A Breadwinning Wife Loses Her Vulnerable, Submissive, Servant Spirit

In a recent issue of No Greater Joy, fundamentalist pastor and ministry leader Michael Pearl responded to a letter from a reader that read as follows: Recently, I have gone back to work full-time and my husband is at home with the kids and homeschooling them. My question is how can I still be a help meet in this situation? My husband is having health issues and thought it best for us to switch. He loves to cook and has been cooking. What are your thoughts on this situation? Michael's wife, … [Read more...]


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Michael Pearl to Domestic Abuse Victim: Suffer Silently

Last week this email was posted on the No Greater Joy blog: Dear Mrs. Pearl,I don’t want you to think I am dishonoring my husband. My heart is to lift him up and be a good wife. Something has happened over the last year that is scary. My husband has always been somewhat given to the flesh and occasionally angry, but now his anger is out of control. He often comes home from work mad---mad at me, the dog, the kids, the car, the guy next door… anything and anybody can bring on his rage. The kid … [Read more...]


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“The Upcoming Demographic Tsunami”

Many have derided a recent article on The Federalist in which Hans Feine argues that men and women can never (and should never) be "just friends" for its regressive ideas about gender, but few have focused on its scare tactics about demographics. Here's the relevant quote from the article: The latest numbers on American birth rates are in, and they yield only one reasonable conclusion: All of us need to start having more babies or else the upcoming demographic tsunami will consume our nation, cr … [Read more...]


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Why Aren’t Millennials Having Babies?

Sometimes it seems like the whole of American media has conspired to dump on Millennials. When I see my own generation responding to accusations of Millennial incompetence and general horribleness, the recession tends to take center stage, along with a changing economy. Consider the number of middle aged Trump supporters angry that the well-paying union jobs of the past are in decline. Millennials are affected by these same economic changes, and the recession---and they're frequently saddled … [Read more...]


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What Conservatives Get Wrong about the UN Convention on the Rights of the Child

The Home School Legal Defense Association has seized on rumors that Trump may withdraw the U.S. from a number of U.N. treaties. HSLDA argues that the United States should not be party to the Convention on the Elimination of all Forms of Discrimination Against Women (CEDAW), the Convention on the Rights of the Child (CRC), and the Convention on the Rights of Persons with Disabilities (CRPD). Why? These treaties tend to seek to solve problems by undermining parental authority and granting more po … [Read more...]


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This Is How It Happens

The "pro-family" lobby frequently uses the language of the "traditional family" to combat efforts to define the family more broadly, including both gay and lesbian couples and other family forms. When I point out that the "traditional family" was one in which things like domestic violence were tolerated and accepted, individuals who engage in this rhetoric are frequently askance---that's not what they mean, they insist. They mean the family form---man, woman, children---not … [Read more...]


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Approaching the Holidays with Trump-Supporting Relatives

If you're anything like me, you have a lot of relatives back home who voted for Trump. This could make the holidays very, very uncomfortable.I'm no stranger to uncomfortable holidays. A decade ago, when I was in college, my evangelical family tried to make me break off my relationship with my now-husband. That was one of the most horrific experiences of my life. These tensions haven't disappeared, either. I get heat for not spanking my children, for not homeschooling my children, and so … [Read more...]


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