Tea Party Christian

I recently came upon some remarks Republican John Johnston of Indiana made about the poor while campaigning for Indiana House of Representatives last summer. (Johnston was defeated by his Democratic opponent in the fall.) I know his remarks are old news, but I want to use them to illustrate a point. Here are Johnston's comments, which he posted in an online discussion: For almost three generations people, in some cases, have been given handouts. They have been ‘enabled’ so much that their paradi … [Read more...]


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