Grown Children and Estranged Parents


A recent headline caught my eye:Why Some Grown Kids Cut Off Their Parents Could their estrangement be caused by how we raised them?My immediate response was, wow, you think? Like, you abuse and mistreat your kids and then wonder why they don't want you in their lives when they grow up? Really? But as I read the article itself, I realized that this wasn't what the author meant. And as I read, I was increasingly horrified. The Rise Of Narcissism In The YoungParents tell stories of il … [Read more...]

Michael Farris’s Selective Interest in Protecting Children


In the most recent installment of my Anonymous Tip review series, social workers Donna and Rita forcibly strip-searched four-year-old Casey. In the comments, a reader pointed this out: The strip-search bit sounds (to me, anyway) awfully similar to a spanking. Child is pinned down against her will, clothing is removed against her will, child writhes and screams to no avail... Casey is probably surprised that after this, the social workers just let her go instead of whacking her with a wooden … [Read more...]

Does Atheist Parenting “Work”?


I recently came upon an interesting comment (screenname Angellius) on a scholarly post titled "Does Homeschooling Work." The post addressed whether homeschoolers with religious motivations are successful in producing religious children.You could put the question this way: A lot of atheist parents are highly concerned that God not be mentioned in school: No prayers, no overt professions of faith by teachers, no prayer meetings during school hours, etc. Is anybody asking, “Do atheist efforts … [Read more...]

#DefendTheDuggars (Sort of)


By Kathryn ElizabethOriginally posted on The Life and Opinions of Kathryn Elizabeth, PersonI’ve said it before on social media and I’ll say it again here. The mocking of Duggar children is not something I can get behind. Criticize the Duggar parents for what they’re doing to their children, criticize Jim Bob, Michelle, and Josh for their anti-LGBT activism, that’s fair game. Mocking the kids isn’t.Kids like the Duggars, who aren’t being given a real education (you don’t get a real edu … [Read more...]

Where This Atheist Parent Is This Christmas

Nativity Set

Last year my in-laws gave us a really nice toy nativity set, for the kids. This year I got it out again, and it has been getting a lot of use.When I first had children after leaving my parents' conservative evangelical beliefs behind, I was afraid. Mainly, I was afraid that my children would be hurt by religion in the way I had. And so I tried to shield them from it, to keep it away from them. When relatives gave us a book about Noah's Ark, I changed the words and the story when reading it … [Read more...]

Memories of My Father


Some of my readers have noticed that I rarely refer to being spanked by my father. To be honest, I actually cannot definitively remember being spanked by my father. As I've written before, my father and I were very close up to the point where my beliefs diverged from his. I was his golden girl, is special firstborn daughter. But he had this idea of what I was supposed to be like so firmly in his mind he couldn't handle it when I started diverging from that. At some point during my college years … [Read more...]

When Unassisted Home Births Go Wrong

home birth

I am not opposed to home birth, but I am absolutely opposed to unassisted home births. I recently came upon an article full of screenshots from unassisted home birth forums, and what I saw didn't exactly reassure me. But this wasn't my first introduction to unassisted home births.Around a year ago I read an article by a woman who described going into labor completely alone while her children slept. She wrote about how empowering it was as a woman to birth her child completely and totally … [Read more...]