Worthwhile Reads: Homemaking

Sierra of The Phoenix and Olive Branch has started a new series called "the Good, the Bad, and the Ugly" in which she will address "several aspects of evangelical-fundamentalist life that have good, bad and ugly sides." Her first segment, on homemaking, is now complete.Homemaking: The GoodHomemaking: The BadHomemaking: The Ugly … [Read more...]

Raised Quiverfull: Marriage

marriage fighting

In many ways, every Christian Patriarchy/Quiverfull couple has a different dynamic. What sort of a dynamic did your parents have? Was one more sold on the Christian Patriarchy/Quiverfull ideology than the other? Or, if you grew up in a broken family, how did this affect your experience? Joe: When Mama discovered patriarchy, my parents were already divorced.  My dad had attended an IBLP Basic seminar as a young college student.  He brought the materials home to his dad who promptly threw it a … [Read more...]

Raised Quiverfull: “Typical” and “Atypical”


In what ways was your family a “typical” Christian Patriarchy/Quiverfull family? In what ways was it “atypical”? Joe: We were “typical” insomuch as we attended a conservative church, made decisions only from the Bible, appeared completely normal on the outside, and claimed that our lives would be lived out as was set forth in all patriarchal/Quiverfull beliefs.  We believed doctors were beyond evil and everything could be cured with a clove of garlic or drinking apple cider vinegar. Our lives … [Read more...]

Marriage, Divorce, and the ROOT of a problem

It bugs me how often people address symptoms rather than getting to the root of the issue. For instance, the anti-abortion crowd tries to ban abortion even though the root cause is unplanned pregnancies and abortion is only a symptom. In reading through the comments on a post called Divorce and Custody on an evangelical Christian blog, I've realized that conservative evangelicals do the same exact thing with divorce. David D. Flowers says:My concern is for professing Christians involved in … [Read more...]

On Proselytizing and Relationships

In a recent post titled "Do I want my siblings to be atheists?" I explained why I don't proselytize to my siblings or friends. Some of the comments on that post, though, drew the (probably natural) assumption that this means that I don't challenge harmful beliefs held by others, or that if my children turn out to be theists I won't ever let them know that I disagree.I think you have to understand my background to understand the distinction I draw. I was raised an evangelical Christian. As … [Read more...]

Rhetoric Matters: On the Capture of “Family Values”

The Slactivist wrote recently about how conservative evangelicals have been working to an exclusive claim on the label "Christian," quoting from an article by Timothy Noah of The New Republic to make his point: A 78-percent majority of Americans is Christian. Only about a third of them self-identify as evangelical, which is a very rough proxy for the Christian conservative minority that increasingly insists on being called, simply, “Christian.” Such totum pro parte synecdoche de-legitimizes mai … [Read more...]

Worthwhile Reads: Emotional Incest

Inspired by my series on emotional incest a few weeks ago, Sierra of The Phoenix and the Olive Branch recently wrote three posts on the topic herself. By the way, I can't praise Sierra and her writing enough. I really can't. If you haven't perused her blog yourself, you should. Start with the three posts I just mentioned:Emotional Incest: The Junior WifeEmotional Incest: The Mama's Boy and the Other WifeEmotional Incest: The Bottom Line … [Read more...]