Approaching the Holidays with Trump-Supporting Relatives

If you're anything like me, you have a lot of relatives back home who voted for Trump. This could make the holidays very, very uncomfortable.I'm no stranger to uncomfortable holidays. A decade ago, when I was in college, my evangelical family tried to make me break off my relationship with my now-husband. That was one of the most horrific experiences of my life. These tensions haven't disappeared, either. I get heat for not spanking my children, for not homeschooling my children, and so … [Read more...]


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No, Minecraft Does Not Have a “Sex Mod”

As I write, a new rumor is spreading across the mommy blogosphere, and thousands of mothers are starting to panic. Minecraft has a sex mod. You may think Minecraft is a safe, creative, healthy activity for your children, parents everywhere are being told, but it's not. Have a look at this piece by Amy Betters-Midtvedt on a parenting website: Take a minute to Google “Minecraft + sex mod.” I’ll wait.Did your brain explode? Because when I found out that this was a thing, not only did my brain e … [Read more...]


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Will Marriage Equality End Parental Rights? Part 2

Last spring I dissected an article by Melissa Moschella, a philosophy professor at Catholic University of America. Moschella contended that the Obergefell decision was a threat to parents' rights. In the piece I looked at, she asked to whom children belong. Moschella argued that Obergefell suggests that children belong to the state, rather than to the parents. I pointed out that there have long been a variety of family forms and that the state by necessity must decide whose guardianship of a … [Read more...]


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10 Kids Is Not in Fact Easier Than 2 Kids

I wrote last week about big families. In doing some research for that post, I came upon an article titled Top Ten Reasons to Have a Large Family, by Amy, a homeschool mom and the author of the Raising Arrows blog. I want to take a moment to address a few items from her list: #2 – 5 (or 6 or 10) is easier than 2. I often hear, “I can’t handle my two children, I don’t know how you do it.”  Honestly, I didn’t handle my two very well either.  I was exhausted, short-fused, and outnumbered.  But, they … [Read more...]


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Big Families and the Fine Print

I was reading the abstract of a 1986 article on declining SAT scores when a sentence brought me up short. "In particular, a large part of the recent SAT score decline was caused by the large families of the post-war baby boom." What? Why would large families contribute to falling SAT scores? I scanned the text.Large families, female-headed families and a less educated populace reduce SAT scores. There it was again! And further down:The three major contributors to the predicted … [Read more...]


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Why You Should Pay Zero Attention to the GreatSchools Rating System

I wrote yesterday about choosing a school in a segregated world. In response to some of the comments I received on that post, I want to take a moment to look more fully at school rating systems. While some states create their own school ratings (based on various factors), I've also seen many parents rely on the ratings available at the GreatSchools website, which bills itself as "the leading national nonprofit empowering parents to unlock educational opportunities for their child." While I will b … [Read more...]


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On Choosing a School in a Segregated World

School segregation did not disappear with the 1954 Brown v. Board of Education decision. In fact, by some measures American schools have become more segregated over the past few decades. As anyone who has looked at the problem knows, the root of this issue is residential segregation---as long as we have neighborhood schools, and as long as neighborhoods are highly segregated by race (and class, among other things), we will have segregated schools. Attempts to fix this problem via school busing … [Read more...]


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