What the Ruff, the Spotted Hyena, and the Cuttlefish Taught Me about Gender and Sexuality


Evangelicals support a strict gender binary and see the patriarchal family structure---with a breadwinning father and a homemaking mother---as both natural and in some sense biologically universal. The Bible frequently talks about male and female animals, and, growing up in an evangelical home, I remember being taught that there is no homosexuality in the animal kingdom. That certain animals mate for life was also emphasized in an effort to enforce patriarchal norms.Now sure, I also learned … [Read more...]

On Being a Prodigal


Many of you have been following Alecia Faith Pennington's situation. You can read my other posts on her story here, but in sum, Alecia Faith released a youtube video explaining that she does not have a birth certificate and cannot prove her identity, and stating that her parents had refused to help her. Alecia Faith's mother, Lisa Pennington, a popular homeschooling blogger and speaker, responded by claiming that she and her husband have offered to help Alecia Faith. However, a perusal of Lisa's … [Read more...]

What I Love about My Feminist Husband


When I was a teen, my father told me it would take a special kind of man to make me submit. I was headstrong, you see. I was opinionated and bossy. I sometimes envied those quiet, demure girls to whom submission came naturally. That wasn't me.My father couldn't know, then, that the man I would ultimately marry wouldn't expect me to submit to him. I didn't know, then, that I would reject the entire idea of wifely submission before I walked down the aisle. My life changed a lot in the four … [Read more...]

The Pennington Point on Adult Children, Maturity, and Drivers Licenses


It appears Lisa of the Pennington Point has now taken her entire site down. As you may remember, Lisa began deleting posts on Wednesday after her daughter, Alecia Faith, went public with the message that her parents were preventing her from proving her identity. It seems Lisa has realized that her posts---especially those on parenting adult children---seem rather to corroborate Alecia Faith's story. Fortunately, we have urls and the wayback machine. To quote a friend of mine, "don't they know th … [Read more...]

The Pennington Point on Adult Kids Living at Home


I just stumbled upon a blog post Lisa Pennington wrote last August, a month before her daughter, Alecia Faith, left home. In this post, Lisa talks about how she handles having adult children living at home. Right now we have 4 adult kids living at home and 1 more graduated that’s just under the wire of official adulthood.This is a whole new level of parenting.  People say toddlers and teenagers are hard….we didn’t have big struggles with those ages.  But adults, that is a topic that needs so … [Read more...]

Today I’m Proud of Joshua Harris


So, have you heard the news? Joshua Harris is stepping down from his role of head pastor of Covenant Life Church and heading to Vancouver to attend seminary at Regent College. I don't know much about Regent, though the Washington Post described it as "mainstream." Not only that, but Josh is planning to send his kids to public school while he attends seminary. Public school. This is huge, and it's hard to describe how much it means to me.Josh Harris was the oldest child of Greg Harris, a w … [Read more...]

The Educational Inequality That Begins at Home


I recently came upon an article titled Teacher: I see the difference in educational privilege every day. I live it. I am disgusted by it. In it the author says this: Where there is money, there is education. Where there isn’t money, there is excessive testing, lack of curricular options, and struggle. There is the struggle to give students the tools they need to fight their way through a system that is designed to hold them back from the moment they take their first breath, from the moment they … [Read more...]