What Conservatives Get Wrong about the UN Convention on the Rights of the Child

The Home School Legal Defense Association has seized on rumors that Trump may withdraw the U.S. from a number of U.N. treaties. HSLDA argues that the United States should not be party to the Convention on the Elimination of all Forms of Discrimination Against Women (CEDAW), the Convention on the Rights of the Child (CRC), and the Convention on the Rights of Persons with Disabilities (CRPD). Why? These treaties tend to seek to solve problems by undermining parental authority and granting more po … [Read more...]


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This Is How It Happens

The "pro-family" lobby frequently uses the language of the "traditional family" to combat efforts to define the family more broadly, including both gay and lesbian couples and other family forms. When I point out that the "traditional family" was one in which things like domestic violence were tolerated and accepted, individuals who engage in this rhetoric are frequently askance---that's not what they mean, they insist. They mean the family form---man, woman, children---not … [Read more...]


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Approaching the Holidays with Trump-Supporting Relatives

If you're anything like me, you have a lot of relatives back home who voted for Trump. This could make the holidays very, very uncomfortable.I'm no stranger to uncomfortable holidays. A decade ago, when I was in college, my evangelical family tried to make me break off my relationship with my now-husband. That was one of the most horrific experiences of my life. These tensions haven't disappeared, either. I get heat for not spanking my children, for not homeschooling my children, and so … [Read more...]


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No, Minecraft Does Not Have a “Sex Mod”

As I write, a new rumor is spreading across the mommy blogosphere, and thousands of mothers are starting to panic. Minecraft has a sex mod. You may think Minecraft is a safe, creative, healthy activity for your children, parents everywhere are being told, but it's not. Have a look at this piece by Amy Betters-Midtvedt on a parenting website: Take a minute to Google “Minecraft + sex mod.” I’ll wait.Did your brain explode? Because when I found out that this was a thing, not only did my brain e … [Read more...]


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Will Marriage Equality End Parental Rights? Part 2

Last spring I dissected an article by Melissa Moschella, a philosophy professor at Catholic University of America. Moschella contended that the Obergefell decision was a threat to parents' rights. In the piece I looked at, she asked to whom children belong. Moschella argued that Obergefell suggests that children belong to the state, rather than to the parents. I pointed out that there have long been a variety of family forms and that the state by necessity must decide whose guardianship of a … [Read more...]


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10 Kids Is Not in Fact Easier Than 2 Kids

I wrote last week about big families. In doing some research for that post, I came upon an article titled Top Ten Reasons to Have a Large Family, by Amy, a homeschool mom and the author of the Raising Arrows blog. I want to take a moment to address a few items from her list: #2 – 5 (or 6 or 10) is easier than 2. I often hear, “I can’t handle my two children, I don’t know how you do it.”  Honestly, I didn’t handle my two very well either.  I was exhausted, short-fused, and outnumbered.  But, they … [Read more...]


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Big Families and the Fine Print

I was reading the abstract of a 1986 article on declining SAT scores when a sentence brought me up short. "In particular, a large part of the recent SAT score decline was caused by the large families of the post-war baby boom." What? Why would large families contribute to falling SAT scores? I scanned the text.Large families, female-headed families and a less educated populace reduce SAT scores. There it was again! And further down:The three major contributors to the predicted … [Read more...]


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