Our F*cked Up Politics of Healthcare


You want to hear something sad? Just the other day I read that starting August first, women will be guaranteed an annual wellness doctor visit without a copay. Last week at my post-baby doctor visit, my doctor wanted to schedule me for wellness visit in six months, just to make sure everything was fine, and I intentionally put her off, wary of the copay (especially with the upcoming prospect of having to pay for daycare for two children). So when I read about the new requirement, my immediate … [Read more...]

Airplanes and me; Or, what a BIG family means

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The other day I was talking to a friend about how much I would love to live on one of the coasts someday. I expressed some concern about the idea, though, because it would mean living so far away from all of our family, possibly even requiring numerous days of driving to come for a visit. "Why wouldn't you just fly?" my friend asked, confused. And I just looked at her. "Oh." See, growing up in a family with a dozen or more kids meant that flying was never an option, ever. But with only two kids, … [Read more...]

Dear Lisa: Let us offer you some hope


Lisa of broken daughters recently wrote a post in which she admitted that even though she is in a wonderful relationship with a wonderful young man, she is scared to death of marriage and can't picture herself married. Now, I don't think there is anything wrong with people choosing not to marry, and plenty make that choice. It's just that Lisa's reasons are as follows: "But I’m afraid of marriage. I’m afraid of what marriage is to me, what I have been taught marriage is. You see, I only know two … [Read more...]

Dear Mom: It Could Be Worse


Longtime reader Petticoat Philosopher just left the following comment on my post about brainwashing and fleshly lusts: Oh yes, Libby, you are such a wild woman–marrying your first boyfriend young and having children and all. Seriously, those fleshly lusts are driving you straight to destruction. The truth is, I'm not much of a rebel by most people's standards. Not a rebel at all, actually. I don't have piercings and I dress normally. I've never smoked, never been drunk, never broken the law. L … [Read more...]

Introducing Bobby!


Several of my readers noted that in a post I put up Friday I mentioned my infant son, and asked if they missed the announcement. No, they didn't -there hasn't been one. So, without further ado, here's the announcement:Bobby was born on schedule and without complications. He is absolutely adorable, and so far a very good baby. I am recovering well, and am enjoying no longer being pregnant. Sean couldn't be more helpful or involved, and is enjoying embarking on the adventure of parenting a … [Read more...]

Staying together “for the children”?

Growing up, I believed that divorce was wrong and completely out of the question. Marriage was for life. Period. When I eventually stopped seeing divorce as a sin, though, I still felt for a long time that even if a marriage wasn't working, if there were children involved the couple needed to stay together regardless. For the children, right? Over the last few years, though, my thinking on this has changed, and I want to take a moment to explain why.Let's imagine that we as a society outlaw … [Read more...]

The husband along for the ride

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When I did my readers survey, one reader asked the following question: You talk about feminism, but I don't recall you ever discussing sharing childcare with up your husband. Maybe you have and I missed it, but I come away with the impression that childcare is yours alone. Is there a story here? I think part of the answer is that my blog is about my journey, and that's what I explore in my parenting posts. But this reader is right - because of this my husband ends up being conspicuously … [Read more...]