What If My Children Adopted My Parents’ Beliefs?

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Every so often, I get a comment like this on my blog: Dear Libby Anne,You state that you are an atheist. What would you do if one of your children choose the lifestyle your parents have---if he/she states that you are totally wrong in not believing in god? Would you support or accept his/ her choices? Would you feel betrayed in everything you taught them (e.g. critical thinking) because they don't think it to be the right way for them? What if he/she decides to leave the decision of family … [Read more...]

Different Choices—Not a Betrayal

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It happened again today. Someone from back home asked me if Sally and Bobby were going to be followed by eleven more siblings. There's an expectation some have people---even among church people not in conservative homeschooling circles---that I will follow among my parents' footsteps and have a dozen or so children. They assume it's what I want, even though I never told them I wanted that and I've been grown up and away from home for close to ten years now. And when I say it's not, they are … [Read more...]

Oh Noes! Little Kids Might Learn Gay People Exist!

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So, I recently came upon a Family Research Council video from 2008. Yes, it's a bit dated, but I watched it anyway. The entire thing was Tony Perkins talking with parents of two young elementary school students (one in kindergarten, one in second grade) whose teachers used age-appropriate materials to teach children about gay and lesbian individuals as part of coursework on diversity.Perkins talked about how "confusing" it is for young children to be introduced to "homosexuality," and … [Read more...]

Just Who Is Teaching Respect?

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I grew up in a (very) large Christian homeschooling family where children were expected to be "respectful." Or so I thought. Mainly this meant saying "yes sir" and "yes ma'am" and obeying your parents, and now I'm shaking my head at how shallow this is and everything it misses.A few weeks ago my two youngest brothers, still in elementary school, shamed my mid-twenties next-in-age sister for getting a tattoo. They verbally berated her and heckled here and generally sought to humiliate her. My … [Read more...]

Oh Mr. Gothard!

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As you probably noticed, my computer glitched and posted my weekly Friday post on Wednesday. Oops! If you haven't read that post, CTBHHM: The Question of Birth Control, feel free to do so now. For today, I'm going to turn to some of Bill Gothard's thoughts on procreation, drawing from his Advanced Seminar Textbook. Trust me, it's ever bit as good as Debi! What would we have lost if Jesse had had a smaller family? If Jesse had had one less child, David would not have been born. Jesse had eight s … [Read more...]

Taken for a Lesbian Couple

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"You two are adorable, and your children are beautiful," the nice-looking older woman told my friend Beth and I as she paused at our table. She then gave us a knowing smile and moved on."Did she think we were together, or did I imagine that?" Beth asked, turning to me."You definitely didn't imagine that," I replied with a bemused smile.Beth and I were at an outdoor concert that day, our collective four children in tow. We'd left our husbands at home to get some work done in peace, … [Read more...]

My Sister, Joy—and Me

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Regular readers are often curious about my younger siblings. Half of my siblings have come of age and left the nest, and the other half of them are still at home. Those who are grown have chosen a variety of different paths. Sometimes I've pitched in and helped a sibling out with leaving or getting started on their own, but the process has generally been fairly smooth, both because my siblings have been given a solid academic foundation and because my parents have not been vindictive.But I … [Read more...]


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