On Shoveling Snow and How Patriarchy Hurts Men Too

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Today I did something I've never done before. I shoveled snow. No, I didn't grow up in the south. I grew up with snow. I just never shoveled it. My brothers did. Yes, I've been grown and gone and married for years now, but my husband and I live in an apartment where the handy men shovel the walks. And so, somehow, I've made it to my mid-twenties without shoveling snow.It is often said that patriarchy hurts men too, but I don't think this is emphasized nearly enough. My brothers were expected … [Read more...]

A Reflection on Celebrating Christmas as an Atheist

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Do you know what I realized this year? The way I celebrate Christmas with my family today is really very little different from the way I celebrated Christmas in my family of origin growing up. Given that I grew up in a devout evangelical family but that my husband and I are not religious, this at first seems rather odd. In the end, though, I think it simply highlights just how secular Christmas is for most Americans, even those who are religious.Growing up, Christmas meant music and cookies … [Read more...]

To Those Who Make the Magic, Here’s To You!

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I remember Christmas when I was a kid. The music, the cookies, the decorations, the gifts. We didn't do Santa, but it was still a very magical time. I remember how much I looked forward to Christmas. It always seemed like it would never come!And now, I'm the adult. Now, it's my job to create that magic for my own children. You know what no one told me when I was a kid? First of all, no one told me how much was involved in creating that magic. And second, no one told me that making that magic … [Read more...]

Balancing Fear, Love, and Family

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Visiting my parents' house is always strange. There are such happy memories around every corner, mixed in some weird way with memories of pain and heartbreak. And then there are my younger siblings, the majority of them still at home, still living the life I knew growing up. Others have grown and left home, but still return for the holidays.(There really should be a book on how relationships between siblings evolve from kid-kid relationships to adult-adult relationships. It's a fascinating … [Read more...]

What Thanksgiving Means To Me

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Thanksgiving is upon us. I have to say, fall is one of my most favorite times of the year - first Halloween, then Thanksgiving, and then Christmas, all right in a row. The decorations, the music, the food, the holiday spirit - I love it. Coming from a large family - and having a large extended family - only heightened the holiday cheer growing up, and today I help create that cheer for my own family. So I thought I'd take a moment to talk about Thanksgiving traditions and what Thanksgiving means … [Read more...]

Mitt Romney Doesn’t Get Women

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There's been lots and lots of talk about Romney's positions on women, especially his anecdote about seeking out "binders full of women" when appointing people to state positions as governor (which by the way turned out to be false).  Frankly, I don't have time to get into everything Romney has said about women, or his flip flopping and double talk about things like insurance coverage of contraception or whether he would work to outlaw abortion. And frankly, lots of other people out there are … [Read more...]

The kids, some stories, and life

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Sally and Bobby are growing apace. Sally is talking in full paragraphs (forget sentences!) and Bobby is starting to scoot himself around the floor. I consider myself lucky to be the mother of two such awesome kids. And so, I thought I'd treat you all to a bit of an update on them, and a few stories and antics as well.Sally is in preschool now. When I dropped her off this morning, she immediately jumped into a game of "hide and seek" with the rest of her class. She was hiding under the craft … [Read more...]


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