Love Misapplied

I grew up hearing about Chris Jeub. He was a big name in NCFCA homeschool debate circles, and while I never met him I did use the evidence briefs he put out. The Jeubs had 16 kids and were deep into the patriarchal and controlling ideas at the heart of the most conservative strains of the Christian homeschooling movement. In fact, they kicked their daughter Alicia out of the family and shunned her completely when she became "rebellious." However, Chris says that he and his family have since left … [Read more...]


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“Breeders,” “Spawn,” and the Childfree

Last week I wrote about prejudice against children (which some scholars have termed "childism"). Many commenters focused on conservatives who believe in spanking children and see teenage rebellion as something to be eradicated, and I was indeed talking about this group. This wasn't the only group I was talking about, though. In response to commenters' focus on conservatives, reader Monala had this to say. To be fair, though, some of the worst childist comments I've heard have come from people … [Read more...]


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Freaking Out over Adolescent Rebellion . . . during WWII

I grew up hearing that young people today were especially sinful, rebellious, and hedonistic. I grew up hearing that young people were rejecting faith in God and turning to juvenile delinquency in larger numbers than in the past. I grew up hearing that as a result of parents turning away from corporal punishment, adolescents were wayward, drug addicted, and suicidal like never before. Then I learned in college about the 1960s and the Baby Boomers. I realized that this idea that adolescent … [Read more...]


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The Camping Trailer (and a Shunning)

It was a small popup camping trailer. I've having trouble describing it now because I'm having trouble remembering it. I was seven---or maybe eight. We were fairly new to homeschooling and my mom was still getting to know the other homeschool moms in our community. We were over to the Hulls' house for a visit. I don't remember how many kids they had, but it was a lot. There were two girls, and then a boy my age, and then three or or younger children. At the time, there were five kids in my own … [Read more...]


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Spanking Tears

I've written a lot about spanking in the past, but one thing that is difficult is that, for my family, it's not really the past. I am the oldest in a family of over a dozen; many of my siblings are still minors, living at home. My parents still spank. This can make visiting home painful. I keep trying to write about this but I'm having trouble doing it it in my normal fashion. So instead, I give you a series of vignettes---short scenes or conversations from recent visits … [Read more...]


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Kings, Queens, Spheres, and Kingdoms

I remember being over at a friend's house when her dad called to say he was on his way home. My friend's mom immediately went into motion: "The king is coming, the king is coming! Quick guys, clean up, make everything ready, the king is coming!" I also have memories of my mother saying that my father was the king, but she was the queen. Even Debi Pearl herself has used the king/queen husband/wife motif inCreated To Be His Help Meet.But a recent commenter drew attention to something … [Read more...]


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A Survey for Those Raised in Religious Homes!

I've written before about the serious methodological problems besetting essentially every study of homeschooling. Well, it's about to move way beyond that. Brian Ray, founder the agenda-ridden National Home Education Research Institute, is now expanding his repertoire with a study of all young adults who grew up in religious homes. Here's how he describes the survey (which you can take here): This is a survey of those between the ages of 18-38 years old that grew up in religious homes. Our goal … [Read more...]


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